IFE JOURNEY MASTER TOOLS FOR HAPPINESS (BẢN TIẾNG ANH)

Bùi Hữu Giao người trao cuốn sách Hành Trang Vào Đời cho thanh niên.

Sinh năm 1934  ở thành phố Ninh Bình.

Năm 1953, sau khi học xong Trung học (9/9) gia nhập Quân đội

!954 tham gia chiến dịch Điện Biên Phủ. Năm 1960 tốt nghiệp ĐHSP

Khoa Lý-Toán, trở về quân đội, dạy học văn hóa.Năm 1965 làm chính trị

viên đại đôi cao xạ pháo chiến đấu ở Khu 4. 1958, Biên tập viên báo

Quân Đội Nhân Dân.1976 Phó Hiệu trưởng Trung học Sư phạm tỉnh

Sông Bé.1987, nghỉ hưu, bắt đầu viết Hành Trang Vào Đời.

Bùi Hữu Giao là người từng trãi,là lính chiến, là nhà giáo, nhà

báo,đã giành gần trọn cuộc đời mình đi tìm cho thanh niên một hành

trang vào đời .

Tác phẩm “Hành Trang Đời Người” là kiến thức, nhiều thông tin

mà lại chứa đựng nhiều giá trị minh triết. Nhưng trên hết là tâm huyết

của một người cả đời đau đáu về một ý nghĩ, khi ta chết đi sẽ để lại cho

đơi cái gì.Ông đã giành hơn nửa thế kỷ để đi tìm điều đó.Tìm tronh sách

vở ,cổ kim, Đông Tây,trong lý giải của biết bao học giả hiền triết. Lục

tìm chính cả trong chiêm nghiệm và từng trãi của mình, để viết nên

cuốn sách bổ ích và cần thiết,trao một hành trang quý giá cho bất cứ ai

sẽ và đã vào đời cần trả lời những câu hỏi thiết thân.Làm sao để trở

thành người khôn ngoan ?Làm sao để trở thành người khỏe mạnh

cả về thân xác và tinh thần, đạo đức?Làm sao để trở thành người có tài

năng, thành công trong sự nghiệp?Làm sao để trở thành một người

hạnh phúc...Vì thế nó cần cho tuổi trẻ, cần cả cho những người đã

“lớn”.Nó cần cho từng gia đình như một quyển gia huấn mà tác giả

mong ước.

Tác phẩm đã được biên tập, sữa chửa, bổ sung qua 11 lần tái bản,

đã được in và phát hành bốn vạn chín nghìn bản(49.000,00)Bản sau

cùng được tác giả coi như đã hoàn chỉnh, đang được một giáo sư tiến sĩ

sống ở Mỹ dich ra tiếng Anh để phát hành.Tác giả đang cọng tác với các

Hội Khuyến hoc thực hiện Chương trình 1.000.000,00 cho tuổi trẻ cả

nước.

Tác giả tâm niệm “Cuốn sách này không dạy đời, không dạy bạn

cái gì hết. Nó chỉ gợi ý cho bạn trẻ suy nghĩ đến những vấn đề cần

chuẩn bị trước lúc vào đời, giúp cho mọi người đi trên đường đời hạnh

phúc hơn, thanh thản hơn mà cũng gợi ý cho bạn già sống thế nào cho

đẹp trong những năm cuối đời.”

 

BÙI HỮU GIAO

LIFE JOURNEY MASTER TOOLS

FOR HAPPINESS

Bui Huu Giao

Educator and Writer

LIFE JOURNEY MASTER TOOLS FOR HAPPINESS

A 60-Year Life Experiment for SUCCESS

Physically

Materially

Spiritually Preferably Happiness

The underlying philosophy of life planning, personal growth and development techniques of:

Values clarification,

Strengths identification,

Goal setting and

Action planning.

11^THEdition

A newly revised edition with updated data Hong Duc Publisher

There are three most significant ignorance in life:

Being ignorant for not knowing what we need to know,

Being ignorant for knowing incorrectly what we know,

Being ignorant for knowing what we do not need to know.

La Rochefoucauld (French Duke and Poet 1613 -1680)

There are three basic differences between a wise person and a fool:

A wise person loves to work while a fool likes to fool around.

A wise person is opened-minded while a fool is stubborn.

A wise person keens to learn while a fool loves to teach others.

PREFACE

 

   "Life Journey Master Tools” was first published in 2000 and the 2016 edition is the eleventh one. Mr. Bui Huu Giao has spent most of his life time to do research, read and put his entire personal life experience into the book.

He was born in 1934 in Hoa Lu - Ninh Binh, the ancient capital of Vietnam. In 1954, he joined the army and participated in the historic battle of Dien Bien Phu. After the war, he studied at Hanoi National University of Education. After graduation in 1960, instead of pursuing his career in education, he re-joined the army and became a political officer of the anti-aircraft infantry of Vietnam’s Army. He fought over 100 battles on HoChiMinh Trail. After Tet Offensive in Lunar New Year of 1968, he went to the North to become an editor of the People’s Army Newspaper.

After the Fall of Saigon, April 30, 1975, Mr. Bui started a new career in education and served as vice principal of Song Be Pedagogical High School. Since 1987 after his retirement, he has lived in Thu Dau Mot Town - Binh Duong Province and spent all of his time in writing books.

"Life Journey Master Tools” is a valuable and precious book not only for young people who are about to enter life but also important for parents and grandparents to teach younger generation. It’s really a handbook with Master Tools for life.

It took to write such an invaluable book; Mr. Bui had conceived his ’spiritual brainchild for 59 years. Most problems and questions have been centered to these two major subjects:

 1.  What makes a person happy and 2. How to attain more happiness?

To find answers for the 2 subjects, also the content of this book, he has spent lots of time, even 20 years to find an answer for a single question. And many of them could not be found from books but from experiences of so many great men and from his own life experience. His writing style is neither an “academic” nor “indoctrinative”. It is rather simple, persuasive and easy for everyone to understand.

Mr. Dao Quang Tien, a former faculty of Hanoi Conservatory, once made this remark: “The completion of his Life Journey Master Tools has made Bui Huu Giao a rare phenomenon in Vietnam literature, for two reasons: Firstly, this is a true manual for life that everyone, young or old, rich or poor, intellect or uneducated, can use for a better life and a true happiness. Secondly, with his little retirement pension of less than $300 a month, he has carried out his plan to donate one million copies of his book to young people in Vietnam through Vietnam Association for Promoting Education with the costs of more than 20 billion VND (equivalent to $100,000US). With his will power, Mr. Bui Huu Giao has made the impossibility to most people.”

KHÚC NGA

In summer 2001, Son Tung, the one of the best-known writers of Vietnam made this comments: "This book should not be read only 1-2-3 times. It is not only for young ages preparing to enter life, but for everyone who is still living to read and read until leaving this world..."

Similar comments have been made by educational experts, professors as well as high school students of their great feeling for such an invaluable gift.

KHUC NGA

Former Editor-in-Chief, Today’s Women Newspaper (9-2014)

FOREWORD

This book was initially regarded as a “Parents’ Teaching Guide” for the author to teach his own children.

It was a collection of tools and self-taught guide for him. As a parent, he wanted to know more learn more of essential things in life that were not taught in schools or found in other sources. To become a good teacher, the author wanted to be a good students and a true practitioner.

The book’s basic contents can be summarized in 3 elements. From traditional Vietnamese parenting philosophy, however, there were only 2 elements taught: Raising healthy children and Teaching smart children. There is ONE missing element, that is: WISDOM.

We need a complete set of 3 elements: HEALTHY, SMART and WISE to make a tripod, with 3 strong and sustainable legs. Missing one of them will definitely make a child a family’s misfortune: a family with a sick child, a dump kid or a fool. These will also be a society’s misfortune

There are many different ways children can learn from: schools, books, and friends .. however, the most effective way to learn WISDOM is from family that has its whole-hearted interest. As the author could not find any good books available on the subject matter, he tried to write his own book.

Nguyen Hien Le, Vietnam’s best-known scholar, once made this famous statement: "If you want to learn about something, write about it yourself." Nguyen Hien Le had wanted to learn about “the I-Ching Book of Changes”, he then himself wrote about it.

For the author, he wrote a book on WISDOM to learn and then to teach his children. After 20 years of doing research on this subject (1968-1988), he put what he learned into practice. He began to teach his youngest daughter Viet Ha, born in 1984, a first grader at six years old. One day at school, after having listened to a slogan from her school public radio that: "Children are to be taught to stay healthy and be smart'', his six years old daughter made her surprised comment that: "Teaching children to be obedient without being wise is not good enough." Two weeks later, after hearing the author criticized a person for “not correcting his mistake”, the little girl then said: "A person who does not correct his own mistakes is rally not a wise one."

Most schools in the world from any level, only provide students with general knowledge. However, they have never had a blue-print and tools to to build their “castle of happiness”. In this book, with his own personal life experience, the author provides the youth a clear road map, comprehensive blueprint with master tools to build a solid foundation for their happiness castles.

It is obvious that beauty is for eye-catching and wisdom is for better-living. The entire contents of this book are to focus on the concept of “WISDOM”. And the most precious value of this book is six criteria for a wise man.

Whatever we plant is what we will reap. What are we sowing? The harvest of our tomorrow and future depends on the seeds we sow today. If we do gold mining, we will get gold; if we do rock mining, we will get rock. So, if we sow WISDOM we will reap WISDOM. The Bible says: "Wisdom is thousands time more specious than gems."

The author has considered his book as a mine of wisdom where he tried to sow for his own children and future generation. Be very careful of the seeds we sow.

Uncle Ho once said: "A nation with full of ignorant people is a weak nation." The national plague of illiteracy in the 21st century must be different from that in the 20th century. If we cannot accurately find answers for the question that: "What are the problems of a nation’s illiteracy in this era, and who cause them?” then there will be no country in the world can solve them. The author of this book has found answers for the questions after more than fifty years of studying the issue.

A plain truth is that "“Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A Vietnamese proverb said: "it is merely the mistake of the parents who mislead their kids". Parents raised their child, teaching them right from wrong, so they are morally responsible. Parents are the "leaders" of their child. Parents should watch over their children and teach them how life works. If they don’t teach well, their children might just ignore their parents, but it’s up to the parent to correct that behavior and help them be wise.

And a wise son is much better than a foolish son and only a stupid person gives honour to a fool. Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding

Wisdom is a fountain of life to the wise. This book contains knowledge and good advice parents can learn and teach children from home. Homes are built on the foundation of wisdom and understanding. Where there is knowledge, the rooms are furnished with valuable, beautiful things.

An old Proverb said: "Being a servant of a wise would be much better than being a teacher of a fool". Let’s ask ourselves: "How hard it is trying to educate stupid people, and how miserable it is being a servant, child, grandchild, and student of a stupid person?

Wise sayings are too deep for stupid people to understand. They have nothing to say when important matters are being discussed. Intelligent people are always eager and ready to learn and a fool does not care whether he understands a thing or not; all he wants to do is show how smart he is. A fool does not care whether he understands a thing or not; all he wants to do is show how smart he is. Intelligent people are always eager and ready to learn to be wise. Thus, we can be sure that wisdom is good for the soul. Get wisdom and the children will have a bright future.

Thus, it seems that we should be sure Vietnam and other countries in the world would create "home schools for wisdom" to help children become wise.

“Whatever you desire, you can achieve" (Vouloir c’est pouvoir), a French famous proverb emphasizes on the word “desire”. The first key for success is a desire: desire to become a billionaire, an expert in the field, desire to contribute to the nation’s wealth, to do things others cannot do ... However, we cannot get anywhere if we just visualize it and feel it? We also need to “believe”. If you don’t believe you can achieve something, then your negative thoughts will make sure you don’t achieve it. Furthermore, according to Joseph Ernest Renan, a French philosopher and historian, we need knowledge, because "Knowledge is power" (Savoir c’est pouvoir). Knowledge comes from education and learning one needs to acquire. Learning is a part of life and knowledge is power and the fundamental precondition for success and hapiness. (See Appendix I).

There are countries in the world opening schools to teach future leaders for children as early as 5 years old: Russia since 2000, Thailand 1996) and The US since 1876. Our own families can also be home-schooling to serve the same purposes. In order to carry out such an ambitious task, older generation in the family must “raise a vision and set a goal as high as Mount Everest” as Ben Carson has stated (See Page 98) and the elders must learn know how to fully use and develop their children’s brains as to B. Shaw’s style (See page 27).

Human wisdom can be considered as a giant elephant. How to can we eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The author first tried to pack the —giant elephant - human wisdom” he knew and leaned into his very first edition with over 2,000 pages of information. This book was regarded a barrel of concentrated syrup that is nutritious but hard to swallow. The author then helped dilute by simplifying it into 300-page book in this 11^th version.

In our busy world, the importance of speaking the truth has never been more meaningful even though it will definitely cause resistance and hatred.

In our busy world, the importance of speaking the truth has never been more meaningful even though it will definitely “causes resistance and hatred” as Pascal once said. In this book, the author tried to tell 100% truth of what has learned and lived. His sole purpose was to prevent future generation from making the same mistakes he had made and help them become better listeners and learn. MAXIM GORKY said: "I want you to doubt me in the first time and later believe me for sure, not vise versa". The author also wanted his readers to treat him the same way.

A Western scholar when researching the book « Tao Teh Ching » (Morals Scripture) of Lao Tzu, had said: "The important thing is not what the book teaches us but the problem it reminds us to think ». This book does not teach you anything. It only makes sense for young people to think about the issues they should prepare before launching out the sea of life. In addition, it helps people have a happier life journey and prepare for a life after death which is more beautiful and peaceful. It also suggests old people to live happier through out the last part of their life.

The author has developed his own life’s philosophy since 1955. He believed there were something in life more valuable material things and he planed, by the end of his life, he would leave this book as reference source, a master tool manual for success and happiness for present and future generation

Everything written here was drawn from the author’s own life experience and his ongoing process of refinement.

The author often told his children: "Do as I say and also follow as I do". As parents we must set good examples to their own children. It would be frightening if someone gives you good advice with a terrible example. Therefore, the author wants to demonstrate to his readers some of his own works as an evidence for his children to see what their elders has done.

A person’s life purpose is to make his life, his family and his children to be happier. However, the well-being of children is more important to adults than just about anything else. This book is to provide valuable tools not only for older generation but also for young people so as a reference book. It is to help children build lasting happiness habits. Because happier kids are more likely to turn into successful, accomplished adults and happier Parents.

Good luck to you!

Bui Huu Giao

      Ha Noi, July 27^th, 2013

WHY AM I DOING RESEARCH ON HAPPINESS?

 

As in —NEWTON’S APPLE” story, the young Isaac Newton was sitting in his garden when an apple fell on his head and, in a stroke of brilliant insight, he suddenly came up with his theory of gravity. To me, back in 1968, when having observed people around me, a suddend question had gone thru my mind on how to help a person happier.

I then begun to look for answers. After 45 years of doing research and self practicing, I have found fundamental tools for happiness and then refined, not an end result. I don’t ever expect to find a final answer, just increasingly better ones in my first 7 editions. In the 8^th edition, the book was then reconstructed in a new style which was clearer and easier to understand, but I am always open to new understandings

So far, when searching for their happiness, people has tended to use their parents or happy families around them as a sample of their own happiness. There is no set standard to be considered as a model for the whole society.

Happiness for each person or each family consists of many contents such as a castle with multiple rooms. Those who complete their contents will have as a castle full of spacious and beautiful rooms with the most perfect happiness. From the 8^th edition, we introduced a model which is considered as a complete one. This consists of 3 basic requirements for building a castle of happiness:

-. A foundation

- A design

- A construction method.

In addition, the book also provides some appendices to enhance your knowledge and some articles reflected the readers’ opinions to broaden the public sight of this book.

Part I

HAPPINESS

(Theology)

Life itself is happiness. Life is not just to live but to live a happy and meaningful life.

FOREWORD:

Why do we have to learn about happiness?

"Do you find it strange that everyone desires happiness but does not know where to start? We were born then we started learning. We have studied literature, math and many other subjects, but never learned about happiness ".

(A. Mathew).

 

The purpose of life is to create happiness for ourselves, our own families and future generation. In order to build solid castle of happiness for our families, we have to learn and to acquire enough knowledge on how to build, enjoy and protect our happiness. Not being able to learn about HAPPINESS is illiterate and it is dangerous. No matter what you do, you cannot beg from anyone for even a little happiness. We can only have happiness when we have a good understanding and the ability to turn your understanding into practical actions.

(A. Toffler).

"Today, young people preparing for their life journey, spend too much of their youth’s time to learn the thing they never use for all of their lives. But what they need to learn for life, no one teaches them".

(A. Toffler).

This book takes an active part in helping the young generation to learn the knowledge they need for life which isn’t taught at school. Before building the castle of happiness, they have to learn three basic elements:

A: The foundation

B: The design

C: Construction methods of a castle of happiness

In order to achieve good results, we ought to perform these 4 things: Learning, Asking, Understanding and Applying. Learning means we have to learn enough and correctly, think deeply to Ask good questions for intimate Understanding what we have learned. Finally, you Apply what is necessary to ensure that we will be able to build solid castle of happiness for our families.

A. FOUNDATION OF A CASTLE OF HAPPINESS

6 supplementary elements and 6 life backpacks are included Firstly, let’s have an accurate perception about 6 supplementary elements.

A I. CONTENTS OF SUPPLEMENTARY ELEMENTS

A.1.1. The first supplementary element:

THE THREE MAJOR THINGS IN PEOPLE’S LIVES

A.1.1.1 The Three basic elements a person’s life: A good Job, a happy marriage and a good home.

Most of people have to prepare to acquire these three basic things when entering their adult lives. How can we live without a job? Without a family where we can build and enjoy happiness? Or without a home to enjoy family life? From primitive times, people used to

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live in caves. Later they wanted to move out to live in more convenient places such as plains, riversides, coastal or urban areas ... then people had to build houses. The more civilized society is, the more modern, expensive homes are, so that people can live comfortably.

The detailed contents of those big three can be found in Part 2 of the application (page 221)

A.1.1.2. Three biggest things in life: A purpose, a career and a place called home:

Here are the three great things of entire life that each person has to strive hard to complete them. Those who have prepared six basic elements properly and six preparations prior to life, will reach the peak of their careers and home. However, the most important thing of a person’s life is living purpose that almost everyone failed to recognize. We must be able to figure out our own lives’ purposes.

a.  What is your life’s purpose?

It’s the lifetime goal that we have to spend our entire life to strive for it. A person who doesn’t have a living purpose is similar to a ship without a rudder or a captain in a ship without a compass, wondering where to lead the ship to. A wrong ideal is much more dangerous, however. Goethe said: "The most important thing in life is having a great goal and determination to achieve it." "Without purposes, you cannot do anything. And you cannot do anything great with trivial purposes"(Diderot). "Lofty goals, whether you can achieve or not, will make your life greater" (R. Browning).

In this era of market economy, some people take money as their life’s purpose where they try to make money as much as they can. They say: “Money makes the mares go”. But no one can buy health, longevity or wisdom, conscience and honor for himself and his children, buy a good child, buy happiness... There was an old saying: "The rich who are stupid, but when they become richer they will be more stupid".

Many people have chosen good food, high position, luxurious automobiles, big houses, beautiful wives with smart children... as their lives’ purpose. They are so wrong. Goethe said: "The criteria for evaluating a person is his aspiration to the perfection". In order to become a perfect person, we have to keep in mind these four following criteria:

a1. How to develop a balanced and harmonious body and soul?

Body and soul exist together like your eyes, two arms, two legs, we cannot let them develop independently. Can a smart person with a sick body be happy and considered as successful? What can a person with an excellent athletic skill but so much stupidity does? What he can do in this life? Yet there are many people in our society who only care about their body and have little or no desire to care for the souls of their children and themselves.

Many people spend a lot of money for their weddings, birthday parties for their children but do not know how to invest time, effort, money and brainpower to adequately care for the soul. It is a sad fact that there are people who do not know the word “soul” through their whole life. (Refer to Annex II.).

a2. How to Create and Enjoy Happiness

A person who does not know how to create happiness for him/herself is considered as stupid. So is the one who hold happiness in his/her hands without knowing how to enjoy it. Self-devastating one’s happiness is stupid. By observing people around us, we can find out that many people are not happy because they do not know how to create their own happiness. There are people that even when we bring happiness to them, they do not know how to enjoy it. Moreover, some even blame us when we bring happiness to them without imposing any equipment.

Sometimes the nature and the society around us, at the same time, grant us happiness, but we still do not know how to enjoy it.

Creating happiness is hard, enjoying happiness is even harder. One must have a BROAD KNOWLEDGE and PURE SOUL to be able to enjoy all the happiness in the world (refer to the third appendix. P. 301).

a3. How to IMPROVE, PRACTICE, and USE YOUR BRAINPOWER most effectively:

Intelligence always has its tremendous value in any period of time. The brain is always the invaluable things for each person, especially in this era of intellectual civilization, so it is unfavorable

to the one who does not pay proper attention to it in any stages of his life. When our brains (and our children’s) are well formed and nourished, it will have power to work well. Our brains that "generate" lots of great ideas and creative thinking, will help us make the right choice and build a good foundation to create more happiness for ourselves.

 a4. How to LIVE MEANINGFULLY:

"Being born is rather simple, but knowing how to live in this world is very difficult" (Pixarép). "We should live the way that makes even the grave digger mourn for our death" (M. Twain). Do not live like a weed floating on the river stream.

It can be said that this is four purposes are the life destiny of every young people in every country, every political system and every era.

            b. What is a career?

Ho Xuan Huong once said:

—If only this body can be transformed into male The career would be more heroic than anyone else”.

Uncle Ho wrote:

—Desire to create great career

Your spirit should be greater”.

The career of a person is the achievements one makes during his life, the heritage left to the society and his future generation. One must be able to "build a REPUTATION, a CAREER and to fulfill his WORDS throughout one’s life". Building a reputation is to make his own name known so that when his name is mentioned, people immediately think of the achievement he has made in his life. Building a CAREER is to have a stable job to earn enough money to live and to have a place to stay. There is an old Chinese maxim: "At the age of thirty, a young person should have a job to earn his living, have a family and a house to stay”. To fulfill his WORDS is to leave an immortal works, a statement, a book ... for life.

Having a JOB and a Career can either be overlapping or non-overlapping. Many people make use of their JOB to create their CAREER such as teachers, doctors, artists, scientists, craftsmen, politicians or military leaders ... The combination of these three tasks will make a career of a person’s life.

To have a good career, one must have a lofty life’s purpose along with a right living philosophy and to strive hard to implement these two things.

c. A home: We should be able to have a good home for the family, for our children to create and enjoy our happiness

Someone said: "It’s frightening to have to live with the old but immature people". The old but immature person fails to continue after completing their first three things in their life: job, marriage, house,) without striving to fulfill the big three things in life: living purpose, career and home.

A.1.2. The second element

FINDING an appropriate life’s philosophy

Those who desire to live healthily, happily and meaningfully are to find their own life’s perception, a lifestyle and a right living philosophy.

In today’s society, there exists different philosophy of life.

Some people choose a fast-pace living: They rush to enjoy all pleasures in life. They often have this phylosophy:

For those who still have both parents, let eat and enjoy life when you can.

They keep on dissipating without thinking of their future and their fate. They do not know that "Every hour lost when you are still young is a miserable sign of loss of happiness in one’s future" (Napoleon).

-       Some people choose a “keeping up with the jones” lifestyle: They are trying to have the same thing as people around them possess. They ask their parents for money or even borrow money to catch up with their peers. Even in drinking, if their friends drink 10 cans of beer, they will try to beat them by taking 11 cans to show they’re better.

-  Some people choose a practical lifestyle: They try to grab anything within their reach, regardless of ethic or moral. They should have learned the old saying that “What you earn should kept inside the house, What you made from gambling kept in the yard, and Quick money should be kept out"

-  Some people choose a lifestyle that favor money:” money is above all”. They try to make money regardless of morality. They follow the motto: "whether you are alive or dead, all I care if my pocket is full." To them, the more money they have the better they become. So, conscience or honor or anything else is meaningless to them. They fail to learn that "Those who look at their life through the hole of a coin are not worth a dime."

-  Some people live by this motto: “Sacrificing one generation for the future generation”. They are trying to grab money from everywhere at the risk of being put in prison, as long as their children will have money. What a stupid lifestyle!

-  Some people consider themselves a center of the universe. Other people should serve them for their enjoyment and desire. These are spoiled and rich kids from families that do not know how to teach their children properly. What a pity!

Some people choose to —follow the crowd”. They try to do the same thing as the majority of people do. They do not care whether it is right or wrong. They do not know: "A truth, in spite of being against by the society, is still the truth; a mistake, whether it is the supported by the whole society, is still a mistake" (Gandhi).

-  Some choose to live ethically despite of poverty and disability: they insist on keeping their full faith to their children, keeping their conscience clean and calm for themselves, avoiding doing wrongful deed and shaming with their conscience. Those people are very precious.

-  Some people follow Lao Tzu’s philosophy: “mind our own business, a no-challenging state of mind”; and follow Nguyen Binh Khiem’s lifestyle philosophy: “I’d rather live in a quiet place than crowded one".

-  Some follow Confucius’s teaching: “If our country is in disarray, our home must be kept in order; if home is in a chaos, we must keep ourselves stable; others follow different noble cause: “Not being proud of your clothing but your own brain”.

-  Spending a lifetime to think, to learn about human viewpoint, life ethic and living philosophy, I particularly enjoy the motto of the hero Matrosov, posted on People’s Army newspaper in August-1955 (Matrosov, a Soviet troop’s hero who used his body to close a canon’s head in the Patriotic War). I have been trying to implement his philosophy. Now in looking back, I find out that I have accomplished a lot (and completing this book is one of them) by using his philosophy.

The content of this philosophy of life is as follows:

1.   You have to live the way that others will be benefitd from your existence. You must live under your conscience’s guidance because conscience is the eyes of the people.

       2. For yourself:

+ Keen to learn to widen your knowledge as well as to serve others.

+ Never satisfy with yourself and find yourself in need to growth further.

       3. For friends:

+ Not to envy or domineer anyone.

+ Always think: how to make others become better humanbeing.

       4. A heroic action is faithfully serving the interests of the country and the people.

Journalist, writer Maurice Tieche wrote: "Nothing is better than a good personality when entering life. No resources can benefit people than a good personality”. With a biased preconception, I had suspected this question for two years. When understanding this truth, I look back at the cause of every success in my life, I then found I was very fortunate. Even in my catastrophes, I always found effective solutions for dealing them. All of it came from a good character and it bears nearly the same meaning to the above philosophy of life.

Mother Teresa, Princess Diana have been loved by millions or even billions of people mourning to their death, due to their good characters, their total dedication to help miserable and poor people. Mahatma Gandhi is considered as god by Indians (As Buddha Shakyamuni) so his death was memorized by UN’s furled flag and three and a half million people having attended his god-becoming cremation ceremony, the world mourned for Gandhi who was a friend of the poorest and isolated people. Gandhi also knew how to love, forgive and help his enemies - including those who wanted his head hanged on a tree. Oh! How wonderful good character, good personality is!

Dear young friends, if you do not hate anyone, do not domineer others; you always have good thoughts of others; always pray for people’s goodness, progression; you always think the heroic actions, serve faithfully the interests of the nation and the people; you always take care of implementing the sentence: “That a person lives for helping others to live more and more beautifully"; you always study passionately; when you really want to benefit others ... I am sure that your life will be filled with happiness and success - and when you die, even the grave diggers also feel sad for you. Just trying this type of lifestyle for a few years or a few months, or even just a few weeks, you will see clearly its positive effect. The longer you plant virtuous trees, the more fruits you and your descendants will get.

A.1.3. The third element

TRUELY UNDERSTAND AND APPLY THIS MOTO:

—NEITHER CLEVERNESS NOR STUPIDITY CAN SURVIVE EXCEPT WISDOM”.

A wise man will never die except being crafty cuteness, cunning mind and being outsmart in an insidious way. "Only stupid person wants to have a wily mind" (La Rochefoucauld), "Only those who refuse the cunning smart can be fully mature" (Chuang Tzu). In conclution, stupidity and crafty cuteness, cunning mind are harmful. What is the right way to live? Do not think that you just have knowledge about it then you can survive.

Those who want to have a healthy, good and happy life must understand this important element that is to create their great opportunities and fully take advantage of them. In other words, we will be able to live better, happier if you truly know the right and indispensable knowledge. Pasteur said: "The opportunity will only come for those who are well prepared." Haven’t you prepared yet and what you should prepare?

After having read A. Maurois, Nguyen Hien Le wrote: “Opportunities occur every day in our life. They happen to you, to me and to everyone. However, not everyone knows their value to seize, to take advantage and to benefit humanity. We must be knowledgeable and wise to see things that no one else sees and come up with the idea that no one ever thought of, be patient, try and try over and over again every day, every year, every decade. Sometimes you should meet those who believe in you, dedicate to helping you. In summary, you must meet four conditions: luck, talent, patience and ability to spot a suitable opportunity to do the great things" (Nguyen Hien Le’s “Setting an Example of Patience”, LONG AN publisher, 1989, page 32).

The opportunity is the same as a wandering god who goes around the world to deliver blessings for the miserable. He often goes by your door and my door. Sometimes we sat there waiting all day without seeing him, then when we just turned your back as he passed by. Therefore, we don’t see him, we miss the opportunity. Meeting him is important, but the much more important thing is when we invite him to our house, whether or not he will come in; then he gets into the house, whether or not he give us gold, silver, treasure or snake, scorpion and even death. Therefore, we wonder how to meet him, to invite him to our house and to receive gifts from him?

In many fairy tales inVietnam and all over the world, there are stories showing that god may give someone treasure and give death to others. We reap what we sow. Those who do good work during his whole life will get a fortune. Those who learn a lifetime with passion will “have full knowledge". Those who think constantly, know the right way of thinking, and have creative thinking, always seek the truth, know how to mold themselves as well, they will soon meet the god, will receive treasure from him.

In the contrary, those who always do immoral deeds, think bad about others, draw many evil demons to harm other human being, people, country, will create devil in their family. Though god does not give them snake instead, the devils in their house will harm their own family. Scourges delivered from god can be avoided but their self-created scourge cannot be escaped. It is true that "we cannot escape from our fate". As the proverb goes: " The sins of the fathers will be visited upon the children" is absolutely right, but in a broad meaning, it’s only right in some cases. Because those who eat salty food will be thirsty immediately, no later. We reap what we sow; doing devil things is itself inviting evil to his home.

How sad it is when a runner surpasses every competitor but fall down at the final phase to destination? I myself experienced this thing. In the last year of my senior high school, only one month before graduation, I was one of the best students in class but I had to quit school because of my family’s serious financial problem. At that time, there was a "fairy" of my life appeared and gave me a bowl of rice soup that help me continue on the last 100m on the 12km of my journey. The "fairy" is Ms. Tran Thi Thu (born in 1917) now lives in Dai Yen, Ba Dinh District, Hanoi. The reason for Ms. Thu’s help was that I have helped many classmates in the past, and Ms. Thu’s son was one of them. During our first meeting, she did not know who I was, then when she knew my tragic circumstance and knew that I helped her son in his studying, she helped me and fed me. She help me continue my study in the last month to get the high school diploma (From the end of 1953). Her help has been my precious and unforgettable experience that stayed in me forever. This story is an example to prove to young people that those who actively perform good deeds, themselves, their children and grandchildren will receive good treasure in return.

Performing duly the living philosophy of the hero Matrosov is the way to create an opportunity to meeting a fairy, inviting him to your house and receiving treasures from her.

When knowing four conditions for making and advancing your fortune, some people say that these four conditions are so difficult to achieve and stayed out of their touch. For these people, I would assert that their lives are less fortunate and they may have a rather risky lives; and they complaint for their misfortune and mourn for the fate. In the contrary, those who say that they will be ready to welcome any new opportunities, strive to do eve­rything well to create luck in their house, will have good future ahead of them.

A.1.4. The fourth elements

LEARN HOW TO THINK PROPERLY

G.B. Shaw said: "Many people cannot even think twice or three times in a year; they thought that they were thinking but they did not really think. In my case, the reason I became famous because I could think twice or three times per week”.

Now let’s stop reading and think about this his statement. What do you think is up to you, but I personally wonder what B. Shaw thought which made him becoming so famous and so wealthy that he did not want to receive the Nobel Prize?

Here I give you some tips to help you concentrate in thinking and even try to think in the way B. Shaw thought.

-   At the age of 16, people have to do an inventory of their life for the first time. What do they learn and have?

-   "Although you can live long, the first 20 years is the longest half of your life" (R. Southey). What is the reason?

"Most man spend the first half of their life making the second half more miserable" (La Bruyère). Why? How to avoid this situation?

-  "Adolescence is wonderful time period. A person’s youth can be peaceful, can also be fiery, can go through tasteless to regret it; it can also step-by-step firmly reach the magnificent and splendid middle age" (Nguy Nguy). What kind of youth do you want to have? What do you do to make your youth a flaming hero?

-  "Living in this world, everyone is deserved to be happy; if not, it’s a big mistake" (Epictete). If you are not as happy as what you have dreamed of, is it your fault or others’ fault? How can we recover from such a mistake?

A.1.5. The fifth element

PROPER understanding and performing three main Happiness

CREATING ELEMENT.

There are three major elements in creating happiness in life that many people do not know; if we show them, some will not believe; or some do believe but do not apply. Therefore, how can they be happy? The three elements are: "Having something to do, someone to love, something to hope for" (J. Addison).

Many people will sneer at this quote and say that they all knew about it and they had done all these three things affluently but they are still not happy. They had to work all day from early morning to late at night to earn money, to enrich their family; they worked endlessly all day long but never be enough. In the respect of "someone to love", they have had a dozens of lovers already. They also had a lot of things to hope for. They got all these three elements but all they have is misfortune; they complain they could not find their happiness.

Those who have this thought is wrong. I ask you a question: —when you are sheltering from the rain in front of someone’s house, or when you are a goalkeeper meanwhile the ball is in the other half of the field, do you have something to do? (N. Bohr was a famous physicist and also a goalkeeper of Denmark national soccer team, when he was awarded the Nobel Prize there came a title on newspaper: Bohr, a soccer player won the Nobel Prize. When he was in the game whenever the ball was in the other half of the field, he solved math on the goal posts). When you see a miserable person needing help; see crooks, bad guys are conducting (or are about to do) things that harm people, harm the country, see the country being in danger... will you find something else to do? If you answer "Yes", I believe that you will have a lot of happiness. To sum up: Something to do is something benefits people, benefits the country, noble and worthy things for people to learn, to follow except enrich and not do for individual purposes.

And the statement —Having someone to love” means the noble, generous love to everyone, the love toward the disabled, people in tragic circumstances and those in need and deserve to be helped, the love toward your neighbor as well as the deep love for your family, the great love such as mother Teresa, Princess Diana rather than only sexual love.

When talking about having things to do, we start to worry about everything in future, worry about everyone, start to sow the tree of kindness for their posterity, be conscious about national and human being’s welfare, then we have a basic foundation to hope that happiness will come to us.

A.1.6. THE SIXTH ELEMENTS

KNOWING HOW TO CHOOSE THE RIGHT JOB FOR SUCCESS

We have to divide all the work into three categories: the work we NEED to do, WANT to do and LOVE to do. What we need to do is strive to complete all that NEED to be done and half of what WANT to do. That’s enough to be successful. Besides, the work you LOVE to do is also for recess time no matter you finish it or not. Please remember the old saying: "the genius do the all the work they NEED to do, the talent do the things they CAN do" (E. Renan).

When you schedule the to-do list for one day, one week, one month, one year or especially the whole lifetime, you strive to complete perfectly all the work, you then have the foundation to become a genius or at least you’ll have much success in life.

Here is a story for each person to think deeply to find out what he must do. A psychologist was invited to speak at a conference where almost all of the audience are successful businessmen.

First, the speaker put a large glass jar and a cloth bag on the table, then he took out some egg-sized boulders from the bag and put them into the bottle from the bottom to the top. He asked the audience: "is it full?” A voice rose: "it’s full". The speakers then picked out a bag of marble-sized stones and pour those stones in to that bottle and slightly shook it. After that he poured sand from other bag and continued shaking, finally he poured water into the bottle, the speaker asked: "What lesson this experiment shows us?” One answered: "The lesson is that, although we arrangements is closely tight, we still can save little time to do other things."

"No," the speaker said. “The biggest lesson we draw from this is that we must put boulders in the bottle first, otherwise we will never be able to stuff them with smaller things" (citation from Internet, by Minh Triet). So what are the boulders of your life? The answer is: THOSE ARE THE tHiNGS you need to do.

THINGS FOR THE YOUNG TO DO FIRST WHEN ENTERING THEIR LIFE JOURNEY?

That is: To prepare completely for your life journey is to determine a right life purpose, a living motto for your own, mold yourself a good character, know how to create opportunities and be ready for a blessing when it comes, to learn the correct way of thinking, to identify three key elements to create happiness in life, to find out what must do and find every way to do it and try your best to do all of it. (You should re-read three, four, five times this question and ask yourself: among those things what we have done and what further things we should do)?

6 things we mentioned above and 6 preparations for life make up the foundation of the castle of happiness. Those who has all these twelve elements then he has already had an extremely solid foundation where they build their castle of happiness without worrying about its collapse.

Now we start to go through 6 preparations in life.

Luggage are what you need to bring along during a journey to help you to avoid facing difficulties and enjoy your trip. A human life can be considered as a long trip. What preparations we need to prepare before entering to real life and bring with you on life if you want to have great success in your life? To have a correct answer to this question, let’s have a look from different aspects of this problem and raise a new question: What are elements which make people unsuccessful or meet difficulties on life? The correct answer to this question will help us to find out preparations for our life. Firstly, we look for answers to these following questions:

1.  Can a person who always suffer from chronic sickness have great success on his life?

       2. A person lacking of knowledge and understanding in every aspect, even do not have a job, will they be successful?

3. A person who is always afraid of difficulty and hardships, will they be successful?

4. The book of Hoai Nam Tu has a sentence: "A man knowing everything except how to be a useful person, he has never been considered as a wise man". So what is the right human behavior in this era?

       5. A person with lots of bad personalities, bad behaviors and bad habits (for instance, being impatient, reckless, superficial, time-wasting, life-ruining...), will they be successful?

6. A person who is a specialist with lots of technical terms that are hard to remember should keep on hand an occupational handbook. Whenever he need, he can open the handbook for reference. If an occupational handbook is necessary for practitioners, the life handbook is essential for everyone’s life, especially those who are not properly trained or educated by their family at young age.

The correct answers to six questions consist in six contents in which every young people should possess, practice and bring it along in life in order to create the necessary preconditions for their life.

In conclusion: There are 6 master keys for a life’s journey:

1.  A healthy body.

2.  A Good Job.

3.  4, 5. A noble spirit.

       6. A Life’s handbook (like this book as well as many other books young people need to read to succeed in life).

A2.1 The first Master tool

A HEALTHY BODY

Everyone knows that a human simply consists of two parts: body and soul. “The happiest person in the world is the one who possesses a strong soul in a healthy body” (from Juvenal, a famous poet in ancient Roman). Moreover, health is as precious as money but when we are healthy we are usually not aware of it.” We can borrow money when we run out of it but we cannot buy our health when we are in need. When we are lying on the bed feeling the death come closer and closer, only at this time can we see how valuable these two things are.

Everyone desires happiness for himself and his family. However, “happiness, first and foremost, comes from the health itself.” A France proverb said that: “Be healthy is far better than wealthy”. “A weak body will control our action, and healthy body is to follow our control”. “Our body is the boat carrying us to the other side of the ocean of life.” (Vina Kanada). No one uses a shabby boat to sail across the ocean. So we should take a good care of our body to have enough energy to enjoy a happy life.

Eating smartly is the best way to have a healthy body and a long life. Moreover, we should combine it with working out and follow the healthy lifestyle.

How to eat smartly

(Man) Eating is to serve two purposes:

1.   To enjoy the first of —four greatest pleasure”: Having good food.

2.   To be healthy, to live long and to avoid the risk of sickness.

Người khôn biết kết hợp hài hòa và chặt chẽ cả hai mục đích này và tổ chức thực hiện sao cho trọn vẹn cả hai mục đích ấy, đó là ăn uống thông minh. Bây giờ ta đi sâu vào tìm hiểu hai mục đích nói trên.

Those who know how to adequately and closely associate the two following purposes and properly complete them, are smart in their intake. The two purposes of eating will be deeply researched in the following parts.

A.2.1.1. The first purpose: Having good food

In an international Conference on Nutrition (in late 20^th century), a famous scientist joked: "I heard that, in the 21^st century, people will be able to produce nutritious food contained in the tube’s shape like a toothpaste; when it comes to meal time, one just needs to squeeze a few tubes into your mouth then it is enough to live a healthy and long life. If that was real, I would rather die before the 21^st century".

If so there would be no one can enjoy the pleasure of sitting down at a table to relish various dishes from numerous nations existing million years.

Everyone wants to taste delicious meals. There are 18 elements in making a delicious meal:

1.2.3.  Tasty food with a good partner and a comfortable seat:

As Tan Da, a famous Vietnamese poet, once said that there are three elements of a good appetite. The food that is not tasty, not spicy and not made by a good chef, cannot be called delicious dishes. Moreover, good dishes must come at the right time, when it’s still hot or cold. If you eat alone in a kitchen corner, the meal isn’t good anymore or at least the appetite is reduced.

Poet Nguyen Khuyen once wrote:

—A good wine must come with good partners

Not worth buying despite your pocket full of money”

Dining area needs to be cool, clean and cozy place... to make a perfect meal. Some people prefer to dine with soft music while others prefer a quiet place to chat to enhance their appetite.

4.  An empty Stomach:

A proverb says: "Eating with a full stomach reduces appetite and anger evaporates wisdom". There was a famous story about Trang Quynh: Quynh invited King to eat steamed rock sprouts. Quynh intended to let the King to wait and feel starving and then served him:

The steamed rice was made of simple rice

And served with simple soy sauce.

Even though with a simple dish the King liked it and preferred it than his delicacy daily royal banquet and continued eating until he could not eat anymore.

I myself have been invited to join fancy parties, even big party in the president palace, but I found there was nothing more memorable than the meal I had at Van Hien train station at the end of 1965. I had a simple bowl of steamed rice with mere salt where I used one hand to hold rice and the other hand to put salt on a leaf onto the rice. This was the most memorable meal in my entire life due to the starving hungry after ten-hours-working without food and drink.

5.6.7.   Good to the eyes, the nose and the tongue:

These three criteria are written and published on People’s Army Newspaper in the 1950s by Doctor Tu Giay - the first Director of Vietnam National Nutritional Institute.

The food has to be tasty enough to make people crave just by smelling it. Food is cut spectacularly with many colors for "eye-catching", then has to be decorated skillfully and carefully, from chili, peppers, vegetables... to each slice of meat as to stimulate people’s appetite. A good chef also has to season properly so that the meal can be mightily impressive at the moment it touches their tongues. That is the truly excellent meal.

8.9. Eat slowly and enjoyably

The taste buds create senses when the food is put into the mouth. So if you want to enjoy the full flavors, we should eat slowly and chew carefully. We need to be hungry before a meal, then after eating we still keep the desire for eating so as to feel the food tasty enough. If you eat too much, your stomach will be so full that you feel creepy when seeing food again. It is not a good meal anymore. Moreover, an oversize meal can make you tired of eating for days.

10.   Excellent health, good teeth, good digestive system:

When you have severe disease, your mouth feels bitter as having just taken antibiotics. Therefore good food then taste like rock or quinine and no long delicious. What about eating barbecue, grilled squid, while you are having a toothache? Not comfortable, of course. People have intestinal disease, hepatic and gall bladder... will feel painful when eating, which also reduces the appetite, too.

11. Eating in a relaxed mental condition:

In a constrained state of mind such as after quarrels with your spouse or fault of your children made by meal time, or a leader spends his lunchtime eating and undertaking works from office or factories. the nerve under suppressed will lost or reduced appetite. So if you want to have a delicious meal, we should have a cheerful and comfort mind, tidy up all the worry, avoid every concern or trouble while eating. Even God also avoid punishing during meal time. Supposed your children frustrate you, choose the right time and do not tell them before and during meals.

       1412. Eat at right time

When you let the meal time pass by without eating anything, you will feel dreadfully hungry but eating now is not delicious in comparison with the meals in time. Those who are not familiar with breakfast still can eat early in the morning and cannot find it tasty despite being hungry.

13.  Clean food containers:

A proverb says: "The clean house is cool, clean bowl is delicious". Dusty bowls, plates or table, even have a look at them decline your appetite.

14. Favorable tasting food:

One must like the food. Even with the most delicious dish, if you do not like it then it is still worthless.

       15. Habitual eating manner

Some people eat by using their hands, some prefer bowls, other using plates, knife, fork... they feel totally palatable when they are allowed to eat customarily, for instance in India, curry will taste its best when being eaten by hands. People have a habit of eating fast as Napoleon (he finished a meal within 8 minutes), he would feel dissatisfied when eating slowly.

       16. Eating familiar food:

Those who have eaten rustic dishes since they were in their childhood, still remember these flavors still the end of their life. When they grow up and flying away despite they are simple and characterized dishes which was familiar with their childhood. Lin Yutang, a famous China writer said: "The patriotism is partially form from rustic dishes in childhood."

17. Attitude of the chefs, a happy and dedicated serving staffs:

If we invite guests to dinner with joyful and affable attitude, they will feel more appetizing and enjoyable. In contrast, when you welcome them with a sallow face, their desire for eating and pleasure will soon disappear.

18. Food appetite:

Lin Yutang also said: "Appetite plays the key role in eating no matter what the food is." Appetite is created by hungry, delicious foods or necessary nutrients for your body. You should enhance your knowledge and know how to enjoy food while creating appetite, especially appetite for nutritious food that unusual food. Kim Woo Choong said: "I wonder all the achievements I have gained up to now partially due to my entry in diversity cuisine from all over the world".

Besides creating appetite, we have to concentrate intensely to enjoy all the flavors of delicious food.

These above 18 factors are related to delicious eating: there are physical factors, mental factors, subjective and objective factors... Basically all of us can create all these factors. If we knew about them, thought about and applied to daily meals, our meals will be more enjoyable.

A2.1.2. The second purpose: Eating for health and longevity

The knowledge presented in this section is the most important knowledge in 40 types of necessary knowledge to survive. So we have to write just enough to serve readers.

We must have three things to achieve this goal: knowledge, willingness and money, in which knowledge is the most vital part; money is also important but it is difficult to pass the final round without knowledge.

#   1. KNOWLEDGE IN EATING

These following contents should be followed for using nutrients in food to create health and longeviry be healthy and to increase life expectancy:

In our body:

+ What nutrients are needed?

+ How much?

+ When they are needed: When do we need more and when do we need less?

+ The role and effect of each nutrient?

+ How to provide enough nutrients for the body? (In the event of lacking of money, especially when we have lots of money).

Because: We can still provide sufficient nutrition for the body by having complete knowledge and volition, though lacking of money. In contrast, just missing one of the two you will surely make a mistake: consume excessive quantity of some nutrients and deficient quantity of others. A proverb said: "The voracious use his teeth to dig his grave". They dig a grave for his own and for their own children. The increasing number of obese people all over the world is the obvious evidence.

First let’s listen to this story: In 1976, the pedagogical secondary high school in Song Be province organized an open kitchen for teachers and students. Looking at it, I said to myself: "If you continue to eat like this, you will be ill soon." The consequence is seen within 2 years, 20 teachers having had meals here had to be hospitalized for from one to three times. And to me, I have even not step in the hospital once. The reason for my healthy being is organizing a scientific eating habit for myself and my family. Therefore my father lived twice as long as my grandparents and my mother reached the age of 93. My children grew up in the period of average monthly income is 20VND per head for years during government subsidizing period, but none of them suffered from malnutrition.

My siblings all had short lives as they were born in poverty. For me, I got severe rickets before having come to this world and usually suffered from illness. In the first 20 years of my life, I was starved all days with an empty stomach before going to bed. At the age of 20 my weight could not reach 44kg. Even under that living condition, I have never been hospitalized for a single day (Except once when I was hospitalized for 3 days for my eye surgery). The reason for my healthy living was the knowledge I wrote in this section.

The main materials I have used to write this section are derived from Vietnam National Institute of Nutrition’s documents approved by Ministry of Health on September 19, 1996 applying to Vietnamese people through 2010 and other documents posted in Journals of Medicine, Science and Health Newspaper, Health and Life Newspaper and reports and documents from research institutes around world, especially report from Dr. Walloc, Nobel prize winners in 1991 as well as my own reflections.

Now, welcome to our main contents:

# 1.1. What and how much nutrition our body need and where do we find them? The role and effect of each nutrient to our body?

It is the leading knowledge among 40 different kind of knowledge needed for everyone. Many people who overlook this knowledge will be vulnerable to illness and shorten their life expectancy.

-  The information on what kind of and how much nutrients your body and each person in your family need, can be found in Table 1, at the end of the book. The nutrients contained in common food is listed in Table 12. For better understanding these tables, please check the following specific guidelines:

Human body requires 90 different nutrients, divided into three main groups: energy-creating group, minerals and vitamins groups. It is also divided into two groups: macro and micronutrients. Macronutrient group requires intake quantity from hundreds to kilograms each nutrient daily. Group of micronutrient just needs hundreds of microgram to milligrams. Both groups should be consumed adequately. The excess or lack of some nutrients will be result in illness. As an example, the 160-men expedition of Bering, in only a half year, 100 sailors have died from lack of dozens of vitamin C (Causing septic blood disease: Scorbut). There was another adventure group of Magellan of 265 members traveling around the world in three years (from 1519 to 1522); however, only 30 people survived and turned back (including some were captured during the journey). The main cause of death among sailors was the lack of vitamin C. There was case where a pregnant women consumed two tablets of 500 mg vitamin C per day during her pregnancy, her child later died of Scorbut, because of the excessive amount of vitamin C staying in the mother’s womb. Before 1945, thousands of Japanese soldiers died daily due to lack of 1mg vitamin B1 in their diet. Japanese people are famous for eating salty food (in excess 10g of salt per day), as a result, Japanese people had the highest rate of cardiovascular disease in the world. When the whole nation starts to reduce salt intake (average 7-8g/ person/day), the rate of cardiovascular disease also dropped dramatically. Many children at the ages from 5-7 broke their arms due to calcium shortage. Old-aged women, also found their bone so fragile due to insufficient amount of calcium intake, especially during their pregnancy and in puberty. Young boys and girls under 20 years old in Southern region often lost their front teeth and had teeth decay due to the fact that in childhood (before the age of 13) they consumed less than 1mg of fluoride and unbalanced diet (as they ate hot food and drank cold beer and iced tea at the same time). Some mothers in the United States misunderstand the role of iron in the body so they let their children eat more iron-containing sweets. The children died a few months later. In finding the reason for this strange deaths, scientists claimed that the children died due to excess of 3-6 grams of iron in their body. The adult who consumed in excess of about 2cm³ of iron also died.

The danger of unscientific eating is immeasurable. Mistake made by the rich is to consume too much nutrients but lack of some others which cause obesity and dangerous diseases. Most people make mistakes that they do not eat enough natural available nutrients, which resulted in illness or short-life expectancy due to malnutrition for lacking of knowledge.

Now we find out more about every single nutrient:

#   1.1.1. ENERGY-PRODUCING NUTRIENTS:

Energy-producing nutrients are divided into three groups: protein, lipids (fats) and carbohydrates (sugars). These three are digested completely in a few hours, that why we have to eat 3-4 meals a day.

1.  Protein:

The need: the average protein requirement for each group of ages, male or female, is shown in Table 1 on page 314.

The function: protein has two major functions: One is creating heat (every gram of Protein provides 4 kcal) and the other is forming the cellular (the most important role of Protein). Inside the body, Protein is divided into 20 different amino acids, which are bricks of "body building", among them there are 8 irreplaceable amino acids that only be absorbed from outside source (9 in children). These 8 amino acids should be combined adequately (Table 10). If the amount of one amino acid is too low, the excessive part of other 7 will be converted into fuels (they no longer can affect the process of cell formation). Therefore, if your diet lacks of protein for a long time, you will get sick and sicker.

There are two types of protein: protein from fauna (animal) and protein from flora (fruits). Protein from fauna is more balanced for our body. For example, protein of egg (14.8%) is very close to the optimal correlation, so its value of protein is higher than that of peanut (27.5%) in the cell structure. So when absorbing protein from flora, we have to combine with many others like peanuts with sesame, the excess will compensate for the insufficiency (Table 11).

The source: protein column in Table 12, the bold data shows that food rich in protein is prawns, shrimps, dried fish of all kinds (from 39-75%); followed by soybeans (34%), peanut, sesame, beans, meat, fish, fresh shrimp, eggs, eels, frogs, pupa (from 10-27%). Rice only contains 7.6%, but daily just a few ounces of it also provides you a large amount of protein.

2. lipid:

The need: Our body demands less than 20% in comparison with protein. Each gram of lipid provides 9 Cal. People in cold weather region need much more lipid. Especially children under 24 months of age, their demand is very high, particularly unsaturated fats (mainly due to the demand of the brain structure, see Table 8).

The Function: In addition to thermal creation, lipids also a solvent of some vitamins like A, D, E, K.

There are two types of fat: saturated fat and unsaturated fat. If animal protein is better than vegetable protein, vegetable fat is generally better than animal fats because of containing more unsaturated fat which is more beneficial to the body (see page 323 and Table 8.9).

Fats and sugars can be inter-transformed. The excessive sugar will be converted into fat to be stored in the body. When your body is lack of sugars, our metabolism system will derive fat into sugar for function our body.

The source: The content of lipids in bold in the table column 12 tells us that the highest lipid-containing food is liquid fat and various types of oil, followed by sesame, peanuts, soybeans, pork, dog ...

3. Carbohydrates:

The need: One person needs average of 300-400gam / day. Heavy workers need more while the old need less. Each gram of sugar is equal with 4Cal.

The Function: Carbohydrates turn into glucose after being digested, run around the body through blood vessels, as well as protein and fat, through invisible combustion to generate heat to maintain body temperature, the excess the fat will be reserved. For heavy workers, you work more and your body should mobilize reserved fat for thermal energy while the fat cells slack and create the feeling of hungry, then you will have better and bigger meals.

The Source: From Table 12 we can see sugar (from sugar cane), dried cassava, cassava, dried sweet potatoes: containing from 80 to 99% sugar; corn, wheat and rice: 70-76%; beans: more than 50%; the fresh potato, soybean, rice vermicelli noodles: from 21-36%; vegetables and fruits have very little sugar inside.

Protein, lipids, carbohydrates are in this group, which is totally digested within 4-6

days. In addition, there are two things that your body needs every day in a huge amount that are fiber and water, especially water, will be mentioned later.

# 1.1.2. MINERALS:

There are different kinds of minerals in natural food and medicine. Many of them are necessary for the body such as Ca, P, Fe, I, Zn, F, Cu, Mg, Se, Cl, K, and there are some toxic as lead, aluminum ... The only beneficial minerals is used in a particular limit (floor and ceiling), beyond the limit it will become toxic. If it is beyond the limit for a while, the minerals can be stored in the body for weeks or months. Here we show you some minerals needed by the body.

Calcium: This is the most important mineral for the body. Its primary function is bone formation that is particularly important for children, especially needed for puberty, pregnancy and taking care of newborn period. Vietnamese diet usually lack of Calcium (average devoid of 300 mg/ day) due to daily diet lack of milk and bone-softened fish. According to Dr. Walloc, Calcium deficiency can cause 147 different kinds of diseases where the most common one is osteoporosis (100%), hypertension (Walloc witnessed 5000 people suffered from hypertension. 85% got cured after 6 weeks by doubling the amount of Calcium absorbent), toothache, gingivitis, arthritis, rheumatoid arthritis (85%), kidney stones, gallstones (due to deficiency in Calcium), sexual arousal disorder in man, discomfort-creation in women’s menstrual period, nerve paralysis 7 (distorted mouth) cramps etc.

To get enough Calcium for your body, you should eat a little piece of stewed bone per week (not drinking the broth).

Phosphate: Phosphate helps bone formation, especially in the reactions of energy metabolism in the body. Normal diet may provide enough Phosphate for our body.

Fe: Fe is used to configure erythropoiesis. Children will have undeveloped brain and limited immune system if they have iron deficiency. Iron deficiency in adults will reduce their working capacity; in mature woman it can lead to menstrual disorder. Iron requirement is listed in Table 1. The iron is absorbed only 10% from plants, 15% from fish, 20% from soybeans and 30% from meat. If you want to increase the rate of iron absorption, mix it with vitamin C. The elderly (Both male and female) should not eat food rich in iron for preventing cardiovascular disease. In page 42 we can see: a child with excess 3 - 6 grams of iron can dye; excess or lack of 1 - 3g is already closer to illness. Therefore, when feeding children, we must be sure they get enough iron (especially for girls or women under 50 years old).

Iodine: We need iodine to prevent goiter, especially for pregnant women to prevent miscarriage, premature birth, and stillbirth and birth cretinism. Iodine deficiency causes inactive children, goiter, mental and height retardation, reproductive problems, dumb, deaf, squint, spastic limbs. Just eat regular iodized salt is enough for our body.

Zn: More and more people acknowledge the importance of Zn in human life: its vital role in blood structure is as important as Fe; students in Zn deficiency would perform worse in learning, the body lack of Zn also lose its appetite; Mothers who are breastfeeding should eat and feed the baby enough Zn to prevent child malnutrition (see Table 5). Zn is found in pumpkin seeds, oysters, clams, snails, mussels, pork liver ... Men should regularly eat foods high in zinc to prevent prostate hypertrophy and sexual problems.

Flo: Fluoride is the key factor for fighting tooth decay especially for children under 12 and southern residents because in this region the amount of fluorine (F) dissolved in water only reach 10% maximum. Fluoride deficient in children (especially the period from 3-12 years old) softens enamel, makes it easily broken and vulnerable to bacteria. Fluoride can be found massively in tea, especially in dark leaves tea in Phu Tho province and tea from the Northern provinces (Tea is characterized by its maximum absorption of F from soil and total accumulation in leaves). 2gam per day of dry tea is enough for a child. Many advanced countries have Fluoride in drinking water for students in school that result in the decrease in tooth decay by 60%. Japanese primary students drink several cups of green tea every day, in case of the tea is not too intensive (Professor Tề Quốc Lực). Conversely, too much Fluoride absorption will lead to tooth damage as in some villages in Ninh Hoa, Khanh Hoa.

Mg: Magnesium is important for the nervous system, especially the brain. Severe Mg deficiency may produce a pounding headache, prone to heart attacks, difficulty in sexual and muscular activities, unstable mental state, irrational anger, narcolepsy and terrible dreams. Magnesium can be found in green beans, soybeans, sweet potatoes, peanuts, cheese, chocolate, kohlrabi, chestnuts, red spinach, vegetables, jute, basil, vegetables, sweet potato leaves, bananas, beans, taro... Mg + B6 pill is sold at the pharmacy. Dr. Walloc said that beside these 7 extremely important minerals, we must also pay close attention to the following minerals:

Cu: Copper deficiency will result in aortic aneurysm, early-faded hair, wrinkles, dark skin below eyes, and the symptoms as polio or cerebral hemorrhage, back pain due to spiral degeneration. Copper is found in liver, heart, kidney, seafood, shellfish, vegetables, meats and fish.

Se: Selenium deficiency causes susceptibility to myocardial infarction and cancer. The red dots on skin indicate Se deficiency disease. Selenium is found in apples, garlic, crawfish, rice, lean pork, egg yolks...

Bo: Lack of Bo our body cannot maintain Calcium, generated a lot of diseases, including stigmatization.

Sn: Lack of tin will cause hair loss, baldness and deafness.

Cr, V: chromium and vanadium deficiency causes diabetes.

Mo: Molybdenum deficiency also contributes to carcinogenesis.

#   1.1.3. VITAMIN:

These vitamins can be stored in the body from tens to hundreds days. They are various kind of amino acids essential for human life and animal in spite of very small quantities needed. Researching on the most long-lived people, scientists came to the conclusion: A diet rich in vitamins will help human live longer.

Vitamins have diversity in types, each one has multiple effects on the body, including several major effect such as fighting infection and regulating eye-sight, increasing the body’s immune capacity, preventing anemia and associations hemorrhage, anti-aging...

Body demand: See Table 1. In addition to the type indicated in Table 5 there are also other vitamins (see the effect).

Function:

1.  Vitamin A:

Vitamin A play vital role in avoiding dry corneal and infection, enhance visual acuity and healing speed of wound... Children with vitamin A and D deficiency will have their bone underdeveloped and emaciated. Vitamin A is the most important vitamin for children and also for everyone, especially pilot, driver, pregnant and breastfeeding women.

Vitamin A is found in cod and animal liver oil. Eating too much vitamin A can cause adverse health effects. In nature, it exists in shape of pre-vitamin A called carotene (first founded in carrots). Carotene in the body is stored in liver, it is exported only when needed. The liver can store carotene up to 1,200,000 UI while the maximum daily demand does not exceed 5,000 UI. Pregnant women should not eat too much liver and liver products, especially in the first 6 days after egg fertilization (to avoid teratogenic formation). Carotene is found in Gac seeds, spinach, celery, scallion, carrot, mango and muom, cassava leaves, lettuce, tomatoes, egg yolk ... (See Table 12, column 12). The most abundant carotenoids is found in the pericarp surrounding the Gac seeds and carrotpeel. When eating, do not throw them away.

2.  Vitamin B1:

Vitamin B1 is active in preventing numbness and neuritis. However, it is susceptible to heat and oxygen. It is also useless when staying in the body too long, since it combines with oxygen to form an odoriferous substance. B1 is found in bran (B1 massive lost in whitening process in rice) and green beans, black beans, white beans, beans, peas, bean sprouts, bacon plumb, egg yolks, sesame, peanut ... In cooking rice do not open the lid or get rid of the excess boiling liquid to maintain B1 in rice

3. Vitamin B2:

Bacteria in synthetic gut can synthetize B2. B2 deficiency results in intestinal bleeding, gastrointestinal tract disorders, especially the tongue mucosa. B2 hinders infection, speeds up regeneration of blood and helps fetal development. The excess B2 in the body will be excreted through the urine, make it dark in color. B2 is very sensitive to light. B2 is found in green leafy vegetables, rice bran etc...

       4. Vitamin C:

Vitamin C functions as an Anti-infectious, anti-fatigue, anti-hemorrhagic syndrome nutrient, as well as stimulates antibody formation, help blood vessels more tenacious and durable, fight against contamination, flu and increase resistance. Together with vitamin A and E, it increases human longevity. The body cannot release vitamin C. it is dissolved in water and easily destroyed in heat. You should eat it right after cooking.

       5. Vitamin C2 (also called vitamin P):

It has a strong effect on strengthening blood vessels and help saving vitamin C. C2 is found in lemon, green tea, tomatoes, soy, the white peel of oranges and grapefruit. C2 increases the value of vitamin C in food up to 10 times. Therefore, citrus is classified as rich in vitamin C thank to vitamin C2 although it only contains 40 mg C per 100mg

6. Vitamin PP (Also known as B5):

Vitamin PP functions as a bodily and oral anti-sore factors (Often called mouth sores). Milk from soybeans contains much tryptophan for synthesizing PP. In contrast, kernel (with lime) held anti-PP (tryptophan inhibitor). Therefore, eating kernel for long time can cause widespread ulcer on human body. Tryptophan helps the brain produce serotonin, create the feeling of relaxing and comfort.

7. Vitamin K:

Vitamin K takes part in increasing the speed of blood coagulation. It is found in a lot of green leafy vegetables. Besides, bacteria in stomach can produce vitamin K sufficiently. In case you need to have your teeth extracted, have a blood test in vitamin K to ensure your blood coagulation during the process of flinging your teeth.

8. Vitamin E:

Vitamin E has special effects on the reproductive system. Lack of vitamin E, the testis stops producing sperm, and the pregnant women can miscarriage or have fetal atrophy. Vitamin E is found in the germ, raw bean sprouts and baby corn (corn is still soft, easily broken). Patients with intestinal disease usually caught vitamin E deficiency. Along with A and C, vitamin E is also vital in fight against aging and dementia (Alzheimer's). When you take in too much unsaturated fat, remember to implement vitamin E for your body.

Children need 5 - 15mcg vitamin E per day while adults need 20 - 30mcg per day. Vitamin E deficiency causes cerebellum degeneration, muscle calcifying and decrease instigated muscle contraction. Vitamin E also protects red blood cells against hemolysis.

9. Vitamin B₆:

It is important for the nervous system in avoiding headache and neuralgia pain. B6 plays a very important role in deriving Protein, especially in neurons and cerebral cortex. Children easily get B6 deficiency. In adults, B6 is synthesized in the cecum. The average need of vitamin B6 1 ^ 8mcg per day. Proteins should be absorbed in combination of this kind of vitamin because B6 deficiency prevents the body from reserving protein in shape of fat (unbalanced protein used as fuel). B6 is found in liver, peas, beans, eggs, vegetables...

10. Vitamin B12:

Vitamin B12 prevents malignant. The necessary quantity for Megaloblastic anemia is just 1 - 5mcg per day. The more you take in B12, the less it is absorbed in the stomach. For example, 0,5mcg can be absorbed 90% whereas 100mcg is absorbed less than 1%. B12 is often used with very high dose (125mcg) so splitting it will be better.

11. Vitamin M, B9 or Folic acid:

They can cure malignant tumor. Folic acid deficiency can cause anemia and defecation with fatty liquid. Intestinal bacteria can synthesize an enough amount for the body. Body needs 50mcg/day, but if you take a pill of it the amount should be up to 400mcg because of difficult absorption in the intestine. Vitamin M is essential for pregnant women during the first 6 weeks to enhance the development of neural tube, which evolved in the brain and spinal in children, help the placenta to nail tightly on uterine wall (to avoid miscarriage).

12.Vitamin D:

Children with vitamin D deficiency easily get rickets. Vitamin D is needed for the absorption of Ca and P in the intestine. Therefore, lacking of Vitamin D is very difficult to absorb Ca. Adults need 2mcg and children need 10mcg/day. Vitamin D is found in green vegetables and fruits. Ultraviolet light shines on skin and transform the skin mucus (cholesterol) into vitamin D. People work in pits, tunnel or greenhouse (with UV shield) with less exposure to natural light may lack of vitamin D.

In addition to the mentioned vitamin there are other vitamins which we can easily absorb enough nutrients by eating many different foods, fruits and vegetables.

There are some notices when using vitamin: Patients with severe vitamin deficiency by eating, when they are moved to the hospital, the doctors often give high doses of vitamin supplements to them for quick supplement. If the patients continue to receive high dose of vitamins supplement during several days, their body will have excess vitamin excreted in urine or feces, nevertheless creating illness, especially vitamin A and D.

For older people who want to take vitamin supplements daily, they should take in low or very low doses (because food provide nutrients partially) and should not drink water constantly.

Vitamin pills are usually packed in gigantic doses. Therefore, before using them, please pay attention to the body need and the nutritious content of each pill to take full advantage of it.

#     1.1.4. Other necessary nutriments

In addition to the mentioned nutrients, our body also needs an adequate supply of water, fiber, cholesterol and oxygen that is free and plays a crucial role.

1.  Drinking water

Adult body contains 68% water. The younger children or animal offspring be, the more water their body embrace. Water seizes 97% in two-month fetal and 80% in human brain.

Water is used as a transportation to put food and drink into your organ and body as well as throw the waste out of the body. If the body lacks of water, people will be prone to kidney stones. Water is also necessary in fighting against obesity and edema (water is solvent of fat) and put the waste in the body out. People can live at least a week without eating but completely lack of water people cannot live such that long. Children with diarrhea will dye easily except adequate water supplement. Urinary retention leading to difficulty in eradicating wastes from the blood also kill people easily.

The Need:

A normal person needs at least 1.5 liters of water each day. Some hard workers sweat 12 liters so they need more than 12 liters of water because water was also discharged through breathing, skin, urine and feces. In case of sweating too much, we should eat soup, vegetables, drinking water and soft drinks to get supplemental water.

How to provide enough water for the body: Prior to morning exercise, drink a cup of

0.      2 liter boiled water. Drinking too much water before, during and right after a meal is bad for digestion. Even when being too thirsty, you should drink slowly, do not drink greedily liters of water at a time. In cold weather, the old people often do not feel thirsty while their bodies are still dehydrated. To deal with this problem, older people should drink a lot of water in the morning whether being thirsty or not to ensure the amount of 1.5 liters or more, so that you should go to pee at least three times a day. It is dangerous for those who urinate 1-2 times a day.

The best drinking water is boiled water, not mineral water or beer or soft drinks of all kinds. Do not drink intensive tea after meals because tannins in tea hinders the absorption of iron.

2. Fiber

The main use of fiber is to prevent constipation - a fatal disease. People with this disease, their feces distribution is not done, it accumulates in the body for a time, and the bacteria thrive and secrete toxins to harm to the body. This disease is also the cause of hemorrhoids and prostate enlargement - a disease that affects 80% of men over 50, especially the elderly.

A very significant effect of the fiber is specified against many serious diseases such as cancer, heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes. Fiber reduces the risk of cancer and diarrhea.

The Need:

Adults need less than 25gram per day and children also need fiber.

Source:

Due to habits of eating industrialized food, drinking milk, juices, vegetables, many people are lack of fiber severely. You should eat at least 300g per day of vegetables, especially the old part of vegetables staying near the root of spinach, green leafy vegetables such as sweet potato leaves (stems). In eating an orange, we need to peel off the green part and leave its seeds and then eat the rest that has high fiber and vitamins. Eating citrus and pulp part of orange is equally beneficial as drinking its juice, where vitamin C absorption increased by 30% and more C2 is taken in.

3. Cholesterol

Function: This is a biologically active substances needed for health that is synthesized up to 70% of body demand. The rest must be taken from the outside. The amount of cholesterol in the body should be exactly enough for using. Recently, geriatric researchers in France have said that lack of cholesterol is very dangerous. In aging women, mortality increased 5 times when cholesterol content in the blood is under 1.5 g/liter regardless of weight, age or recorded heart attack. Many researches also showed that women suffering from depression and youngster used to suicide have low cholesterol rate in blood than normal people. Therefore, researchers have advised people with high blood pressure against having a total fat-free diet but supplementing 1/3 of lipid portion by animal fat.

The Need: The necessary amount should not exceed 300 mg per day and an average of about 200 mg. Therefore, we should eat 2 to 4 eggs per week to generate enough cholesterol necessary to the body.

Source: Table 7 indicates the amount of cholesterol presented in common foods.

Many people being excessive in cholesterol, especially bad cholesterol in their body due to the lack of daily 200-300ml of cholesterol. The easiest way to put enough cholesterol in the body is to eat 2-4 eggs each week.

4. Intestinal bacteria and microbial fermentation

Intestinal bacteria system has thousands of beneficial bacteria except bacteria in the rectum. Intestinal bacteria supply vitamins such as B2, B6, B7, B8, B11, I, J, K, M ... almost enough to the body; so we should create a suitable environment for them to survive and develop. People with intestinal diseases usually drink lots of antibiotics that their gut bacteria easily die and lead to vitamins deficiency.

The duty of microbial fermentation is to eliminate stinking bacteria. In the process of making pickles, the successful pickle jar has its microbial fermentation dominating the stinking bacteria and vice versa. If the stinking bacteria win the microbial fermentation, the pickles will be substandard.

In new-born babies, the intestinal bacteria system has not formed yet so all the nutrients and antibiotics were derived from breast milk, then intestinal bacteria system develops gradually and breast-milk also becomes lesser. Lactose sugar in milk is slow digested, partially comes from small intestine to large intestine grow microbial fermentation. Fiber in the absorbed food is also a source “food” for them. Fermented bacteria in pickles will be killed when you put it into any kinks of soup.

There are ferment bacteria in yogurt and sour pickles. You should eat that kind of foods daily, especially sour cabbage and sour overripe spinach.

Unlike the natural lactose sugar created in breast-feeding child to raise ferment bacteria in intestine, in adults, ferment bacteria or even water from pickle and fiber should be put in the body through food to contribute to stinking bacteria removal, which is working for health benefits.

. Oxy: Xem nhu cầu dinh dưỡng của óc (trang 59).

Oxygen: See the nutritional needs for the brain (page 59).

#   1.2. How to provide enough nutrients for the body

According to the law of nature, the average life expectancy of man is about 120 years old and the majority of people die from diseases, not the aging reason. There are many causes such as genetics, environment but the most important cause is lack of knowledge. The main reason is many people do not know how to eat scientifically, the food they eat is lacking or excessing of one or many types of nutrients for a long time. Human’s health or illness, high or low life expectancy depends on how you protect your health and maintain your scientific eating habits.

If you want to provide enough nutrients for you and your children, read from page 43 to page 71. Then you study table 1 on page 314. Through this table we can see: a 55-kg man, from the age of 18 onward only needs 11 mg of Ferrum per day (excess of it causes cardiovascular disease, its deficiency causes anemia). Infants from 3-6 months needs 10mg per day but nearly 1mg is ready in breastfeeding milk. Through line 188 of Table 12, we can find out that lacking of breast milk fe in the several first months will cause stagnation or poor performance in intellectual development, disease vulnerability due to

decreased resistance.

After deeply researching the content of Ca, Fe, Zn you need to see Table 4, 5, 6 to know what foods contain much Ca, Zn, Fe then regularly eat these foods to supplement these most important minerals. Reading the content of cholesterol, we can see that it is the necessary nutrients for our health, lacking or excessing of it both result in sickness. A normal man needs about 200mg daily. Table 7 informs us that 100g lard contains 95mg of cholesterol in comparison with up to 400mg in an egg. You should study the table 7 to take in enough cholesterol on demand.

Page 59 shows that the brain is hungry for necessary unsaturated fat. According to the American documents, every day we only need 2 - 3 grams of unsaturated fat. In table 8 we can see that 10g sesame and 10g peanut provide 3g of polyunsaturated fat adequately. Food rich in unsaturated fat is 4 types of oil (soybean, olive, sesame, peanut oils) but under the heat too long turns them into saturated fat. Saturated fat is the main reason for atherosclerosis.

Table 12 tells us which foods are nutritious. Desiring to eat vegetables and fruits rich in vitamin C, you should see column 16; and for fiber, see column 7. In horizontal column you will see row 21 (Soybeans) that contains more nutritious than any other food, row 65 figures out that cassava leaf is even more nutritious than veal’s nutrition information (Young beef in row 134)

After studying carefully, the instructions and tables, you may choose tasteful dishes that have enough nutrients for you. Here, the authors should discuss further about the nutritional needs of the brains and diets for pregnant women and nursing mothers.

1.  Nutritional requirements for the brain:

a.  Adult brain:

Adult brain weights average 1,4kg, accounting for 2-3% of body weight but it consumes 20 to 25% oxygen and sugar of the body (The handbook of health, Culture, Sports Publishing, NXBYH Q3 / 2006 page 78). Without oxygen up to three minutes the brain begins to die. Every day we need up to 12m3 of fresh air. Every body part needs oxygen to sustain, especially our brain that needs oxygen to work. The intellectual workers, after intensive working of half an hour or students kept learning in focus, their brain can be deprived of oxygen, which then causes brain stagnation - the brain does not seem to work anymore, it becomes muddled. In that case we should go to places of fresh air, stretch our arms and do some exercises to foster the blood movement, deepen breathing 5-6 times to enhance oxygen intake, then when returning back to work we are more conscious, working and learning more effectively.

60% of the brain weight is composed of fat, especially unsaturated fat is essential. Wanting to put in enough unsaturated fat for the brain, please see Table 8 and calculate your daily rations for 2 to 3 grams of unsaturated fat. Many people are afraid of eating fat so they use refined oil instead. Refined oil contains lipids but many other nutrients such as protein, fiber, minerals were filtered out during processing; so its nutritional value is decreased despite of higher cost.

b. Children brain:

A newborn weight about 4-6% of adult body weight but its brain can reach by 25% of adult brain; Three years later, it can reach 90% brain capacity of adult one. The child’s brain cells are formed mainly from the 7^th to 24^th month of pregnancy.

It has been recommended that brain needs unsaturated fat. Lipid in breast milk is 2 times higher than Protein. (See row 188 breast milk in table 12). In the last three months of pregnancy, pregnant women should absorb enough unsaturated fat, adequate protein and Fe,

I,   Zn ... to help shape the best brain for the child. Half an hour after birth, mother should breastfeed her child. Stomach of infants only contain 2cc so natural breast milk has 150 Cal / 100g and antibiotics abundance. A week after birth the stomach reaches 60cc and breast milk contents declines to 63Cal/100g.

As a knowledgeable mother, she should pay special attention to their children's brain, especially in the formative stages of it in order to provide sufficient unsaturated fat for him.

2. Diets for pregnant and breast-feeding women:

During the life of a woman, pregnant and breast-feeding stage is the most important period. If a certain type of nutrition is provided deficiently or excessively to the fetus, it will get ill or even serious disease such as teratogenicity, miscarriage, fetal atrophy, stillborn or die shortly after birth, or underdeveloped brain. For example, spouse with vitamin E abundance is unable to conceive, or easily get miscarriage, fetal atrophy; severe iodine deficiency can create birth cretinism; excessive in vitamin A in the first days of pregnancy may cause teratogenicity.

Moreover during their pregnancy, pregnant women have not to always eat the same food all the time but some nutrients are needed at this time and others at other time with different quantities... Therefore, if the mother wanted her baby to be healthy, smart, easy to raise, she need to know what to eat, when to eat, how much food is enough, eating according to the needs of the fetus but not her interest.

To the husband:

Before his wife got pregnant, the husband should eat enough vitamin E and C, avoid addictive drug, tobacco, alcohol; while he gets drunk please stay away from his wife. No discharge of smoke in the room where his pregnant wife and children stay.

To the wife:

-  Before getting pregnant, she must absorb enough nutrients, especially vitamin E, C and folic acid. Food rich in vitamin E is contained in note 11. The table of vitamin C holder is Table 12 at the last column, in which you can see the suitable food. Vitamin C pill is unnecessary except special cases with doctor’s order. You should stop using contraceptives at least 3 months before pregnancy (Use other contraceptives). Similarly, diuretic should not be used in 4-5 months before pregnancy to avoid brain defects and cracks to the spinal cord.

With folic acid:

Folic acid is especially important for women in pre-pregnant stage. In normal people intestinal bacteria produce just enough folic acid for use. In pre-pregnant women, 0.4 mg of this nutrient should be supplemented before pregnancy and continued to the second month of postpartum. Folic acid enhances THE DeVeLopMeNT of neutral tube which TURNING INTO THE CHILD’S BRAIN LATER. A severe lack of folic acid can lead tono-brain children or death a few hours after birth. Light folic acid deficiency also causes cracked spiral and adversely effects on human intestinal system.

The first three months of pregnancy:

In this period, fetal cell develops from an embryo into an egg-sized fetus. Pregnant women may get queasy in be morning and just eat a little bit. Therefore, pregnant women have to eat more than normal meal just 5-10%, pay attention to get enough vitamins, especially vitamin E (beans sprouts: eat 4-5 times/week). If you still have queasy or nausea, try to eat several little meals and prepare food to eat right after waking up.

The 3-month middle stage of pregnancy:

During this period, the fetus develops slowly. Pregnant women should eat enough nutrients, increase her weight from 10 to 20% for reserving energy which is for the last three months (see Table 1).

The last three months of pregnancy:

This is the rapid development stage of fetus; In the first 6 months, the fetus only reaches more than half kg meanwhile its weight can reach up to 3-4kg in the last three months which is also the particularly formative stage of brain (Lasts until the 24^th month after birth). Therefore, women must foster the growth of the fetus by eating enough nutrients and avoid the unscientific case that you have a craving for food you like. (Since 1959, through diet guidance, I have helped many miscarriage-repeated women to prevent miscarriage and have effective and healthy childbirth).

Pregnant women have to follow their own individual's diet. They should always pay attention to the menu to eat enough necessary nutrients, not too much or little.

Regardless how much money you have and how choosy you are in food, every day you should try to eat 50g soybean and 30g sesame. Just two things provide you 30% of the protein, 40% fat, 100% unsaturated fat, 45% Ca, 30% iron, 20% fiber and vitamin E of your need. These are necessary for the formation of the child’s body.

After giving birth:

In the first months after birth, the mother should eat well to quickly recover and have enough milk for the baby. The mother should eat enough protein (meat, fish, eggs...), vegetables, pay attention to foods high in iron and vitamin C (see the table at the end of the book).

Through Table 1, we can see in the first 6 months after giving birth, the mother should increase her nutritional average intake by 20% - 30% in comparison with the last 6 months of pregnancy. Particularly in the first month after birth she should increase more nutritional foods (in order to get enough milk for the child and health recovery).

Studying the breast milk content (row 188 in Table 12) we can find out that it contains high measure of Fat, Calcium, vitamin C and low in Iron. The mother should eat a lot of Calcium (Doubling the normal amount), fat (especially unsaturated fat) and vitamin C (150% of normal diet) to have enough qualified milk for the baby.

THE NUTRIENTS NEED SPECIAL ATTENTION:

Ca: If the pregnant mother’s diet lacks of Calcium, the Calcium in the mother’s bone will move into the bone of the child. Consequently, the risk of osteoporosis in mother and the rickets in the child will increase (lead to a lot of diseases in old age). The child will be vulnerable to severe rickets, fussy, difficult to bring up, big head, little ass, loose stomach, bendable limbs, heavy sweat in sleeping, jumpy, bald nape, underdeveloped intelligence, poor development of jaw, misshapen teeth, slow learning to speak, seat and walk. In order to get enough Calcium, please calculate your diets depending on table 1 and 4. Stewed bone soup is suggested (finger-sized bone each week).

Fe: Not long ago, the health sector announced that more than 60% of pregnant women in the last trimester got anemia due to Fe deficiency. They recommended pregnant women to take 180Fe supplement pills in this stage (According to the latest figures from the British scientists, women taking Fe supplements will get hypertension and low birth weight). Please search table 6 to eat enough Fe, especially eating cooked animal blood three times a week, from 50 to 100g with vegetables rich in Fe and vitamin C, you can sufficiently get 30mg Fe/day and no need to take Fe pills. The mother getting enough Fe in this period will have enough blood to bring nutrients to the fetus and have sufficient reservation of Fe in the human body for the first 4-5 months of the baby (because breast-milk is lacking of Fe and can only providing dozens % of the Fe demand daily).

Unsaturated fat:

The mother needs to put enough unsaturated fat in her body to help to form the best brain (see Table 8).

Iodine:

Iodine is needed in combating child cretinism. Pregnant women should eat iodized salt during pregnancy and her entire life.

Abstainer and avoidance: Mother should not eat sour star-fruit (the preventive substance of calcium absorption). It is also suggested that pregnant women should not eat ripe papaya because its latex is harmful to fetus. Cabbage should be cooked carefully to kill anti-iodine. In the first days of newly fertilized egg the women should not eat a lot of the liver and liver products (excess of vitamin A). The mother should not hold or peel potatoes with sprouts or green peel (poison from the peel and sprouts can absorb into the body through the skin and harm the child). Absolutely avoid eating musty peanuts.

Notice: Currently in Vietnam there are pills supplementing variety of minerals and vitamins for pregnant women as Prenatal. Doctors generally designated 1 tablet per day; however, to me, such pills contain excessive nutrition, expensive, unhealthy. I suggest taking 1 tablet in 2 days is enough.

3. Vitamin and mineral supplement to meals

The supply of vitamins and minerals for the body primarily comes from vegetables, fruits because in daily meal contains a large portion in comparison with meat, fish, eggs... Today, the amount of vitamins and minerals in vegetables are declined because of soil erosion. Report no. 264 of the US Senate (1936) said that the "content of vitamins, minerals in farm had disappeared, crops, cereals, vegetables and fruits are of poor quality because soil do not have enough minerals like the old day. The frequent use of that crops will lead to diseases related to minerals deficiency". Therefore 85% of Americans suffer from lower back pain due to lack of Cu (causing degeneration of the spine).

Please add more vegetables and fruits into meals. Planting in your own land especially little spinach, sweet potato leaves, leaves and fruits of figs, leaves of edible vegetables (Okinawan spinach, centella, hibiscus leaves...) There are two precious things that many people do not eat are grapefruit pulp and orange pulp. Here we must mention one extremely precious vegetable that is cassava.

How to eat: Vegetables should be eaten immediately after being cooked, especially vegetables rich in vitamin C, (every day) eating 4-6 ounces of vegetables every day is acceptable. Half a century ago, Aging department of Soviet Academy of Science had sent experts to the families having over 100-year old elders to find the longevity reason and they found that the average vegetables per capita in these families is 500 - 600g / day (see Appendix V).

           4. Cassava leaves

The nutrients content in Cassava leaves are far outnumbered other vegetable, including expensive vegetables such as pea, broccoli, sauropus, tomatoes, mushrooms ... Compared with beef, cassava leaves have fewer protein, otherwise, Fe and calories are better than beef in every perspective left. You only need to plant few trees along the fence or along the road, then you can have them available all year round. It is recommended that you should pick the leaves, wash it and then cook it right before eating. Toxins in leaves appear after being picked. The more time they are stored the more toxins they contain. Toxins evaporate with steam and got in thermal destruction. You should boil it without lid and should not use its boiled water. It is considered as toxics-free if you pick the leaves, wash and cook successively and it can be mixed with other vegetables.

Notice: Do not eat high-yielding cassava leaves, it is not because our poverty that we have no choice but to eat cassava leaves. People are accustomed to eat them in many countries throughout the world, and some areas in Vietnam. Due to its benefit in health my family has eaten it for 70-80 years. When the Soviet Union was in its day, many scientists from Academy of Sciences have advised people to eat cassava directly and daily. Salty pickled cassava leaves with cooked fish and spice in a slow cooker stewed cooking is a healthy, delicious and cheap dish. Following cassava leaves is fig fruit and leaves. They are rich in Fe and pickled figs are very valuable.

5. Diets for puberty and children:

If you want to increase your kids’ height, one of the most attentive things is to provide them with decent amount of Calcium during this period.

Người Việt Nam ít ăn sữa và cá kho nhừ xương, cho nên khau phần thường thiếu Ca từ 30-50%. Nghiên cứu bảng 1 ta thấy: Nhu cầu Ca của trẻ từ 6 tháng tuổi đến dưới 10 tuổi là như người lớn (500mg/ngày xem bảng trang 1 cuối sách) và nhu cầu sắt bằng hay cao hơn người lớn (12mg so với 11mg).Cha mẹ cần chỉ dẫn cho con ăn các thứ có nhiều Ca (Xem bảng 4). Nên khuyến khích trẻ ăn xương hầm nhừ và các thức ăn có nhiều chất kẽm, chất sắt (Xem bảng 5-6).

The Vietnamese drink little milk and rarely eat well-cooked fish so their diet is often lack of 30-50% Calcium. Studying Table 1 we can see that the Calcium demand in children from 6 months to under 10 years old is adequate to an adult (500mg / day, see the end of the page Table 1) and Fe demand is equal to or higher than in adults (12mg compared with 11 mg). Parents should encourage their children to eat food with high Calcium (See Table 4) and stewed bones and foods rich in zinc and Fe (see Table 5-6).

Children under three years old are provided vitamin A supplement by the government. As children over three years old, let them eat enough spiny bitter gourd for decent vitamin A (Spiny bitter gourd contains 25-30 times as much as carotene than peeled carrots, see Table 12, row 53), little spinach, liver, carrots (should eat its peeling part) ... After eating, carotene will be kept in liver for a long time (see Table 12, column 12).

With pubertal children: Daily demand is 700mg Calcium while American standard requires 1500mg (one and a half as much as the adult’s demand). Calcium deficiency in this period makes bones weak, vulnerable to osteoporosis later in life. In this stage children are more likely to lack of Fe, especially girl in the beginning of menstruation, her demand soared 20 to 24mg/day. 60% of girls get tired due to Fe deficiency and anemia. Girls and women should increase their intake in cooked animal blood, soya flour and vitamin C supplement.

6. Organizing and eating meals:

1.   First never skip breakfast because no-breakfast is very harmful to the brain. Breakfast should contain at least 25% essential nutrients in the day and should be eaten with care. In breakfast, fatty nutrients are easily absorbed than other times. Skipping breakfast is a big mistake, especially those who want to fight obesity.

2.   Should have 3-4 meals/day. The less number of meals is, the more susceptible to disease you get.

3.   Do not eat too full in dinner due to difficult digestion.

4.   Eat and chew slowly can help digesting rate up to 85%. Eating fast makes only 75% food digestible.

5.   Skipping breakfast to fight obesity is wrong. The longer you let your stomach empty, the fattier accumulation you have. Skipping a meal then eating more in the next one is harmful.

7. Return to the nature:

It took a long time for human being to research a conclusion that is: To live a long, healthy, beautiful life, one must return to the nature, live and integrate with nature, and among the means to turn back, eating is the most important factor. Many books on "new nourishing method" attracted the attention of many people, especially people from the West. Almost everyone acknowledged the role of healthy eating and promoted the use of foods derived from plants.

Facing the complicated problem ofprevention and treatment ofsickness, as health care costs rose to almost to an unbearable level, people began to look into past experience to find out the cause and the remedy in order to overcome it. For nearly 30 years, I have heard of dozens ofprescriptions, eating and exercising methods or even a method can “cure all illnesses”. However, I found the best method in preventing disease and creating good health for long life was to maintain a reasonable, scientific eating habits that fit our own

In recent years, people all around the world are in favor of natural food such as jungle vegetables, wild vegetables, self-grew vegetables, organic vegetables, or even organic rice ... In Japan, the price of organic rice price is rather high. According to statistics, annual productivity of this kind of vegetable can reach hundreds of millions of tons only in China. In Hanoi and Ho Chi Minh City there are available fertilizer and planting-without-soil instructions. Vegetables can be available after 15-20 days for gradual use. Many industrialized food or processed foods available in the market are something not nutritious. The food sellers all know the plain fact that selling delicious foods will make more money than selling nutritious food.

The best way to provide nutrients for the body is diversifying food, eating a variety of foods and vegetables a day, at least changing the courses every week because the minerals and vitamins can be stored in a week, a month or longer.

           13. Five standards of an excellent kitchen

Whether in a family kitchen or an open kitchen, both the cooking people and the eating people should think to reach five standards: clean, nutritious, delicious, sufficient and cheap. Clean is the first basic standard that every dish should have.

1.  Clean:

There is an old maxim: "Diseases enter through the mouth and

Problems come from the mouth”

Unclean eating habit is equivalent to putting diseases in the body itself. There is case of extravagant party with tasty foods, attractive decoration but hundreds of people got food poisoning a few hours after eating due to unclean foods. AS a result, many people have died.

What is definition of cleanliness? It is the food which does not contain harmful substances to the body or the toxic content is lower than permission, no harmful eggs of worms or bacteria. The most frightening fact is that there are still remained pesticides in vegetables, spices and malign dressings in processed foods such as borax, urea (to marinate meat and fish) and chemical sugar. Another poison is spoiled food and carcinogen-released mold (yellow mold in peanuts) or even growth stimulants remained in food.

Speaking of cleanliness, sometime, something that appears to be clean, turns out to be dirty, and something appears to be dirty is in fact very clean. For instance, fresh vegetables in food stalls, restaurants, processed food available in market or street food... their appearance is eye-catching and delicious but in terms of food hygiene they are very scary. That is the dirtiness in what you supposed to be clean. If we pour some grains of salt or iodized salt into water, we will see mud-liked substance floating in the water and it slowly settle to the bottom after a particular time. It is precipitation of compounds containing many essential minerals for our body. It is the clean substance inside a dirty appearance. People used to say —the dirtier you eat, the longer life you have”. In reality, nobody who eats really dirty food filled with egg worm, pathogenic bacteria and toxins can live long.

The CLEAN MEAL must be associated with the healthy body. People wish each other everyday meals tasty and healthy. Clean food but no healthy content is as dangerous as unhygienic food. Eminent physiologist Pavlov once said: "The man who killed themselves because of no self-control, no regulation and mistreat toward their bodies."

Healthy diet means eating smartly and moderately according to nutritional requirements of the body, eating to prevent disease, to be healthier and live longer. Do not only eat what your tongue desire such as eating what you like too much, ignoring what you don’t like although they are rich in nutrients that your body needs.

Nobody loves you more than yourself. If you really love your body, do not weaken it, do not satisfy your tongue temporarily but shorten your life, and do not eat arbitrarily, especially unhealthy food. Mr. Miculin - General engineer of MIG aircraft of the former Soviet Union - worked passionately as an inherent disease of scientist that he forgets eating, sleeping and even caring to his health. At the age of 40 he was hospitalized for exhaustion health status. Lying on bed and ruminates about his past, he figured out his mistake and intended to fix it. After 30 years of trying, in his 70 he felt more energetic than his 40. Then he wrote the book "The long active life," to tell readers the lesson of his own life. The book was translated into many languages.

A highlight of the book is a disease-preventive diet. When he stayed in sanatorium, the chef at the nursing home saw that he only ate half of the meals and asked him why. Then he replied: "I only eat enough for my body."

2.    Nutritious:

People usually consider foods containing animal protein like beef, lean meat, shrimp, eggs, milk, fish, mullet.... are nutritious when being cooked, release attractive smell and create appetite. Actually these foods are characterized by its delicious rather than nutritious. Therefore, in terms of sufficient nutrients for the human body nothing can be compared with soybeans. But only nutritionists truly see soybeans as the most nutritious food.

In the aspect of nutrition, we should know that all the necessary nutrients to maintain human life and all living creatures are absorbed in accordance with their requirements in terms of quantity, quality, in right time and methods. They are “nutritious”. Besides, excessive or deficient nutrient intake can cause illness or death.

In 1935, an American scientist carried out an experiment on a group of mice with nutrition sufficiency in their whole life. In comparison with the model group which provided food was only enough for maintaining their breath, with the same kind of food on average, the first group grew twice as fast and live twice as short as the second. Currently, wealthy children eat too much food and absorb abundantly nutrition, they are vulnerable to obesity and their life expectancy is going to be short.

In the following decades of 1945, developed countries were in the race of improving their people’s living standards determined by the amount of nutrition consumption growth per capita which is more than 100 kg of meat, 200 eggs and hundreds of liters of beer, wine ... the higher the standard of living rose, the more serious diseases such as cancer, heart disease, hypertension, diabetes appear. Today there is no competition like that in this field but striving to improve quality of life, especially life expectancy and education levels are more and more concerned. For this purpose, we must know what wise, moderate and scientific diets are. In other words, we should know the right meaning of “healthy” and provide your body with enough nutrition according to stage of human body’s needs.

3.   Delicious:

Please see page 35.

      4. Enough:

This is also an enormous problem of mankind when more than one billion people on earth are hungry for food and usually have to go to bed with an empty stomach. For overweight people, just a little bit decrease in meal portion makes them hungry. The feeling of hungry in them is a kind of sickness, not a sign of nutritious deficiency. However, many people with a satisfied stomach still desire to eat more. Eating excessive nutrition can lead to obesity, which make you die soon.

For older people, the feeling of full comes slowly after eating. Even their stomach full of food, they do not have the feeling of satisfaction... Elderly people should remember this sentence: "There must be a little hungry in a full stomach, not for a little full in the hunger". In other words, after finishing the meals you should have a feeling of a little bit hungry, moreover, before meal time if you are a little bit full, skip this meal.

For children, do not allow them to eat full all day, especially children in wealthy families. Eating many meals a day help them grow fast but also reduce their life expectancy. Children need to feel hungry at least half an hour before meals then the meal will be beneficial to their health! Do not allow them to eat sweets before meals and snacks throughout the day.

      5. Cheap

Cheap food does not mean that it does not contain nutrients (Of course it’s not as delicious as the expensive stuff) such as soybeans and popular food. The cheapest food is self-cultivated vegetables or wild vegetables, especially pueraria or fig leaves, which are very nutritious but not much people know about it. There are also many kinds of meat, fish that are affordable and high in nutrients. If we take time to think and calculate we still can find food that is both affordable and nutritiously sufficient. Those who lack of money but knowledgeable, know how to calculate and choose the cheap food in best quality still can provide themselves enough nutrition.

#   2. THE WILL IN EATING

Earlier in this chapter we have already known that if you want to be healthy, first of all you have to eat well according to three conditions: KNOWLEDGE, DESIRE and MONEY.

Everyone wants to eat deliciously (and dresses well), but some delicious food appear to be delicious but are not really nutritious or even contains toxics. Therefore, we should make a choice between dangerous but tasteful food and helpful food without taste, or not favorable. It rarely happens to see a person enjoying an extravagant meal then dying suddenly. People only shorten their life due to lack of knowledge in eating. In that case, we need to use the power of your desire to make the choice between delicious food and nutritious food, between the appetite and longevity.

Notice: the stomach mucosa regenerates every 5 days. The regenerative time of other organs is: one month for skin, 6 weeks for liver and three months for bones. After a year, 98% of our body is renewed. Therefore, we should provide enough nutrients scientifically for our body to live longer and avoid sickness.

#   3. DO EXERCISE AND MAINTAIN YOUR HEALTH.

Besides a wise diet, we have to do many things to be healthier and live longer. There are so many contents that this book can not cover. You can find articles by the world famous medical doctors like Walloc, Te Luc Quoc, Hong Quang Chieu, and articles on health protection for the elderly posted in The Elderly, The Veterans, Health and Life, Family and Social Affairs Newspapers and learn from them do exercise and maintain your health.

In summary: The secret of healthy and happy live during your entire life without sickness is a smart diet as indicated below:

 1. Learn to master the nutritional needs of the body and necessary foods that contain

1.   most nutrients needed. When having a meal, we should pay attention to its nutritional value and stop eating we I am nearly full.

2.   Eat different kind of foods in one meal, recognize food that you have not eaten for a long time and do not abstain from any kinds of food.

3. Eat plenty of vegetables (4-6 grams / day), especially green leafy vegetables, wild or self-cultivated vegetables, drink enough water, be sure to provide sufficient cholesterol, Ca as well as essential micronutrients such as Se, Mg... for the body.

4. Care for "nutrition for the soul" by trying to do at least one good deed for others’ joy, not thinking of hatred or annoying things and find joy inside sadness.

5. Try to do a manual work a day until you are a little sweat.

6. Try to follow and apply the 10 secrets of longevity from over-hundred-year-old men in a report of Soviet Aging Faculty which is published more than 50 years.

A2.2 THE SECOND mAtER tOoL

a.   A SOLID KNOWLEDGE

There is one important thing we should know before studying deeper into this section:

Since 1970, in the book “future shock”, A. Toffer wrote: "Today, young people are forced to spend a lot of precious time of youth learning the knowledge that their whole life never use it. And the extremely necessary knowledge in life, they do not care to learn. "

 

You will find out the highly necessary tools that you had not been taught in schools, universities and vocational schools in this book and on the website: hanhtrangdoinguoi.net

In this section, the author only discusses the study of general knowledge and vocational knowledge that reader can achieve the most effective way to make a living (a thing that each youth must do in his first 15 years and the knowledge everyone should know is given in Appendix I). Each youth should learn all the general knowledge in high school (12 years of learning) in order to have a basic knowledge for a job. After learning at least at one main job (18-month training), they can make a better living. The second tool is for learning a vocation for living afterwards.

There was an ideological statement from previous era —excel in a job, prosper the whole life”. Today those who just master an aspect of life cannot sufficiently support their life. In other words, in today economy, one should have at least 3 kinds of professional training: the first one is profession in a field of interest; the second is a proficiency in languages, you should be bilingual or multilingual/ and the last one is technology; any extra field is acceptable.

In the beginning of 20th century, only primary school system was introduced in developed countries, and Junior high school education was then developed many years later. Currently, Senior high school is popular in most countries in the world. Students must learn general knowledge and professional knowledge, and it takes more time to complete the program. So, students must work very hard in order to catch up the school workload.

This remind me my case. I still remember that in summer of 1950, as a 10th-grader, I helped Mr. Tran Duc Nhien (who has just finished 9^th grade) to complete 10th grade within three months. Then, I was self-taught the 11^th-grade program, I then helped Nhien to complete 11^th grade. After that, we both passed the test of 12^th grade. Four years later, Nhien became the principal of Bac Ly high school where he had made a worthy contribution to build his school from almost nothing to become the pioneer of high school educational developer in North Vietnam since 1960.

Our present education system does not allow students to skip classs like that no matter how excellent the students are. Under such a system, there would never exist genius such as Masoud Karkehabadi, who excellently completed a doctorate degree at the age of 13 (See Young Genius No.41: 3/98), like Mr. Nguyen Tue who graduated from 7 universities and earned a doctorate degree in nuclear engineering in 10 years (See page 144).

However, nothing can deter the will and the spirit of self-learning of young people. Therefore, there are senior high school students have mastered English and computer skill. Many people attend many universities at the same time. Today education costs a lot of money and effort, not to mention many other factors. Therefore, the number of failure is still outnumbered the success.

We all know that poverty and ignorance are the two most formidable enemies of mankind. The poverty makes people ignorant and ignorance in turn creates poverty. If fate gives us both of these enemies, we should fight against them separately by trying to live in poverty and fighting to improve your knowledge. Then when we are no longer ignorant, knowledge we gained will support us in earning a better living. Many poor people still perform well in learning and have totally changed their life by education. After starting a

The gem without honing or grinding, is useless and unworthy piece of stone.

Man without learning will soon turn into ignorance and foolishness.

In three stupidities (already mentioned in the beginning of this book), the ignorance of NOT KNOW WHAT NEED TO KNOW is worst. Beside the knowledge about scientific diet, you should know the importance of gaining general and professional knowledge before enter a real life journey.

You can possess the first tool, the knowledge of scientific diet just in a few days. However, you cannot speed up in the process of gaining general and professional knowledge in such a hurry way. This is a huge amount of work that requires a lot of time, effort, money, volition, dynamic, intelligence, and many other conditions.

A student who wants to study well should grasp in hands 7 following conditions:

A.2.2.1 The seven learning conditions making a good student:

Every student wants to do well at school. You need to master seven following conditions to perform well at school:

1.  Good health:

This is also the content of the first baggage. Students who want to study well should first read the first section, understand the knowledge of the first tool thoroughly and apply it properly daily.

2. Hardworking and determination to study well:

One must practice regularly. Without practicing, even a genius cannot become good in every aspect of life. Industriousness and high determination are two top important virtues of mankind. I know of a girl who has worked and studied all day since she got 7. When someone asked her why she was so young to study and working assiduously like that, she replied: "My father taught me that if i want to be happy later in life I should work for it." 20 years later, what she said came true.

3. Having a good teacher:

A proverb says: "One cannot learn anything without a teacher."A good teacher is very important for students to love his subjects, understand his lessons quickly, remember for a long time and spend less time studying at home.

A good teacher can become an idol, a good example whose advices and powerful expressions left by them can stay eternally in the students’ soul for their entire life. For example: Socrates was the teacher of Plato then Plato became the teacher of Aristotle, after that Aristotle taught Alexander the Great.

After 1945, being back to Long Xuyen for teaching, teacher Nguyen Hien Le taught his students: "you can have a little below average in physical condition but in mental one you should maintain beyond that level." After 1975, his students - most of them were in their 50

-   visited him and quoted his words. They said: "we would never have forgotten your specious words until our last breath." “A normal teacher only talks, a good teacher explains, an excellent teacher illustrates but a great teacher inspires his students” (W.A. Ward).

An average teacher needs textbook to teach, a lousy teacher cannot teach even with textbooks and a good teacher can teach with or without textbooks because he makes his own textbooks. (It reminds me back in 1962, I taught a class with three students and they had only 5 and a half months to finish the programs of four grades to enter Hanoi Medical University. Due to time constraint, I was able to teach only two subjects: physics and math and looked for another one to teach chemistry. In My school, there was a very good chemistry teacher, Mr. Tran Dong, but he refused to take this class due to short teaching time. I then invited him to attend the one of my Chemistry classes. After watching my teaching methodology, Mr. Dong agreed to use my method and took this class. The result was all three students of this class passed.)

4. Have a good studying method:

Each subject has its own studying method. Such method is often instructed by the teachers or parents.

Sometimes what one has studied one subject in the whole school year can simply be summarized in a few pages. Yet when being asked about that knowledge, many students still forgot, especially in maths. Therefore, to continue taking an upper-class subject

becomes very difficult because of their lack of basic knowledge.

What should be remembered are theorems, mathematic laws, basic formulas, the key points of the lessons, the most important phrases and verses... For instance: When a person asks: who is Ba Trung? Who read the Declaration of Independence in Socialist Republic of Vietnam? How to calculate the area of a triangle? What is the best poem of Ba Huyen Thanh Quan? Where is the Red River? What a shame

for those who do not know.

Before going to school:

Before going to the class to learn a new chapter, students must understand everything from the last chapter. For example: To learn geometry in grade 9, you must remember the basis from 7^th and 8^th grades, which can be summarized a few pages. Also, try to spend time reading the new lessons before coming to the class and listening to the teacher.

When listening to the teacher:

Students must concentrate on listening and not talking or doing something else and mastering the art of listening (at the end of this tool), spotting out the important knowledge, finding out the main idea of the lectures and the main theorems, laws, formulas... needed to remember, underlining, framing, high lining the important points and formula for easier to remember, learn and review for the final exam (see item 6 from 9 listening tips at the end of this section).

Going home:

Review the lessons assiduously and complete your homework. You should immediately review the main ideas which are emphasized by the teacher right after class. If you have opportunities, spend time tutoring to your classmates or your lower-classmates, because teaching something is learning it the second time.

5. Have a high IQ:

Some people are endowed with inbred brains. They are quick learners. They understand immediately what they heard, remember all lessons in class and need no reviewing time to learn the lessons. Most of them would rank the first and the second highest in the exam in the group.

6. Have sufficient tools for teaching and learning.

The school side:

Teachers should be equipped with necessary tools like laboratory kits, maps, illustrations and equipments needed for the teaching and learning of teachers and students... The kindergarten kids should have the alphabet toys ... In modern time, many countries have held distance learning programs via radio, television, or the internet.

The family side:

Parents should reserve a studying corner with table and chair suitable to their children’s bodies. They need to buy enough school tools and give enough learning time for their children. Parents need to create a good environment with a peace of mind and concentration on their studies. Parents should set an example of hard working for their children to follow. In poor families, besides studying, the children have to help their parents with housework or getting part-time jobs to support the family, and they do not even have enough time for studying. But the poor children in good and hard-working families can do better in school than children of wealthy families who are lazy, aimless and stuck in useless games that are both costly and time-wasting.

7. Studious traditions of family, relatives, local area:

This is very important enzyme to stimulate, elevate and support the students. In our country there are many families, local and lots of families have the studious people such as the family of Ngo Thi, Phan Huy, Cao Xuan and ethnic village of bachelors in Dilinh K’hor. Many neighbor families (are) also stimulated and facilitated their children a good education. Nguyen Tu family (Nguyen Tu Quang’s family) in my village also possesses a studious tradition with many intellectual people in the past two centuries. Thanks to this tradition many poor families in my community have a positive effect on their own children’s education.

Today there are local and family association encouraging the youth to overcome their family’s difficulty and rise to a higher education.

Besides seven conditions mentioned above, you should master the operating rules of working with the brain and conform to those rules in order to study well.

A.2.2.2 The working rule of the mind:

The entire learning process for students is an intellectual work. Someone said: "human’s minds are capable of continuous work without stop. What we need to do is changing the form of working." Experiments have proved this statement was wrong. Let’s consider two following experiments:

+ In a class, a teacher gives some complex math problems for students. After half an hour, he lets half of the class take a break and the rest continue without a recess. After break time, half of the class come back and continue to solve the math with the whole class. The final results showed that the half having a break can solve more quickly and correctly than the other half.

+ A teacher allows students in two different classes learning the same lesson. After one period, one class has a five-minute break while the other class learn continuously without stop. After two periods, both classes then take a test. The result showed that 5-minute break helps students remember what they learned more than the other class.

+ We know that the oxygen demand of the brain is very high, especially when the students are in concentrating, studying and doing exercise (see page 59). If you want to study well you should provide your brain with enough oxygen. In exam season, many students spend the whole night learning and reviewing without sleep or relax. It is totally wrong and harmful to the bodies and the mind for not being absorbed the knowledge learned. It makes learning inefficient.

A.2.2.3 The best studying methods for Literature, Mathematics, and Foreign Language.

Everyone knows that these are the most important subjects in high school. Literature helps us learn other subjects better. Math is the cornerstone for the study of natural sciences subjects. Foreign languages help us understand our mother tongue better, read foreign reference book and information technology terminology, explore the internet and communicate with foreigners in an international business environment which is important in today’s world.

A.   Learning method in literature:

Tolstoy once said: "The amount of knowledge that children gain in their first 5 years is larger than the amount that they will learn to the rest of their life." This is the stage of language development as well as the development phase of intelligence and personality formation (90% of the human personality is formed in this period). If the children are read many literature works of bright, concise, highly visual, poetic... by their parents the "love of literature" in their mind will be "awakened" such as To Huu, Tran Dang Khoa ... then while going to school, they will learn literature better.

After 33 years of doing research on vocabulary level of students aging from primary to senior high school as well as adults, Parson Xukhomlinxki (1918 - 1970, a teacher, high school principal of Soviet Academy of Science in Pavluts found that "a seven-year-old child, born in an ordinary peasant family (parents with high school education, having a bookcase with 300-400 books), before going to school, could understand and felt shades of emotion of 3000 to 3500 words in his mother tongue, while his active vocabulary was over 1500 words. A worker with high school education level, ages of 45-50, can understand and feel the emotions of 5,000-5,500 words, including their active vocabulary which does not exceed 2000-2500 words. These example conclusively prove that the childhood has an important implication on human life" (For the children, Hanoi Women Publisher, 1979, page 16)

He continued: "If in the first grade the student can read 5,000 pages more and write 1,000 pages more in high school then he will be good at literature as well as other subjects”.

To conclude: if we want to help our children be good at literature, we should actively help develop their language in their childhood in the first year of their life (from 1 to 5 years old) and in primary school period. If children do not receive such a support to fostering in a proper language in early childhood, then it will be rather difficult to help them doing well in literature in upper classes.

In other words, for children who receive no language development in their childhood, no reading, no listening to stories telling, poems reading, no training in reading and writing skills cannot be excellent in this subject. Later tutoring will be too late and not be a good improvement method. Also, if we want our average-level literature children to be upgraded, we then try to read many works of literature and pay attention to others’ writing style in these works. Such a "self-learning" style is hard to achieve good results and will take a lot of time.

To help children be better in literature, parents should buy comic books, children's stories, and fairy tales book and spend time reading to them at the age of 1-5. Children (or even adults) now do not like to read because they are not developed their "passion for

reading" in their childhood. It is a big loss for them and for the country.

B. Studying Method in maths:

Currently, human is moving rapidly into the era of information technology. There are some kinds of computer can do hundreds of trillions of calculations, can count hundreds of millions of chess moves per second. In many countries, people can sit at home and use their computer networking to make purchases which will be delivered to their house within 24 hours. Sometimes the price is half as cheap as registered price at the supermarket. Someone said that there are pocket calculators, no need to force our children to learn and remember those arduous mathematical formulas as in the past. For example, instead of forcing children to memorize the multiplication tables, let them use the calculators which is more quickly than the original way. This is a good idea but I have to warn you to be aware of the downside of it. Particularly, there are many market sellers can calculate mentally faster than the one holding calculator though they are illiterate.

One of the most important skills students needs to be taught is mental arithmetic skills. It is very necessary in life. Meanwhile, math textbooks in primary mathematics have now abolished this skill(s) (Japanese abacus was highly appreciated all over the world at this point). Therefore, those who wants to be good at maths must follow these following rules:

1.   Training the passion for maths:

The passion for math is the first and the most important factor to study well. The more enthusiastic you are, the more time you spend on it, the more you practice the better you are.

2. Understanding, remembering and applying basic knowledge learned before.

For example: it is useless when a student wants to learn about circle (at end of grade 9) but he misses all the basics of geometry he had learned in 7th and 8th grade. Maths is considered as a tall building which is built on a solid foundation of knowledge system. Neither understanding nor remembering the previous knowledge will block you away from effective learning.

3. Understanding, remembering and mastering the skills of solving each type of maths:

For example: a student is required to find the area of a rectangle based on the length and the width of it. If he forgets the formula as well as does not know how to calculate, how he could find the answer?

4. Learning, understanding and remembering the theory, theorems, formulas before doing homework.

5. Utilizing the appropriate time to learn maths.

For example: Sometimes when we just read maths problems, intuitively we find the way to solve the problem. It’s a good timing for learning maths. In contrast, when we do not have an answer for continuous 4-5 exercises, we try our best in vain. Then we should set them aside and wait for a more suitable time. We should other subjects instead and then return to maths. This time, we will do the maths better.

6. Spending time on teaching maths to classmates or lower classmates

This is beneficial for the one who teaches rather than the learners. When you forget something when teaching, you can review it. This means you learn it the second time and you will remember longer. Thus we can fill out what we missed in the previous grade and strengthen our learning process.

C. Method in learning foreign languages:

We should master the four skills: reading, writing, listening and speaking if we want to be good at it (concentrate on speaking skill in everyday conversation) and have a (vast) good amount of vocabulary.

Speaking and listening skills:

In order to speak any foreign language as your native language, besides having good teacher with standard pronunciation, children should have access to it before the age of 9, or later at 10. The most effective way is let them get familiar with foreign language before they are 6. When kids’ ears get subtle enough to distinguish languages coherently, this language is easy to them to imitate. Some countries do not have some sounds such as Chinese has no letter R, and Japanese has no letter L. For some languages without a timbre as Vietnamese, early access to foreign language before the age of 9 will allow kids to pronounce correctly the sound their country does not have.

There are foreign language lessons offered on radio, television, the internet by native speakers which are very convenient for students due to low cost. To read well, children should be allowed to repeat after their teacher loud, repeat to tapes and read repeatedly to improve their pronunciation correctly and learn to read faster. Students should make dialogues using the informal words by natives, avoid using too formal words to communicate in daily life. Try to listen to the tapes and radio regularly. Practicing this language regularly with teammates, family members who can speak this language will be helpful to the students.

About writing skill:

Students need to write over and over again using the words, the sentences which they have learned to remember the collocations, to write fast and to use grammar correctly.

Vocabularies

To enrich your vocabulary, you should learn at least 5 new words each day. You can write them on the board or write on any flat surface and hang flashcard in easy-to-see place. You should have a pocket handbook and divide the page into three columns: the first column about 1cm in width for numbering 5, 10, 15 ..., the second columns are for the new vocabulary and the last column is for the meanings. After learning a certain number of new words, you hide the third column and see the second columns and recalled yourself. See it again if you forget. Read a few times then cover second columns with your hand and recall the words equivalent with the meanings. You can save your time by keeping the notebook to take with you and learn wherever and whenever you go. XA-Xtaroxtin, an academician, who can speak more than 100 different languages, said that in his pockets there always be a set of flash cards to learn on the bus.

Notice: Just as literature and maths, foreign language learner needs to have passion for this subject. Nothing can substitute for the passion for any subject.

A.2.2.4 Nine keys to study better for college students

There are big differences between teaching as well as studying in high school and college. College students who want to study well need to understand and follow 9 basic keys as follows (from the experience of outstanding students in the US):

1.                   Do not let anything interrupt your learning hours. When opening your book, you should concentrate nothing else but what you are about to read.

2. Take advantage of all the opportunity you have to study: when you are even in the restroom, when others are still asleep or when you just got back from school.

3. Organizing your studying place neatly.

4. Learn how to read. According to G.W. Green’s book "How to study well", good readers are always asking themselves lots of questions and trying to answer them to fully understand the author’s true meaning of each sentence, each word.

5. Make your stydying schedule.

6. Learn how to take notes in the class. Teacher usually would repeat the points they want to emphasize in the lecture. Students should jot down these contents while listening to the teachers. At the end of class, they should rewrite it concisely to scan again in the early hours of study at home.

7. Doing homework clearly and carefully.

8. Do not be afraid to questions in class. Ask immediately if you do not understand.

9. Discussing with your classmates what you do not understand (See Today’s Knowledge in Spring Quy Dau, 1993)

The keys are useful

for all students from grade 1 upwards.

College students who want to study well should read Gordon W. Green’s book "Keys to Always Get a 10 in School” translated by Fr. Thach Tran Vu, Culture and Information Publishing Company.

A.2.2.5 The art of listening

"Wisdom comes from listening". "Talking is silver, silencing is gold and listenning is diamond." Mastering the art of listening is the key to attain more intelligence and knowledge. What is the art of listening and its benefits?

When listening to lectures, speeches, radio, TV programs. we usually understand around 50% of the contents; however, when applying the art of listening method, we can acquire around 70-100% of speakers’ content.

While listening, we need to have a pen, a notebook or a piece of paper in our hand. Concentration in listening help you grasp the main idea and write it down quicker on paper. The speed of listening is faster than that of writing; so when the speaker stops speaking, you can check what you wrote down and supplement what you miss even only 1-2 words.

After finishing the listening part, you should review the entire contents written and remember what you have listened to make sure that you do not miss any the important points. The reviewing process is also an opportunity for you to listen to it the second time. Writing is the core of the art of listening. The slower the speakers say, the more the listeners get focused and jot down, the higher the percentages of absorption the listeners have. Then, if necessary, they rewrite what they have listened in another notebook to keep.

A.                  2.2.6. The 11-word motto: —you may not be the best, at least try the most”.

I discovered the use of this motto from a 7 grade school girl in Nam Dinh province. By using the motto, she worked very hard and as the result, she did very well in school. Then, right after completing grade 9, she received a scholarship to study in Australia.

Now a day, lots of high school students including college students do not try their best to study but are rather too busy to playing, chatting and getting stuck in useless computer games. So they did poorly at school. The 11-word motto is similar to the old saying —Trying your best first and your luck will come later”.

Those who learn and try hard to apply this motto to take advantage of their youth will surely achieve more success later in life.

A.2.3. THE THIRD TOOL: AN IRON WILL POWER

The stronger the will is, the higher the career will be”.

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-   An under-six-year-old little girl Roselle Ambubuyog (from the Philippines) determined to study hard to become a doctor to save people. She then unfortunately got ill and was blind kid. Not being discouraged, she thought: "without my two eyes, I cannot become a medical doctor, but I still can be a doctorate in mathematics". With her determination, 11 years later, in spite of her blindness, she graduated first in Ramon Magsaysay High School (the top high school in the capital of the Philippines which was named after a national hero).

Her achievement attracted the attention of president Fidel Ramos decided himself to look after her schooling (Events and Publicity no.25 (50) dated June 16-22, 1997). She was then offered lots of scholarships from famous universities. She accepted the offer from Ateneo de Loyola University, one of the leading universities in Manila that was willing to provide her with a voice-synthesized computer. With this computer system, she could hear the lecture and attend classes as a normal student in a regular classroom atmosphere. Though being disabled, she says: "I do not want to be treated differently from others." With her strong and respectable determination, she surely will achieve her great dream in life.

-   Though being only a 7-year-old, Balamurali Ambati, Indian-American boy, heard of a young man who just graduated from Medical school in Italy with a MD degree at the age of 18, the youngest doctor in the world. Ambati said to himself: —I can do better than that”. Striving to reach his too ambitious goal, he endlessly worked very hard in 10 years; and finally, he earned a medical doctorate degree at Mount Sinai Medical College in New York at the age of 17.

-   G.A. Nasser was 8 years old when his mother died. After his mother was buried, he dug a deep hole and ignored what his father told him to close the hole; He continued to dig deeper and deeper into the ground to find out what is inside the ground that keeps the dead body in the ground. The older he got, the stronger will he mold. At the age of 15, he participated in the revolution and was arrested. After being released, he stayed most the time in his room, closed his doors and read books during for 5 years to show his eager to continue participating in their revolution. At 17 years old, he wrote to a friend: —though my heart could be moved from left to right, the pyramid could be moved away, and the Nile River could change its current, my will to the revolution would never ever be changed."

With a strong determination and an ability to take advantage of the opportunity, especially of difficulty along with his wisdom and fortune, Nasser became president of Egypt at the age of 36. Two years later, after the last three nights of contemplating, he decided to sign the law for nationalizing the Suez Canal, take money to build Assouan dam with a huge amount of rocks which is hundreds times as much as Cheops Pyramid (Cheops was built by more than one million pieces of rock from 7-25 million tons taken from the Assouan, at a distance of 1,000 km away. Only with this action, he was ranked as Cheops and Ramses.

Dear our young friends. You are at your bloomy youth with enormous energy, have you learned of anything from the will of those three children at the ages of 6-7-8 mentioned above from other countries?

In our country, in 1911, a young man Nguyen Tat Thanh went on the ship Latouche

Tréville to France. What kind of baggages, tools, did he bring along”. Someone said: His "baggages" were his “empty hands." We should restate that his baggages were his vigorous will that was as high as Mount Everest and an enthusiastic heart of determination: “to find a way to save his country, to liberate human race". Without those baggages he could not overcome those difficulties of being a waiter working oversea in a ship crossing a rough and stormy sea when he was just a young man unfamiliar with manual works.

Uncle Ho once said:

"Nothing is difficult but a shaken mind One can flatten a mountain and fill the sea with sand with a strong will”

Indeed, without a heroic spirit there will be no heroic action and there will never be a hero. “How can one catch a baby tiger without entering the tiger cave”? In order to mold an iron will for us and our posterity and to create a good foundation for great success, we need to understand thoroughly the following two aspects: theory and practice.

a. 2.3.1. THEORY

Steel needs to be put in flames and then cold water to become useful tools. A person without a strong will is just like a piece of raw steel. "It’s not the lack of power but the lack of will power that counts”, an affirmation of Victor Hugo. Gandhi once said: "Strength does not come from physical body but comes from indomitable will ". A person without a will power is as weak as an idiot. Though he possesses a strong body as an athlete, he will be opting to fail in life.

Someone said: "We are able to control only 10% of what happens in our life where as 90% is beyond our control” and —10% of cases happening to our lives are adverse circumstances." Facing the 10% of unfavorable part, if we do not have ability avoid it, to improve it or at least make it less harmful, we then must accept it. As for you, for me and for each of us, the percentage of what we can do for our society whether it is large or small, primarily depends on ourselves.

In fact, if you are well prepared with a full luggage, tools, for your life, that is a good health, a good knowledge, a strong willpower and other important factors, then the part that you can create for yourself will be larger and you will be able to achieve more of what you want: a great success, a good job, a higher salary, a good spouse and a happy family.

On the contrary, if you are not well-equipped with sufficient tools for your life, you are not healthy and get stuck with obesity, then you cannot fly high as you dreamed of. You want to create lots of happiness but it will keep slipping out of your hands. Then what you can do is blame for your fate.

Dear young friends! Your life is not full of fragrant flowers in fairytale dreams. Whatever your position in society is, you still have to face from one obstacle to another. The higher the mountain is, the deeper its valley will be; the higher the position you hav in life, the more dangerous and difficult you will have to encounter. Whether you have a lot of talents, good virtue and all it takes, and whether you have a superior position in the society: the president, the prime minister or director, your path will still be paved with thorns and enemies. Facing such dangers and difficulties, only those who have strong willpower and enough wisdom will be able to overcome all of this. Otherwise, they can only observe those difficulties then surely be afraid after falling down a couple times. As Nguyen Ba Hoc (1857 - 1921) once said, "The path is not fearful because of harsh obstacles but is blocked by human’s fear of obstacles.”

Learning about human destiny, we need to mention about George Washington’s statement: "The legendary hero will always be exposed to the irony of fate". When difficulties strike on the head, a strong-willed person with great energy will find a way to overcome it. Their fate is positively changed. Conversely, who are low-willed and lack of determination, these obstacles will have crushed them. The fact that fate enlightens some and darkens the other does not mean it is determined by its destiny itself but by human factors. A Polish proverb says that: "Where the willpower comes, the difficulty will leave." By studying the lives of great men with great success, we learn that willpower is a prerequisite factor that helped greatest man succeed in life.

Life is like a voyage. Surfing on ocean of life, everyone is looking forward to calm and smooth waters. It is normal for you to face to unfavorable situations. A strong-willed person will take advantage of it as a source of stimulation to reveal his talent (Horace’s words, ancient Roman). As a war-book stated:” In a hundred-mile journey, 99 miles passed are just equal to half way.”

The closer you come to the destination, the more tired you will get. If we do not have enough willpower to overcome the exhaustion, then 99 miles you have passed means nothing, such as:

Building a castle in the sand Working hard but the result is nothing.

Therefore, "When you are in a really tough situation and everything is turning back against you and you seem to be no longer endurable, do not step back because it is the turning point that usually occurs."(Bistove).

God challenges you when you are tight,

You challenge others when they are relaxed Believe in your ability is the successful key Human’s decision can win the nature.

(Hoang Dong poet, Vung Tau province).

Dear my friend, "Disaster is the hammer of a blacksmith, every hit is an act of molding" (Samuel Johnson). Philosopher Alfred Adler, who spent his lifetime studying intensively the repository of human being, once said: "One of the characteristics of human is his willpower to turn failure into success." Some people have a very strong will, some have weaker one. For instance, two people were detained in the same prison cell, one look at four gray walls in the frightening cold, the other look at the stars in the sky. Sometimes prison is totally in darkness, the prisoners still see shining stars over their heads or bright stars in the middle of their hearts. "I can find the bright future in the darkest tunnel where I see the strength of Vietnam". (in “She’s still digging tunnels”, Huong Duong Ly’s poem). Only those with strong will can see the light even when they are in the darkest tunnel and their life is threatened.

Uncle Ho wrote:

The body is inside the prison The spirit is outside the prison Want to build a great career Your spirit needs to be greater.

Let me restate this: If you want to build a great career, your need to have a great spirit. In the years of 1935 - 1939, late at night, in the morgue of the hospital, Dr. Ton That Tung kept on operating 200 lives to look for the liver veins diagram. With his great spirit, he made the greatest contribution to the global medicine and became a great doctor of all time. Without an enormous willpower he could never achieve that.

"Put your views as high as the Everest peak. No one is born to be a failure'. It is a worthy statement to be hanged in the most visible places in our house such as on a desk or your bed lamp. This is Ben Carson’s statement, a 35-year-old medical doctor who was recognized as a world wonder of modern medicine. From all over the world, many doctors have come to learn from him.

When Ben was 8 years old, his parents divorced. Hating his father’s irresponsibility, he became a grumpy boy. His mother was only a third grader but she was determined to educate bring him up. She encouraged him to show all of what he was good at and helped him build his determination. At his 14 after a quarrel with one of friends, he stabbed him. Luckily, the knife hit the belt’s buckle and there was no serious injury. He then knelt down to pray God to help him snap out of his ferocity nature. Thanks to his iron willpower, he has changed and became very successful in his study. After graduating from medical school, at the age of 31, Ben and his wife moved to Western Australia to work and join a leading center for neurosurgery. Two years later, he operated a 4-year-old epilepsy girl who suffered from 120 seizures a day that repeated every 3-4 minutes. The operation lasted 10 hours and her half right brain was removed; and 6 months later she could join a ballet class. When he was 35, he operated two young Thai twins whose heads was attached from the back that had many common blood vessels. The operation lasted 22 hours with the assistance of 70 surgical team members. The operation was a real success. Since this famous operation, he was called the magical surgeon. In a school visit in 1988, he again shared this famous statement to his old classmates.

From every aspect of our life, though it is big or small, from earning a living to making a successful career, to everyday activities such as eating, drinking, sleeping or getting up. they all need the presence of such a willpower.

Dear young friends, Willpower is a good foundation to build your big dreams. "Without dreams people will turn into animals" (Lenin). A vile dream will make people become despicable. And how big do you build your dreams?

In the book —The World is so big”, Kim Woo Choong wrote: "It is essential for young people to prepare for their tomorrow. The future world depends on what the youth is thinking. Most of guiding words for us to live it right is too obvious. But in reality, they create different destiny for each individual and sometimes for generation. Only when these words become reality through personal experience, we will be able to recognize its importance. I hope that you will continue to grow and live pure mindedly and self-confidently because you are always standing by my heart. Thirty years ago, I did not have a penny but many dreams. Having stepped out of the library at night, it seemed like the whole world belonged to me and I could embrace the whole universe in my arms. To me, it seems that nothing is impossible. Vitality of youth is very important to me and my heart is filled with dreams.

Among the things that youth may possesses, dreams are the most important elements because they build a person’s characters. Dreams play a role of a ship’s rudder. Rudder may be small and invisible, but it’s extremely important to guide the ship to its destination. Life without dreams is like a ship has no rudder.

Having a wrong dream is as dangerous as having no dream. Those whose dreams do not go beyond their present status are no better than those have no dreams. A young person without a dream is not really worth the youth. Dream is the most important thing for young people. Youth is the dream itself and the history of the world belongs to those who dare to dream big".

Dear young friends! Build your big, noble and right dream from the very first step to go on a life’s journey is a very meaningful thing in life. It is, however, not a sufficient condition to be successful in life.

So, the remaining question is —what is the sufficient - determining factor for the growth and the success of a young person on his/ her life’s journey"?

Most young people, when they were still in schools, often compared themselves with their classmates, schoolmates and neighbors... who had higher IQ and admitted to schools for the gifted, allowed to participate in the national, international contests, and more likely received scholarships from universities in foreign countries.

Many people became pessimistic, depressed or even quit school for having a low IQ and being just average students though they had been tried very hard for a long time.

Please don’t feel disappointed for having low IQ. Because IQs only accounts for 20% maximum in the success formula of great men. The remaining 80% belongs to the Adversity Quotients (AQ) group (including EQ).

The AQ factor refers to a person’s willpower, enthusiasm, characteristics... that everyone can try and mold for themselves. AQ is the index of overcoming difficulties, measuring the ability to cope with misfortune and adversity effectively. AQ is the means for measuring the efforts, the determination, the creativities as well as intelligence of a person. It is also an indicator of four levels of a life skill (Tuoitre Newspaper, Sunday 14-9-2003): 1. Change the situation; 2. Reverse the situation; 3. Overcome adversity; 4. Find the way out. These are two most important factors among the six factors to ensure your rapid and sustainable improvement and the great success of every person in life.

Therefore, Epictete’s statement: "Everyone in this world has the right to be happy, if not, it is their fault”, is absolutely correct. Everyone can create the successful factors in the path of their life, even for blind, dumb, deaf or disabled persons that people talked about as an

exemplary examples covered every day by social media such as radios, books, movies.................................................................................................................

Engrave in your heart that if we do not find our happiness, it is our own fault for not to building a foundation for our success, especially when there are plenty of useful guide books on how to think and act appropriately.

To have a high AQ, you should try a lot more than just talking. Please read all of my 6 master tools and try to apply each of them well, then your AQ will be raised naturally. You then keep on applying still the end of your life.

Besides AQ factor, we need to discuss more about other important elements such as an individual’s circumstances and fortune that affect his future.

Individual’s Circumstances:

B.  Shaw said: "People often blame the circumstances for their failure. I do not believe in circumstances. In this world, a successful person is the one who knows how to find the most favorable circumstances for himself or otherwise, create it." Those have the ability to find or create the most favorable conditions for themselves must have high AQ.

Living in this world, everyone hopes to have favorable circumstances. When crossing the ocean, everyone prays for a calm weather. But like a coin having 2 opposite sides, nothing good exists without its downside: advantages vs disadvantages, and good fortune vs misfortune. "Luck and risk... are always twisted together like a rope." (Matsushita in —The way to succeed”, Culture and Information Publisher, page 26). A high-will person is the one who can handle the situation: when a good thing comes, he learns to prepare himself for the coming misfortune; and when a bad thing comes, he will try to avoid or improve the situations that later conversely benefit him and force him to expose his talent, the foundation for his coming success.

There was a Chinese maxim: "There is a good fortune inside the misfortune or vice versa”. An old Chinese folk story tells about a farmer losing his horse: His neighbor felt sorry for him for his losing an old horse, however; the horse then later came back along with an herb of horses. And when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off and broke his leg; everyone felt sorry for the farmer; however, due to his broken leg, he was deferred from military service and avoid being killed in a fierce battle.

During World War II, though millions of Japanese factories were devastated by Allied, the bombing was recognized as “great gift” for their industry by Japanese people. While most countries were proud of their abundant natural resources which are thought to be their favorable condition, Japan faced a severe deficiency of natural resources. Japan, however, considered it as a "favorable condition" that helped stimulate the dynamic mind of its citizen to overcome their difficulty. During the oil crisis in 1973, the price of crude oil increased 4 times in Japan. Although it was a disaster to Japan petroleum industry, their people saw it as an advantage to help develop their economy (in the mentioned book, page 17).

Those who used to live in poverty from their childhood like Dale Carnegie, Nguyen Hien Le and thousands of others (including me) have seen their living condition as an adversity which impedes their progress. Like Nguyen Hien Le and others, I used to feel disappointed for decades because of my poor family. I used to wish "to be born in a better family" to avoid my suffering and help my schooling. When getting older, I realized "How could I be so foolish" as Nguyen Hien Le once said.

Behind the adversity there is always an opportunity that helps poor children build their characters, learn the value of money, increases their love toward family and many different qualities that wealthy children may not have.

Even a fool knows how take advantage of a good opportunity. However, only those who know how to turn a disadvantage situation into an advantage one to benefit themselves as well as prevent themselves from falling are important. They are high-will power people with high AQ that is a determinant of great success.

In contrast, high-will power and intellectual person will try to spot out the adversity in their fortune to prevent it from coming. In sunny day, they are prepared for the rainy one. When the weather is fine, they get ready for the stormy days. When driving in good and smooth highway, they are prepared for an unforeseen accident that may occur. Those who are sleeping on their victory can easily lose themselves and fail.

While the downside of an adversity builds precious characteristics in poor children, the upside of opportunity may form a fearful and dangerous consequence to rich kids. I, sometimes, loudly asked God that "How many rich parents know the dangerous downside of a good opportunity to prevent their kids from unwanted results?” At the age of 80, H.N. Casson, an entrepreneur wrote: "If your parents are wealthy, it may be your misfortune" (—Success”, Youth Publisher, Danang, 1991, page 32). In December 1985, at the age of 91, Matsushita wrote: "On every newspaper nationwide you can find many articles writing about awful crime made by rich kids because of lacking parental guidance.

—             Wealth does not create a person of integrity and high morality” (“Success”, P27).

This phenomenon not only occurred in Japan in those years when more than 90% of Japanese people were in middle-class or higher group but also existed all over the world; and they are still on the rise. There are people living in happiness but still making complaint about their bad luck and looking for a better joy somewhere else. That’s why wealthy parents now tend to force their kids to lean the way the poor kids live and behave.

In the 100th birthday anniversary of Kalinin, his son wrote a memoir about his father consisting the following paragraph: "After the October Revolution, students from Russia’s poorest families were granted scholarships of 25 rubles/month; 15 rubles for paying food and 10 rubles for other expenses. While, though being a wealthy person, my father gave me only 25 rubles’/month allowance. The reason being that my father wanted to treat me the same way poor people were treated. Thanks to him, we were raised properly and taught to appreciate the fruits of labor and we grew up to become his children of characters".

There are some wealthy parents who have simple lives and try to teach their children to live thriftily, wear simple clothes. but sometime their children call them doting, old-fashioned or even complaint about them.

At 45 years after the death of his father and 25 years after the death of his mother, Nguyen Hien Le completed writing one of his famous books —What a son should remember”. In that book there was a sentence: "it is so weird that every time when there are differences between parents and children’s opinion, the children always think that his parents are not wise enough.” That sentence made him cry. Many elderly people also shedded tears while reading this sentence. Meanwhile, young people read it with indifference. Why? Because they do not have sufficient knowledge and experience to understand and judge that statement.

If the wealthy parents insist on teaching their child to live in a difficult condition, their children tend to compare their life style with those of their friends in the same social class who have a total freedom to —burn money”. The children become rebellious and complaint about their parents, even steal money or other properties for their spending habits. If they still do not have enough, they will soon turn into heavy criminal activities like joining gangster or organized crime organization and end up in prison. They only see the paper called —money” but do not know how hard their parents had earned it. They do not know the consequences of having a lavish life that money is the root of all evil that could ruin their life.

For the good and the evil of money, Beaverbrook had written in his book —Build up from nothing” (Long An Publisher, 1989) "Having money is a balance between its advantage and disadvantage. A true person who really knows how to master his wealth creation rarely think about leaving a big fortune to his children. The children only become people of value when they learn to live and struggle themselves in adverse conditions without any financial support from other people except their own intelligence and good characters that make a valuable person.

Particularly, to have children of value, parents in wealthy families should not spoil them. Good parents are those who make it possible for their children to utilize their intelligence and build up their characters, learn the value of labor and develop their AQ rather than let them to waste money for their selfish joy and deteriorate the moral. There are lots of incidents happened recently: nine students died in a motorcycle crash in Vung Tau at end of 1996; a father killed his only son in Hai Phong; a young man in Ha Tinh was executed at the age of 18 for killing his girlfriend ...

In conclusion: The high-will persons with great IQ, know how to overcome the unfavorable fate, seek the most effective way to explore the benefit and prevents the negative aspects of their future to become a perfect people. Those people are evaluated higher than supermen (Charles Wagner).

In terms of FORTUNE:

Everyone hopes and prays for a peace of mind and a good fortune and stays away from problem. —We all keep on calling it —fate” but fortune is truly man-made” (Disraeli).

There are many things that does not belong to human’s decisions. Let take two soldiers in a battle field for example. One participated in over hundreds fights without a drop of blood meanwhile another died on the marching due to lost bullet. Even two people bought lottery at the same place, one can win and totally change his life while other lost both time and money. —Fate” is the most satisfying answer for everyone.

First of all, fate of a man was marked by the time he was born into a family, a nation or an era ... because no one can choose his family and era to be born.

You cannot choose who are your parents and you cannot choose your hometown and your own self.

(Viet Hung poet - Vung Tau province)

Some people were born into a wealthy family, others were into poor families. Some families are in harmony, educated, and kindhearted while others are, on the contrary, brutal to their children, and push them on the street becoming beggars or even prostitutes ... Therefore, people tend to believe that God decides a person’s destiny that nobody can escape from it.

 

There are many unwanted events, good or bad, occurring in our life that we cannot do anything, but to accept them; however, the remaining part must be depending on our decisions as Matsushita has said: "Based on our consciousness and lifestyle, we can control our fate at least 10% whether it is good or bad". There was a Russian maxim: "Every man shapes his own destiny that will in turn build him up". That means you are responsible for your own fate, I am to determine mine and we all should decide our own. What goes around comes around. We will reap what we grow: doing good things will bring about good results; if we do bad things then we will receive bad consequences. It is fate that reflects on each individual. As a Latin proverb said: " We can only punish bad behaviors but God can punish even ill intentions." Once a man holds a bad intention, there is an evil living inside him which will later harms him. Yet he tends to complain that it was God who punishes him and not himself.

The young man Petophi, a great Hungarian poet wrote:

—Fate,

Like a white-livered dog

We firmly stand back

It will rush away swiftly.”

If fate was unfair to Nguyen Ngoc Ky when his two arms were paralyzed from birth, then what happened to him would depend mostly on himself. Without his miraculous willpower, consistence, extraordinary effort, high AQ, and a firm determination to overcome his short-coming, his life would have been totally useless. Because of his constant struggle with the grim fate, he became an Outstanding Teacher who was repeatedly praised by media as a superb example for people to follow.

If fate made Helen Keller be blind, dumb and deaf at 19^th month old, then fate provided her with an opportunity to meet Sullivan, her great teacher, and her future was still partially determined by God and mostly by her own. If God allowed Sullivan to meet a Helen without her great willpower, high AQ, harsh training and mythical consistency, Helen Keller would have lived in the darkness to the rest of her life like an insecticide, not the brave Helen we all know today.

For you and me, what should we do to push our fate forward? First of all, we should take advantage of our intelligence to think and find out what we need to do, and then strive to complete them today. —Geniuses do what they have to do”. So, only when we find out and strive to complete what we are supposed to do today, we will be able to hope for a great success in life. If the young people cannot find out what they need to do and let time go by aimlessly, then their life will become worthless. At the end, they will blame their failures for their unfavorable conditions or for their family, but their own fault!

For young people who are entering the real world, planting fruits trees, building a good foundation for their castle of happiness should know what to plant and what to build. If they do not know what to do then how could they harvest. And if they do not have a blueprint for their construction project then they will build their castle on sand!

In looking for the task we should be doing today, let’s consider the case of a little boy, Otto Smith. At the age of 14, he tried to plan everything in details of what he should do for his entire life. After carrying on his plan for some time, he realized that at his present speed it would take him 300 years to get his workload done. He then tried to eliminate some of the redundant tasks and continued putting forward his plan as fast as possible with a new haste. Later he still found out that it would take him 150 hundred years to complete his plan. He then tried to re-screening the task I found out that he could not eliminate any more tasks. Therefore, he then concluded that the only way he could achieve his goal was to work with a greater speed. Another young man, O. Smith maintained his career and after 50 years of persistent and extraordinary effort, he fulfilled his lifetime career and became the world famous geophysicist.

Those youths who are in late teens should learn about the example set by the about 14-year old boy. What would you do with your life? No matter how good your astrology is or how God is in favor of you, fortunes cannot be automatically poured into those who are doing nothing but waiting for God’s providence. As in Russian proverb: “God helps those who help themselves”; Those who know how to help themselves and try to find their ways to get out of the abyss of fate are high AQ individuals who can create their own fortune.

Thinking about the human fate, about the relationship between —the lack of parental love and care” and —money, sex, crime, jail and death”, Nguyen Khac Vien showed three fundamental keys to carry on our life that are: Social status, Humanity and Good Mind. These keys are used for everyone, and each of us needs to apply them well.

About the social status:

Each of you has to create yourself a firm foothold in society in which you are self-reliant and independent. Do not let yourself fall into precarious state like standing on the edge of abyss in this tough and complex society. Always recite these two sentences in mind:

Our power is power of the youth Our positions are in front of our enemies

(To Huu ’s Poem)

Ask yourself that what you should do to create a firm position over your enemy, first of all are the enemies of ignorance and poverty?

About the humanity:

Nurturing your love of people and engagement to a wide diversity of people and communities. Lives affectionately for others and fill your heart with immense love (See master tool 4).

About the Mind

Create yourself a stable mind, take control of yourself despite how tough life is, and keep your mind firm. Confucius wrote: "Though people are in turmoil, family should be kept in order; though family is in turmoil, your own self should be kept strictly. That is keeping your mind stable and pure in any situations.

To create the 3 mentioned characteristics, each of young people must be well-prepared for the first 5 life master tools. The sixth life tool, a complete and comprehensive handbook for you about life, will be shown you later.

To conclude, each of us has to inculcate in our heart a motto written by F. Xavier that made him become the world famous philosopher with 8 words: —Other people can do it, why can’t I”. It means while other people can understand, work and succeed, you, a smart human being like them you must be able to be successful like them.

To follow F. Xavier’s motto, you should learn from those who succeeded before you, and learn how did they dream, build up their willpower and turn their dreams into reality, then try to find yourself a role model to follow. Any young people who could learn and apply F. Xavier’s 8-word motto, will be successful. On the contrary, those keep on saying that —other can but I cannot”, will surely fail.

I remember when I was in 21 years old, I luckily met a company commander that I deeply loved and respected - Hoang Huong - who told me the resilient examples of Meretsiev (Hero of the old Soviet Air Force). During Patriotic war in 1941-1945, his plane was shot down, he was injured, his legs broken into pieces, he crawled in the snow for 18 days, and passed more than 100km of forest trail through enemy territory back to his company where he was saved. After the treatment, his legs were amputated but he still wanted to fly the fighter. During the first fly with his artificial legs, he shot down two Nazis planes. With his exemplary example, I considered Meretsiev as my hero and decided to strive tirelessly to imitate him and I made little bit of success in my life.

With the exemplary example of Meretsiev, we wonder if we could build a resilient persistence like him. Here is the answer: Practice.

A.2.3.2. PRACTICE

If you forge a willpower like Vietnam national heroes: Kim Dong, Ly Tu Trong, Vo Thi Sau... then keep on and maintain it for your entire life, do not be complacent or let it faded. If you do not have enough willpower needed then practice from the beginning, from easy to difficult with the following exercises:

1.  Practice getting up early and on time:

There is an old saying: "Early to bed and early to rise makes a man better and wise." For young people, we should say: "Do not go to bed too late and get up early. This will be good for your health and increasing your labor productivity. "

Successful people are the one who know how to create their perfect working conditions for a high productively from the beginning of a working day. In order to do that you should manage to go to bed before 11 pm and have a plan to get up early in the morning when the air is still fresh to do exercise and breathe deeply before having breakfast and starting a new day.

The wiseman works with a plan and a scientific manner. If you are striving to become wise so before you go to bed, plan to get up at a certain time in the morning (the best time is 5 a.m) then set your alarm clock.

High-will people learn to build a good working habit: getting out of bed when the alarm clock strikes. If the bell rings and you still lazily keep on sleeping, then you should keep a notebook and a pen in your headboard to record right away the time when you actually get up. For example, today you slept for 15 minutes late, try to reduce 1-2 minutes tomorrow, everyday little by little. After 15 days or a month, you will get up on time and have your initial success by having a rather high willpower.

Staying in bed late in the morning does not help us relax but demonstrates a bad habit of those lazy, low-willed, and effortless person who are afraid of fighting to break their bad habits. A good beginning makes a good ending. This first victory will have a significant effect in forging your will and reshaping you bad habits.

1.  Do morning exercise:

"The bright future belongs to those who take time to do enough exercise in the morning moderately". That is the favorite sentence I read from the book —From emply-handed” by Beaverbrook. "Exercising in the morning and afternoon will take only 10 minutes but have a positive effect to your entire day. You can feel healthy for the whole day long, even your face also changed" (—Live fully 24h a day” by A. Bennett, page 41).

If you want to have a healthy and long life, or high productivity in the early morning shift, you should strive hard to do exercise in the morning. If you’ve already got into this habit, then try to maintain it for your entire lifetime, even when you are exhausted. I remember the time when I was a young soldier, I used to wake up as soon as the first alarm clock rung. I rushed to wear shoes, took a quick rinse, then 5 minutes later, the gathering whistle started sounding urgently: This was the time for morning exercise started.

There was a day I was too tired to lift up my body, but due to military discipline, I was forced to get up on time. Every day, after spending only 10 minutes of exercise, I was totally refreshed and felt good as I have just taken a panacea, a dose of wonderful medicine. There was absolutely no day that I did not feel healthier after exercise hours. From the age of 4-5 years old, all of my children have got into habit of getting up early to do morning exercise with me. Even after the nights sleeping tiredly with me on the North-South train, when the morning sun came, we all got up on time to do exercise without missing a day.

And you, if you are new to morning exercise, find a friend or a retiree, ask them to teach you some exercise or learn from radio or TV program. To generate power for forging your willpower more effectively, you should ask some people to join the morning exercise with you. If one stays in bed late, other one can hurry him/her up. You can ask your parents, siblings, grandparents, even grandchildren for helping, pushing, pulling yourself out of bed.

High-willed people will not miss any morning exercise, even when they are exhausted or lying on sickbed. At those times, we can create the suitable exercises to the current state of our body to assist the treatment. For instance, there is a case of Ms. Lis Hartel - a 20-year-old horse rider who suddenly suffered from polio. To fight against the disease, she tried to bear the pain to practice limb movements, moving, crawling, —shallow swimming on bed”, moved little by little on her sickbed. She practiced till being totally sweat, Eight months later, she started walking using crutches though it was still difficult.

A few years later, she was able to climb up a horseback by herself. She kept practicing and won the second prize in a race for women. In Helsinki, 8 years later, she joined the Olympics game (1952) and won a silver medal in the race of 24 world’s best riders (Purple Ink Newspaper, Spring 1990). "Please give a bow to their resilience. Only those who have strong will can win such a glorious victory." (Ostrovski, the author of —How The Steel Was Tempered”).

2.             Molding your willpower

"Willpower is the first and foremost element that makes up every glorious triumph, every great success in life of an individual". Why? This is a big and extremely important question. We need to find the exact explanation for this question.

In terms of Health:

Health plays a tremendous role to a person’s success in general but it is not a determinant factor. There were lots of unhealthy people like Darwin, Roosevelt, Stevenson, some were blind, paralyzed like Keller, Ostrovski ... or not being able to move his lips, mouth, tongue, even a finger like Stephen Hawking, but they were greatly successful in life. That is because they all had a supernatural willpower.

In terms of education:

We all know that education will help us prepare for entering the real world. However, there are many people who have very little education or are almost illiterate but still gain a big success in life. There are several good examples: Mrs. Abigail Adams (the wife of 2nd President and mother of the 6th president of the United States) was illiterate; A. Johnson, the 17th president of the United States, has never attended school; M. Gorki, as a 4^th grader, was so successful that none of highly intellectual professors or Ph. D in literature could match his success.

Through those examples we can find out that the first and second life tools are very important, but not the determinant factors.

Through Paster’s quote mentioned in the beginning of this section and through evidences from many successful people, we can be sure that “the determinant factor for success of a person is his willpower”. We can be sure without fear of falling into the extremeness that: “No one can succeed in life without his willpower; and no one can be successful while being languid, staggering and stumbled on his road of life.

In addition to the third life master tool, we need to mention the second factor ensuring the success and immortal glories in life of mankind is HUMAN ETHICS (See the forth master tool).

One of the most frightening things in the world is inertia factor. For example, a 7-8-thousand-ton train pulled by tractor was running very fast on the rail then when entering the station, the train stops for a while and starts again but the train is motionlessly inert. That is physical inertia. But mental inertia, inertia in thought, is even more frightening somehow. When we have unhealthy habits such as smoking, alcoholism... giving up these bad habits is extremely difficult. That was primarily due to the inertia in thought. Like a driver, you are successful when you know how to win inertia. These words are from Nguyen Ba Hoc: "The path is difficult not because of its toughness, but because of people’s hesitation.” A very important part of the "people’s hesitation" is the inertia in thought, in the prejudice of each person. When you overcome the habit of sleeping in and doing exercise on time, you are on your way of winning mental inertia. Therefore “your train" was started with a momentum from which you can accelerate and speed it up.

One of the three most frightening, implacable enemies of you, of me, of each one of us is bad habit in ourselves. Buddhist Scriptures say, "You yourself are your biggest enemy." Unmasking, pulling them out the light, resolutely fighting with them and eventually destroying them, are the most important tasks of those with a high willpower and a high AQ. Tangible enemies are enemies with swords and guns that we can easily see. But invisible enemies, the enemies lurk in our hearts and our minds are very difficult to detect. Moreover, even when we can detect them, we have to fight single-handedly with no help because they were ingrained in our every single tendon and muscle for so long. Struggle with them is painful and miserable for us, can we handle it? People with high willpower certainly can do that. Now it is your turn.

Give yourself a few nights thinking alone in silence. Illuminate yourself, comparing yourself with friends, with more successful people to spot out all of your bad habits, then find a few lightest and easiest ones and try to fix them first. For example, you know the first life master tool is to care for your health, then you should scientifically eat and drink different kinds of food. You should practice eating every dish that men can eat, and then practice adapting to all kinds of atmosphere, both the natural and social atmosphere. For example: in order to protect yourself from the freezing cold of winter in the North we have to get used to the cold from the summer. Then we get familiar with the gradual change of weather and effectively adapt to the winter’s cold.

In 1962, in Chu village (Luc Ngan, Bac Giang), the winter was so cold that the temperature stayed below 0⁰C. Every morning there was a lot of ice lying on the leaves. In those extremely cold days, the older little leader of our brigade - Colonel Nguyen Chi Diem

-  still went out and jump into the river to swim since he used to be an athletic. Following the example of our leader, I didn’t miss any morning swimming under the cold weather in 7 consecutive years, especially I had started doing exercise under cold weather condition for several months before winter.

Starting is always difficult. The things you have done such as getting up early and on schedule, doing morning exercises, taking deep breath, defecating regularly in everyday morning are a good start, but they are not sufficient. If you want a greater success, you spirit should be greater. You have to forge your willpower to be stronger and stronger to prepare for greater tasks, to make the lofty dreams, the audacious ideas of your own life come true. In order to achieve those goals, you need to do one additional thing as follows:

Before going to the battle, soldiers like us had to practice continuously for months by carrying backpacks weighting 25 - 30kg, and walking approximately 5km each day. In the final years of his life, Uncle Ho also practiced walking long distance to prepare for his going to the South. Young generations should learn from him to forge your willpower like this.

You should use an army backpack filled up with 3-7kgs of stuff, at about 5 pm, go for a walk and carry it along when you go and return home. Your latter increase the weigh for 1-2kg each day and go hundreds of meters longer. Continue increase the weight and the length like that till you can reach 25-30kg and you can go for 5km (the total time of going and coming back must be 1 hour). After 1 or 2-week training, you can confidently claim that you complete the process of forging your wills.

—After spending about 7 hours per week to work out regularly for three consecutive months, you can relax and say to yourself that you have done extraordinary things”. It was firmly recommended by Arnold Bennett in his book —Live fully 24 hours a day’ (Page 42). “We can do the things that worth doing only when we make great efforts. So on my own, I love the great exertion. I think that differentiate me from all those pigs hidden in that mud’ (Page 22). “I really enjoy small success, because it will lead to another big success” (Page 24).

4.  Applying willpower to do big things:

You have completed the preliminary work for your willpower forging. Now you will use it in the construction of big dreams and try to make those lofty dreams come true.

4.1.   Building big dreams:

People with high willpower often find an idol for their own and follow them to build up their own dreams. There are people who want to become a pilot, an astronaut like Pham Tuan, a great scientist like Nguyen Van Hieu, an architect like Ngo Viet Thu, a medical doctor like Tran Dong A, a professor, a PhD, an artist, an elite musician like many people who have been recognized and awarded by the State. In the era of market economy, many people wish to become a billionaire. All of those dreams are beautiful. The most difficult thing is to build modest but lofty dreams like: Luong Dinh Cua or Vu Tuyen Hoang working as an agronomist to create new varieties plants of high yield; Dr. Nguyen Van Huong, an enthusiastic medical doctor who was devoted his life to help cure people’s diseases, espe­cially the poor; Mr. Chu Van An, Duong Quang Ham and many other outstanding teachers an educator who dedicated their lives to teach younger generations and win their trust and respect.

When I was in junior high school, I read a sentence somewhere which made me remember forever: —People, when they are still young, they often dream high. But when they get older and have more experienced, they realize that life is hard, life is hard, their talent is nothing, and then their hopes are weakened day by day”. People with high willpower always build big dreams, fulfill this dream to another dream until their last breath. They are never satisfied, never stop, and they don’t let their hopes fading every single day.

"As long as people still desire, still can go and explore, still painfully suffer from something... I still like them. But if they are nearly reaching their goal and they stop, they will become less interesting to me anymore’ (M.Gorki). Because: "The important thing is not the place where one is standing but their direction they are aiming to" (Anonymous). For such a person who is standing in the highest position of a country, a big party but he takes a wrong direction, it will be extremely harmful for his country and his party. Conversely, a young student building up his big dream and persisting on making that dream come true is an honorable one.

Those who possess high willpower don’t let their hopes and fading gradually, especially due to age, because they still haven’t done any big thing when their life is nearly ended. They know how to ignite the fire of enthusiasm, maintain a seething heart, want to do something for society, and leave something for life. Big dreams are often built in adolescence. But there are also many big dreams gradually formed in the process of living. Some people constantly achieve great success on life, even when they are over 70, they are still in search of a new horizon, a new field of activity to reenergize the youth in themselves as Mr. Beaverbook said: —When you reach the age of 70, you can even do the extraordinary things that you couldn ’t do before... You should take advantage of the final years of your life to accomplish something” (—Building up”, Quang Ngai Publisher, 1991, p.51 of H.N Cassion).

To help young people building their big dreams, I heartily recommend reading the book —40 stories of success” by Nguyen Hien Le and some books for forging the youth’s willpower, fortitude and morale from many other authors. Then you can re-examine your strengths and weaknesses, and your circumstances, then from that foundation you will be able to build your own big dreams.

People with great willpower have to build great dreams as Kim Woo Choong had said: ‘7 have a dream of embracing the whole universe, a desire hugging the earth in my arms”. If you have a big dream, you will have hopes to make a big success for life. One of the first victories of your life is the victory of building your big dream.

4.2 Making dreams come true:

Without a big dream, you can’t determine the destination of your life, you can’t spend some hours a day thinking about big dreams to do passionate things, and you will be easy to get bored with life, suffer from mental crisis and disappointment. Only when we had found a way to enrich your knowledge and delight family atmosphere, we would have the basis to think about implementing our lofty dreams. Almost people building big dreams for their own lives are people who dare to burst into adventurous and dangerous places. This is one of the ten secrets that billionaires in the world have done and is the most popular thing for geniuses.

23 Centuries ago, Aristotle, considered as the wisdom of mankind, said: —There is no genius without some touch of madness’. Moreover, Shakespeare stated that —Only the fool does think he is wise, the wise man knows his fool himself”.

Many people only care about material value and pay attention to making money to have a lifestyle to impress their neighbors. Meanwhile, we are trying to build a high willpower and to leave something special for life, that is, we are doing different things from others, from society, we will surely be judged and evaluated by the things we do. Just ignore them. When we intend to do a certain thing that we believe it is right and we know that we are capable of completing it, we don’t need to concern about their hearsays. Marc Aurele, about 18 centuries ago, said: —I ignore those look down on me, as long as I do not do anything contemptible”.

When observing people around us, we discover that many people like hiding quietly in the crowd, let others protect them and don’t even spend time thinking, they just follow the instructions of a leader. Those are people who just imitate other people’s life. They do not proceed on their own road of life and they are gone along with the flow of life as grass in a running river flow. They are people who like to follow “the ways of this world”, “we do what others do”. Following that life style and desiring something safe will lead us into slavery.

"Most of us think that if many people do not agree with us, it is our fault and that makes us losing their faith. Some people think that it is eccentric if we do not follow “the ways of this word”... Young and inexperienced people are often afraid of criticizing and judgments on their outfit, actions, words or ways of thinking... When we are lacking of life experience, the wisest way to do is to act in accordance with the opinions of the majority, until we have enough experience and confidence to resolutely live with our own decision and conception. Only madmen fight against publicity when they even haven’t known what it is and why they have to be against it” (“How to forge your spirit”, D. Carnegie, Tien Giang Publisher 1992 page 78).

Once you’re fully mature, already examined, inspected and thorough evaluated all of your dreams, your determination, and you have decided that you did your job in the right way, then you dare to ignore all gossiping words of others who always tend to make up and spread rumors without thinking of the consequences. Everyone must be responsible for their own life and for society. They should make use of their abilities to help others in the ways that they consider to be the most effective ways.

Every society or every era has its own fundamental rules for life. Thanks to those who refused to follow —the way of this world” lifestyle, the civilization has made dramatically progress. There are some universal truth, until a few minority resist them that their opinion will win. They were people who gave themselves the mission to do things against the world like Copernicus, Galileo, Freud, Marx, Darwin, Einstein, Newton, Pasteur ... Those people were not afraid to be embroidered by gossipers, —They recognize themselves as just a little lower than angels and not a little bit higher than apes. " People with great willpower will always remember this sentence:

“Once you stay on this world

You must contribute something worthy for life.”

(Nguyen Cong Tru’s Poem)

If you want to forge your willpower, to build big dreams, to make a big thing and to leave something better for life before you die, then the most important thing you need to do is that "you have to stay calm, recognize that your task is extremely difficult, then you have to sacrifice with great exertion...lfyou’re not ready for any disappointment, not satisfied when you realize that you exerted too much but the result is not that great, then you have to stop it. You should lie down and take the tight sleep that you regard it is your life”. (Living Fully 24 hours a day, Youth Publishing House 1991- page 22).

In summary: This is the most important tool among 6 life’s master tools that is critical to your success in life. You have to forge your willpower from low to high. You must take charge of your stable life, must not forget your big dream and your life’s purpose, don’t follow small material things, don’t scramble for quick fame or wealth and don’t follow bad influence. If you want to avoid disappointment or depression, you have to persistently pursue your noble purpose till the end of your life.

Dear my young friends. Being an independent person who had to grope my way from the moment I made my way to the real world, I am very sympathetic to young people who have the same situation like me: parents with little education, lack of life experience, especially irresponsible parents for not taking their responsibility in teaching their children to choose a right direction, to prepare themselves for the real world, to correct little mistakes in the early years of their life in order to avoid making serious mistakes in the future.

Even more pitiably, there are some children who lost mother or father from birth or have parents, but lack of lover and care. They are in turn forced to enter life early find themselves in helpless situation, full of miseries, and on the margins of life.

For those above reasons, and especially for the misunderstanding and lacking of knowledge and experience to make any life’s judgment, many young people complain, blame their parents, blame their circumstances, and blame themselves for being born in the wrong place and at the wrong time, etc., that make them less likely to be successful in life. Learning about how parents educate their children, we can see that the majority of parents have children when they are under the age of 30, that is the age of scurrying to earn a living and caring for the material life; therefore, they have no time to learn about parenting. Moreover, in one hand, most people enter life with a low level of education; on the other hand, those classic books with typical parenting methods are seriously deficient. Though many people out there may have those kinds of book for themselves, they still have no time to read or are not able to read and comprehend.

In this era of information explosion, it is surely not a piece of cake to find a truly good book. Therefore, parents’ knowledge of how to bring up their kids in the right way is generally low. That is the main reason causing them to become less responsible parents. Moreover, no one can demand others to do things that they are not capable of doing.

Therefore, the misery in life that each of us has to deal with, no matter less or more, is not the point that we have to mind about or to use it to curse this life, to blame our circumstances and to blame our parents, who we are definitely not allowed to blame on even when the faults are theirs.

Xun Zi said: "Kind words are more precious than gems." Being a young person, it is nothing more precious than receiving useful pieces of advice and being able to comprehend and apply those in life. This is a good example: a fifteen-year-old boy, working as helper in a grocery store in London, received a piece of advice from a stranger and changed his life. From being uneducated and un-skilled young boy, he became renowned Chairman of the British Labour Party, Mr. Herbert Morrison. When seeing a young boy reading a book, a customer asked the boy "What are you reading? " He replied: "Book of swordsmen that is with little bloodshed, pretty cheap and sold everywhere ". Then, the guest advised him to read about successful people and history, which could be more useful”. The advice was simple but helped the young boy succeed in life. How would you like to receive such an advice? In our lifetime, finding a good advisor is not an easy task. There goes a German proverb: "People do not give advice unless they are asked to". In his Nobel awarded book in 1905, Quo Vadis, H. Sienkievich wrote: "To find a good piece of advice is more difficult than to develop a philosophical theory." Just a reminder that though the thousands of years of history in Vietnam, no one has ever found a new philosophy. Here is an invaluable advice from Zhu Xi: "Try to avoid these three mistakes in life: a wasting day, a life without learning and a ruined life".

4.2.1 What is a wasting day?

It means living purposelessly and letting a day pass by without doing anything meaningful. Every day, each of us must ask ourselves: What do I need to do? What do I need to study? What do I need to do first? What do I need to learn first? What is our best solution? We need to live and work with our best effort so that at the end of the day, we would find our day was not a wasting day.

4.2.2.   What is a life without learning?

Each youngster must learn these of Lenin’s words by heart: « today, we have three missions: Learn, learn more, and learn forever ». Find out what we can learn from the things right in front of us every day and find out what we can learn from people around us, too. Learn anywhere, anytime you can; learn to master the knowledge and to apply them into real life; learn to work, to live and to be HUMAN, but firstly, we need to learn things that are practical.

Someone says: I study from early morning until late night but still unable to finish school stuff, then where else do I find time to learn more? Well, the answer is, what we learn from school accounts for less than 10% of the knowledge that we are supposed to know, the other 90% for what we need to learn from the —school of hard knock”, from people that we meet every day and from the media. We should only spend between 5 and 10% of the time for leisure and the rest for learning. Actively raising our level of education and our vocational training will be the best tool to help us become well-prepared for the future path of ourselves. So how about other tools that we need, what do we think we need to prepare for ourselves to conquer life?

One notable thing is that: our national education system establishes a lot of unimportant, time-consuming and heavy amount of knowledge that mostly is impractical while much more important knowledge needed in real life is not actually taught. So, the solution is that, we ourselves must actively look for what we need, and firstly, we need a guide in this journey of our lives, and the must-do ones are all outlined in this very book.

4.2.3 How to avoid “ruining ourselves”?

1.  The worst habit is —laziness”: lazy in studying, in working and even in thinking). The bad habit of wasting time, having unplanned lifestyle, self-forgiveness, and being too easy on themselves.

2. The most dangerous habits are addictions, first of all are drugs, then tobacco, alcohol, and time-consuming addictive computer games such as game online.

To avoid the first bad habit, children must be taught well before the age of five and it’s their parents’ responsibility. For being lazy, only those with truly high determination will likely to fix this bad habit. In order to avoid second and third habits mentioned above, we must stay away from anything that is addictive, first of all cigarettes and drugs, stay away from people who curse, swear or hang around aimlessly or have a lot of bad attitudes. We must neither imitate any bad habits like smoking nor drinking, forcing other to get drunk or spending too much time partying.

Never TRY any addictive substances even once. We should stay away from those people who give us cigarettes for free, which often have drugs inside. In studying, do not let yourself stayed behind your friends but trying to study harder; however, in the game of life, never try to be better than anyone by showing that we could do things better than them: drinking better, smoking better, playing harder ... Falling into addiction is just like falling for a trap, it is very easy to get trapped and later you might find no way out.

In conclusion:

1.  Without heroic wills, you will never achieve any heroic accomplishment. An iron will is a determinant factor generating great success on our path.

2.  To obtain high willpower, we need to forge it from low to high level of difficulty and to suffer it until our last breath.

3.  Besides utilizing our will, we need to think to build our big dreams, determine to reach those dreams, and get things done one step at a time.

4.  Better bow to your teacher than your friends. You join the race to become a real HUMAN, not to ruin yourselves.

5.  Try hard to avoid falling into the three misfortunes in life.

A.2.4. The fourth master tool.

ETHICS OF BEING A HUMAN

He who claims to know everything but not know how to be a human, shall not be considered as wiseman.

Huainan Zi

In 1988, in the process of looking for the answer to the question: "What is a wise man?” I read the above-mentioned quote in a book. If you just look through it, we can easily agree that: If you know everything except how to be a meaningful human, then you are not wise at all. However, studying deeper into this topic, there seems to be thousands things to tell but I just do not know where to start. With no proper conditions to do research and also I do not want to be a so-called "scholar" in the subject, I questioned myself that when mankind has entered this era of intellectual civilization (the third wave), then what qualities should a human possess?

After six years studying and researching, I have discovered these following seven

questions:

1.  Is a person who does not LOVE LABOR and only depends on what the society provides to him while spending money from his parents and from the society, deserved to be called a HUMAN?

2.  A person does not aspire to advancement, to progress, to direction and only accepts

their fates like an elephant sniffing sugarcane, like a "buffalo drinking turbid water".

Should he be deserved to be called a worthy HUMAN?

3. A person does not LOVE JUSTICE, THE EQUALITY, THE TRUTH, not carry out worthy tasks, not do the work that promotes justice and the value of the truth. Should he be deserved to be called a worthy HUMAN?

4. An ungrateful person shows no RESPECT TO HIS ANCESTORS, no recognition of the merit of their parents who have suffered countless pain to bear, to grow and to educate him, no recognition neither of his ancestors nor his family traditions. Should he be deserved to be called a HUMAN?

5. A person has no love for MANKIND, behaves badly with his relatives, friends and neighbors, acquaintances and even strangers. Should we call him a HUMAN?

6. A person shows no LOVE FOR HIS motherland, his birth place, the PLACE he is living, his country, and even this earth, then, should he be deserved to be called a HUMAN?

7. A person does not LOVE HIMSELF, has no SELF-ESTEEM, not know how to keep his dignity, conscience, and honor, and not try to build his name but to hide himself and bury his life day after day. Should he be deserved to be called a HUMAN?

After listing all 7 questions above, I will give my only one answer for all: —NO, NOT in a million year."

The correct answers to these questions are the 7 aspects in the ETHICS OF BEING A HUMAN in the new era.

One of the obligations that people have to worry about is how to sustain their race, which means bearing and raising children, especially training them into useful people for the society. In other words, we must strive not only to train ourselves into real HUMAN but also to train our posterity into HUMAN, not letting them get spoiled and become the burden of the society.

Now we go deeper into the meaning of each content in order to find out the effective ways to implement these seven contents.

A.2.4.1 The first content of the Theory of being a human.

THE LOVE OF LABOR In the living room of a renowned prestigious clinic in New York specializing in treating neurological illness posted a notice like this:

"You’re poor? Work. You’re rich? Work. If you are happy, continue to work. Whenever you’re free, your mind will turn doubtful. No matter how life treats you, keep on working. In life, there is no medication more effective than working. It can heal you both physically and mentally. "

Laboring is the foundation of every success and a source of prosperity and is the father of all geniuses. Labor will transform us into useful and successful people. Labor only give us the grace and the greatest achievement as long as we love it. Now, you and I, let’s go find all the advantages of working and disadvantages of the laziness. There are five contents:

a.  Work brings about wealth:

Nearly six centuries ago, Nguyen Trai wrote:

"Becoming teachers or workers depend on your education

Having enough food, enough clothes depend on your hard-working activities ".

In terms of the benefits of work, first of all we have to mention the wealth, the affluence of material life. "Get up early and work hard if you want to be rich." That’s the advice of billionaire Paul Getty. "Labor is the only source of wealth formation. The wealth created by

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labor is the only remedy to heal the suffering from poverty and bad habits from the conditions of just sitting and eating "(Pixarep). In term of material life, it is clear that the rich is happier than the poor. Poverty brings misery. Poverty is not about being a coward but about getting no respect. "Poverty brings disrespect; wife disrespects her husband and brother disrespects his older sister.” (Su Qin). "Poverty creates a lot of cowards and cruelty" (B. Lytton).

It is difficult for a poor young man to get married. In many countries all over the world, even girls from poor families without a dowry from their parents are not easy to get married. Anywhere and anytime, sons and daughters of wealthy families are always easier to get married than those from poor families, regardless of their appearance. Boys or girls who are at young age but already knowing how to earn money have a big advantage in marriage. Even billionaires while they were still poor in the past could hardly get married. For example, J.D. Rockefeller, when the nation did not have up to six millionaires, he had already got a fortune of $ 1.2 billion (40 examples of success of Nguyen Hien Le - Dong Thap Publisher August 1995, page 33). But the very first girl he was in love with refused to marry him as since her mother told her: "I would not let my daughter marry to a poor boy with no future"

While hard working people become rich and others are still lazy, afraid of being tired and trying to avoid work. They will surely be poor without a doubt. Longfellow said: "Laziness is the main reason for being a beggar". American proverb says: "Laziness goes so slowly that poverty always keeps up." The great French writer Victor Hugo wrote: "Laziness is the mother of two children: the son is a theft and the daughter is beggar." "Laziness is a kind of suicide" (Chesterfield). For those who like to be idle, "Doing nothing means doing a bad job" (Japanese proverb). The Bible says: "The laziness is like cow's pile of shits which whoever picked up have to wash their hands thoroughly."

b. Work brings about success:

The first success in work is the success in the enrichment. The second success is the success of the enthusiasm for science, arts creativity, leadership in directing a scientific work when they invent something, create a painting, a beautiful song or a poem, a successful plays ... when they lead a political party, a nation to overcome political, economic problems or challenges in wars ... Einstein said: "These outstanding human were created by their own labor and those were the results of their labor."

"In the path leading to success, the perseverance of labor is the most convincing way". This truth was drawn by Pasteur from his own success as well as from thousands of other great people. "On the way to success there is no trace of laziness" (B. Franklin.). "Success is not a miracle but the reward for those who try their best to work perfectly" (A. Maurois).

After Mendeleev found periodic table of chemical elements, someone told him he was a genius, he then replied: "I had worked hard for 20 years to discover it, not by being a genius''. He insisted: "Without the love of working passionately, then there is no talent, no genius."

We can say for sure that it is an absolute truth for all genius that labor is a determinant factor, even to Mozart, the musical genius, who could easily remember and replay the choral at the age of six. In order to write "an immortal piece of music, even for a genius with musical rhyme continuously flowing out from his mind to a music book, he must "work all nights". The incredible story that "a fairy’s hand crating ten songs in a second" as Kieu of Nguyen Du only happens in fiction. "Genius is made from only 1% inspiration, 99% of labor”. Edison’s immortal words was repeated a million times. He said: "1 never unwittingly do something worthwhile, and none of my inventions appear accidentally. All of them are the products of my labor ". Koran scriptures said: "A perfect man is the most useful one to the society". If you want to become a useful citizen to the society, please work as much as you can since no idling person can be useful for society ever.

One of the many secrets for success in life is to learn how to work for free to gain experiences. Ms. Didem Altop, a 25-year-old girl with a bachelor's degree in international relations, offered to work for free for the World Bank (WB). Many people advised her not to do so but she was adamant with her decision that later made her successful. During the Great Depression (1929 - 1933), lots of factories were closed and millions of workers lost their jobs all over the world. However, to Ms. Didem Altop, from being an unemployed college graduate, she suddenly has received more than 1,000 job offers. The reason being that she places an ad on a newspaper as follows: ”1 cannot get a job if 1 do not have any experience and 1 would not have experience if 1 do not have a chance to work. So 1 am willing to work you without pay for four weeks, and 1 will quit after that. Because 1 will gain some experience and 1 become a better person. ”

Only those who have talent, high will power, and extraordinary ability but do not have the opportunity to prove to others of their ability, would offer to work without pay. While weak people who depend on someone’s mercy for a normal job would make them happy.

That girl was Francis from the US who selected three well-known companies. After a 3- month probationary period, she was offered a permanent full job. Later she was appointed as a secretary in the White House by famous lawyer L.M. Henry Howe, security adviser to President Roosevelt.

"Work, work and work ... will create talent" (Traicopski). "He who devotes his life for a career, and with talent, he would become a great man; without talent but work boldly h could be an above average man" (Diderot)."Painstaking ^job is bitter but its result is sweet" (J.J. Rouseau). "The close distance cannot be reached without going. A little task cannot be completed without starting."(Xun Zi). "To become a great man, one must do great thing; however, one cannot be a great man for just doing great things "(M.Agunto).”Great things should be done since childhood, hard things should be finished when it is still easy" (Lao Tzu). Those who avoid doing little things will never do extraordinary ones.

c. Work brings about happiness:

Having something to do is the first of the three factors creating happiness mentioned from the beginning of this chapter. "The most certain condition for happiness is the work that we have a freedom to choose and work hard to bring about a peace of mind." (Tolstoy). If you like to eat and sleep well and to live better, please think and strive to make use of the two verses of Ho Chi Minh at his 70:

“Eat well, sleep well, and work well,

You would live happily on earth as it was in heaven.”

It’s the good work, especially manual labor combining with mental work that helps you eat and sleep well. —The manual work that liberates the mind, will make the poor happy” (La Rochefoucauld). There are some people working passionately like crazy, but they fail time after time for dozens of years. It may not be the good timing for success. There are also people who face a lifetime financial failure like the great painter Van Gogh. He was neither rich nor happy in his lifetime but he was very successful in art that put his name into the history of mankind.

One of the world most successful person in history was Faraday. Hemholz physicist wrote: —As long as human beings still use electricity, people still remember Faraday”. At the age of 76, when he died, people found in his drawer, a record showing his last experiment was 16,041. If he did one experiment a day and worked 300 days a year, then it would take him 53 years and a half to complete them. (New World 98).

One of important factors for assuring success is having a lot of luck. But” Luck comes to those who work diligently” (Becgieliuyt). Slackers lie and wait upon providence never find a bit of luck. Please remember that: Determinant of success is not luck because: "People rarely succeed because of luck, but they probably make their career by his own sweat" (B. Palitxy). For example, Hoang Nam Nhat was invited to become an Academician of New York Academy when he was 31-year-old because of his "extremely hard-work" commented by his father.

With Bui Cong Duy, his childhood passed by in harsh conditions of Siberia region, beside the official school time, Duy learnt to play the violin every day from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. That diligently mental labor brought Bui Cong Duy to the eminent group of young violinists in the world. He was only 16 after winning first prize three time successively in the international competitions he reached his peak in Concour Tchaicopxki 1997(he was only 16) (SGGP Xuân Mậu Dần).

d. Work brings about glory, increases dignity and values of human beings

"The whole human history is not something else but the human formation by their own labor." "Labor turns ape into people". That is the conclusion of K. Marx. A Russian proverb goes: "Let’s live by our wits, and then win the honorary degree by our labor". "It was in labor and labor only that humans become great" (Gorki)."Labor has always been the basis for human life and culture" (Makarenco).

It can be affirmed that: All the greatly successful people in life, reach the zenith of glory, are welcomed everywhere by the red carpet like Fleming (who invented Penicillin, which has saved thousands of wounded soldiers in World War 2) like leading national leaders, presidents, prime ministers, heroes, outstanding scientists, artists, athletes, writers ... have spent tens of years or even a lifetime working even forget eating, sleeping, someone forgetting their health, forgetting all their lives as Pierre and Marie Curie. Among them, many older people in seventies, eighties even nineties still work from 10 to 16 hours a day with high productivity. "There is no glory without hard work". "The higher the glory is, the more arduous it is". That is an absolute truth.

To be a decent citizen, we must have the love for our country, our homeland. "It’s not by talking but by our own labor contribution” (V. Ivanovich). When dedicating everything we got to one profession, one real job, we are crating a glory regardless what the profession is. Let’s review the story of King Le Thanh Tong about the New Year Parallel Sentences.

King Le Thanh Tong was a famous for his love of literature, caring for and very close to his fellow citizen. One year, on Tet (New Year) holiday, in his travelling incognito, he dressed like common people and visited Van Dinh village, My Duc, Ha Dong province. As a custom, on Tet holiday, every home liked to have a pair of parallel sentences composed and written by a scholar on red paper and hung in the place of honor, usually on both sides of the entrance door or of the ancestors’ altar. When noticing one house without the Parallel Sentences, he asked the resident for the reason. A man from the house replied that —I have a despicable occupation that I am not proud of. It is to collect human excrement, human shit". Hearing that, the King took a pen and a piece of paper and wrote a Parallel Sentences as follows:

"Wearing an armor, carrying the world’s nuisances.

Carrying a 3-feet long sword, winning the world’s hearts.

That implies: —Wearing a piece of straw coat to avoid rain and sunlight

Holding a three-tooth rake, covering people’s heart”.

e. Work: To increase health and longevity:

All studies of the medicine on the causes creating longevity for the centenary people worldwide have come to the conclusion that: The leading cause of longevity is labor. In the ten secrets to your longevity centenary age by the Faculty of the Academy of sciences USSR that has been found more than half a century ago, the first secret was that: "It is work, not being idle, steady work and the combination of mental work with manual labor."

A 79-year-old breast cancer woman, having her breast removed, was still alive after 30 years; it was Mrs. Rosalind Lee, a Chinese Singaporean. She claimed that: "If you are too busy working hard, you will not have time to think about or worry. Death will not bother to ask those who love their life". Currently she is still active as the president of breast cancer association which she founded several weeks after her recovery. The fact she was able to live 30 years after her surgery was the strong evidence reinforcing victims’ belief than any medicine (Today Knowledge of 217, 01/08/1996)

" Work is a fundamental principle of life, of happiness, of helping others. If you believe the most precious blessings is to live a lifetime of leisure, if you would like to be in the rocking chair one day, resting, enjoying life, you must be crazy. For the idleness is the most powerful enemy of the people, the misery-created hell, the depression and the death. Working too much often creates no harm than resting too much. Work, whether it is hard work and sometimes dangerous work, but still eating, getting enough sleep and rest, then it is not harmful but creates other benefits." That’s the advice from Dr. W. Melville Arnott, a medical professor at the University of Birmingham (UK) (“forging your spirit”, D. Carnegie page 176).

Working is an element to prevent early aging. O. Voght from Brain Institution in Neustadt Schwarzwald (Germany) once said: “Mental labor has a magical effect to maintain your youth. The more mental work you do, the slower you get older ”. Through a microscope, he studied the brains of the two cells from 90 and 100-year-old grandmother who passed away and had a very active life, he found that their brain cells were both extraordinarily young. He stated later that: "I have never seen the nerve cells suffer from depression because of overwork. You do not die from hard work but from worry and high blood pressure. "

" Work is a requirement of life, not just for making a living. Without working, the body as well as mental strength will easily get depressed and then deteriorated. Working is not a punishment of God but is a reward. Without work will not bring civilization then mankind will doom. There are people whose goal is to work to bring food on the table, and once having enough to eat, they will do nothing. These people will miss the greatest Joyce of mankind". (“Forging your spirit”, Dale Carnegie Page 180).

In 1954, Dr. Flanders Dunbar and his brother Francis, conducted an unprecedented research in the United States, to study the life of elderly over 100 years old. After interviewing about 1,580 old people and doing a deep research on 20% of them, he noticed that: almost all of these old people were still working, without resting. No one in this age group who was completely retired from work could live up to 100 years.

A good advice for a 103-year old grandmother Eunice: “anyone who wants to enjoy the old age: Go to workfor having no time to think about illness and negativity anymore. " L.B. Russell, an 80 years old British philosopher with small body, still walks 9km a day. He said: "Most of the people I know, who retired without doing anything, died after a few years. I believe that the happier the people are, the longer they will live; and to be happy, they must work as much as they can”.

There are no better magical cures for sickness than labor. The statement "Those who are retired early will die early" is just a sad fact, because idleness will cost your body’s strength and reduce resistance to disease. Those old people who are still happy are the working ones.

The right to work as well as the right to live are fundamental human rights. If we cease to use our hands, we will lose our ingenuity and if we stop using our mind, we will soon lose our lucidity. Tolstoy said: "The habit of enjoying life idleness is worse than any life’s disaster." The statement that: "Human nature is lazy" is completely far from true.

Because, "Laziness is like money, the more one has, the more he seems to want to have more" (Billingo). If a child between one and five years old is not taught about the passion of working, then the laziness character will engrain in its muscles tendons and become lazier. Laziness nature of a person is not a human nature but the result of the parents’ wrong teaching. Therefore, "if you truly love your children, teach them the value of hard work from childhood. " (La Kun). Those who do not shed a drop of sweat will not understand the value of a full bowl of rice, a penny; For not experiencing the days of war, people will not recognize the value of the peaceful days.

"Hundred kinds of disease are caused by laziness"(Tang Q. Phien)." The thing that lowers a person’s dignity is laziness, neglect and desire to live in permissiveness" (Xukhomlinxki). Because: "Eliminating parasitic people and praising the labor are the frequent trend in human history" (Dobroliubov).

Summary: passion in labor, enthusiastic passion to it is the first and foremost factors of DOGMA that makes HUMAN.

A.2.4.2 THE SECOND CONTENT OF THE HUMAN ETHICS THE LOVE OF PROGRESS

Even inanimate plants can still teach human beings a precious lesson. It is to always raise their heads up, rise to the sky, and reach out to the sunlight. As a human being, each of us has a spiritual qualification: to strive for what is progressive, righteous, noble, good, and away from all wrong, evil, cowardly things ... then we will have all the good qualities of mankind.

In this modern era, when 80 % of scientists are still living on Earth, every-year inventions, scientific works have been published so much that we could not keep up with them even to read their titles, that we must use the word “magic” to evaluate them. To live in such a changing society, we need to have a passion for progress to catch up with these changes in time.

The conservative nature of Human being is very heavy. When a new sense is formed it will gradually be entrenching in a human mind. Though how wrong it is, it is kept in one’s mind firmly. So many new inventions and new ideas

-     the ones advanced this social - were rejected tens, even hundreds years, or even longer. For example, the doctrine of the earth’s orbit around the sun of Copernicus, the doctrine of Darwin’s Origin of Species, theory of psychiatric from Freud... have created a storm in protest as soon as it was published. Only because Giordano Bruno supported the Copernican theory that he was burned to death. An over 70-year-old man Galileo - a great scientist - also was imprisoned by supporting the theory, without making kneeling oath to give up his thoughts he also died burnt.

As for Freud, "Although all the range of human education as literature, art, religion, anthropology, education, law, sociology, criminal law practitioners, historians, memmoirs and social courses or other individuals are influenced by Freudianism, but biases which he must win to spread his doctrine were more obstinate (prejudices) than what Copenicus and Darwin had encountered " (“Books that changed the world, R. Down, Van Dan Publisher,

1970, page 354)

Even those that illustrious names such as Einstein, B. Shaw also did not have a good acquisition to the new things. B. Shaw is skeptical about man being able to fly into space. Einstein doubted about quantum mechanics, although he is a mechanic and the world’s greatest physicist.

Today, we sit at home glimpsing at all the events taking place around the world every day through the small screen; (in addition to) besides the television makers, we also have to memorize Arthur Clarke - a scientist with no degree of masters or doctorate - who was dubbed ”the one who invented the future”, who has changed the whole figure of the 20th century with a discovery: finding geostationary satellite orbits - orbits named after him - from the end of 1945. Nineteen years later appeared the first geostationary satellite television in the world. 1n the next 25 years, there were 400 satellites in this type and today geostationary satellites in orbit flying densely that there is almost no more space to launch. He discovered three laws of science of which the first law is: ”1f an old famous scientist say that something can be done then surely he is right. But if he says it is impossible, it is almost sure that he was wrong.”

That means, humans can do everything, even what might seem like an extremely irrational, is not existed as virtual reality, a virtual singer. Therefore, in today's society, it has appeared many strange things that "Any new technology is also very difficult to distinguish

from magic story" (Clarke’s second law)

Therefore, if we are not open-minded to accept every new one, we will easily have outdated, we do not catch up with the time, that means we lack a very important criterion in the 6 standards of the WISE.

Today, science and technology advances so quickly that a 2 year (new) graduate engineer will be out of date with their knowledge if they do not quickly update his knowledge and make innovations in their field (if not quickly update his knowledge and innovations in their field within 2 years the knowledge they have learned is outdated already). Particularly in the field of information technology, the amount of knowledge has doubled every six months. The fourth standard among six standards of the wise is: Being trendy, understanding the age, catching up with the times. To attain this, there must be a progressive spirit, inquisitive. Just by practicing our descendants a spirit to be ready to embark upon good things, new and nice things to learn and run away from ones that are wrong, evil, then they will be a HUMAN.

We must forge a progressive zeal in ourselves and posterity as Joseph Jacobs in Frankfurt (Germany): 87 year-olds still stayed in college, 93-year-old successfully defending a bachelor thesis. Between the age of 99 and 100, he announced a series of specific scientific works published in numerous scientific journals and sat on wheelchair to defend his doctoral dissertation at the age of 100 (New world, no.209, 21/11/1996). Thus, they become the familial and national pride.

And in our country, when it comes to self-learning, we cannot mention it without a person, from a low level (just be literate) to teach in high school, fellows guidance to dean of faculty, principal of university, Vice Minister of Education Ministry - Training and become world famous celebrity who was elected into top 500 celebrity elite among 25,000 worldwide celebrities by Center of International Profile IBC and in the beginning of 1996 he was invited to be the deputy director of this center. He was Nguyen Canh Toan. In 1998, at the age of 75, he continued to study super non-Euclidean Geometry (Peoples weekend, no.511, 15/11/1998).

In 1976, a Vietnamese 16-year-old boy came to America. He was so eager to learn that in a Christmas holiday, he went to a party and was willing to stay the night and just have fun with friends for 15 minutes. Through studious zeal that 10 years later, he obtained seven degrees in Technical University Massachuset (MIT) which has its national reputation, he also completed the thesis and received Ph. D in atoms. In 1996, at the age of 36, he was one of the most famous scientists in the US. That man must honor his Nguyen family in Vietnam: Nguyen Tue.

People who have progressive spirit always look for good words to say and good works to do.

a. Good words are:

-   Just say what is good for themselves, for family, for the country and for the people.

-  Do not make defamation, do not lie, play tricks to anyone.

-No spread inaccurate news, bad words or things that are not beneficial to others and society.

-  No profanity, swearing.

-  No gossiping.

b. Good Works are:

-  Finding beneficial things to all, for family, for country, for society but do not harm others.

-  For families: Being responsible for your role in family: a father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, son, grandson. with other members.

-  For relatives and friends: showing your gratitude for those who helped us in life, helping friends with all your abilities. Be ready to help anyone need you without profit and reward.

-  For people in society: always keep in mind a sense to be ready to serve charity, help the disabled and people in trouble and in misery. Never think others badly and always being thrifty, saving money to do good work.

-People with a progressive-longing spirit are always open -minded to embrace the new knowledge, correct the misconception, never having prejudice and bigotry conservatively, always thirsty for learning and exploring the new, being alive means still learning so that your time is not passed uselessly.

Summary: Being born in the world as a man, we should forge ourselves a LOVE OF

IMPROVEMENT intensely.

A.2.4.3 THE THIRD CONTENT OF ETHICS OF HUMAN LOVE THE TRUTH AND EQUAL

We say, "I love the truth" but the truth is something as "the truth is on this side of the Pyrenees, error on the other.” (Pascal), in the same problem, content, job... which is right in the previous era then turns wrong in this era; in a family, parents believe it is wrong, the children think is right...? Even in a man facing a problem, this time he thinks it is right, later he sees it wrong. (Proverb going that) as a proverb goes: "Evening it is wrong, next morning think it out" is even reasonable. Therefore, to make our love of truth becomes more meaningful, we have to find the correct answer to the question: What is the truth and how to find the truth, at least comparative truth? Because there’s nowhere in this vast universe you can find an absolute truth.

"A mediocre student knows the truth that Archimedes had sacrificed his life for it. The truth, will become powerful one day. That knowing it means being able to do it is a beautiful aphorism" (E. Renan). All human being’s seeking the truth; hundreds of generations died; (thousands of life in search of truth and) day by day we find more new truth which is more fully complete, profound and mysterious.

So what is the truth? How to realize it? Truth is the objective reality, is tested by the judge of time. Specifically, truth is the correct one, trueness, honesty, ration, suit the time and the laws. It is laudable and worth-conducting for a better life and bringing happiness to mankind (including yourself), enriches and makes life more poetic. Truth does not grow like weeds but hard to find; exploring, discovering and getting rid of all wrong action and evil, obscure its nature to show everyone.

Although the truth has shone like the sun, people wearing dark glasses do not figure it. Whatever the truth may "as straight as arrow", but man can deliberately bend it, crush it, change it conversely, then people will no longer figure out it. "Without truth, people are blind. Truth is the eye of (trueness) truth"(J.J. Rousseau). "All things in life are partly true, partly false in comparison with the truth, its characteristic is naked fact. This mixture makes the truth filthy and disappeared"(Pascal). "In the middle of the crowd, we (can have a distribution that you are) have the most precious thing that you can deliver it without fear of becoming poor, that’s the truth" (Michelin). The truth is always beautiful without artificial influences. The more you elaborate and decorate it, the more it loses its natural and ancient beauty, such as a log of rosewood that do not require any kind of covering paint.

Talking about the standard of truth, the young people, should read and contemplating the following story: A young female reporter had come to a famous wealthy man. Then 20 years later when he went bankrupt, she interviewed him again for publishing his experience. This man lived with an old fisherman in his childhood. The old man who caused a lot of mistakes in his life, gave him some advice: "You just do what you suppose that it is right and you will succeed." The old man himself think and act that way so he was forced to sell his boat (Retirement). He advised him: "Just do what you consider it is right", without truth, rules or anything else. The wrong point is here.

After leaving school, he does not want to do anything, just want to gamble. Luckily he became rich. Later he got married with a very beautiful girl. From empty hands, he became rich, got a beautiful wife, for many others man, it was "success", " great success". She had married three men, and all of them were wealthy. After marrying her for a while, their life went down. Finally, the she left him a consequence like the previous three, impoverished fortune. It is a lesson for those who challenges the fact in spite of the truth and overemphasizes their willpower.

Kalama Scripture has said:

"One day the prince of the land of Kalama said to the Buddha: My holy, while the princes in the line of Thich family favor the disciples of Buddhism, the other missionaries praising their own scripture. So who we should listen to?"

Buddha replied: "Dear princes of Kalama:

*  Do not quickly recognize anything whether it is what people usually say.

*  Do not quickly recognize something whether it was consistent with your own religion.

*  Do not quickly recognize something though that is your favorite one.

*  Do not quickly recognize something even if it fits your life motto.

*  Do not quickly recognize something whether it was told by a reputable person.

*  Do not quickly recognize something though it was told by a respectful one.

Dear princes of Kalama:

*  When you using your reasoning ability to recognize that something is immoral, reprehensible, is being denied by scholars, but if you bring it into recognition and practice then you take in distressed and broken soul, then you just dismissed it.

*  When you using your reasoning ability to recognize that something is good, is not to be criticized but to be praised by scholars and if you bring it into recognition and practice it then you will achieve the peace and happiness, then you can believe it and put it into practice".

Dear young friends!

Reading this passage, perhaps you are even more confused rather than believing, right? The reason is (that) those words from respected and prestigious ones, are usually favorable and suitable for people’s motto... that is said not to believable quickly, while your level is limited, your age is low and your living experience is still low also... then believe in their small minds or believe in the great man or in the person that everyone credits?

Among the great men, Einstein is the most famous one. When Einstein was 50 years old,

Landao got 20, he went to meet Einstein at his home in Berlin. Landao knew that Einstein did not recognize the theory of quantum mechanics by Heizenberg (he was at his 29). So whose theory is right?

Landao wrote to develop Heizenberg and Srodingher’s viewpoints since he was 15. He and physicists found out the quantum mechanics. If Landao is obsessed by the giant shadow of Einstein nowadays there would (will) be no Landao as you have known.

To help you on your path, being more confident of your own and help you find out the truth more easily, please read "Learning how to think properly" (page 42) and many books written about creative thinking, which includes —Thinking to survive” of E. Bono. If possible, read the works of creative thinking of Phan Dung. (The book contains 10 books about creative mind, Scientific (TSK) Publisher VNU HCMC 2012)

Considering then think twice. With great men like Einstein, Landao, Ho Chi Minh ... they can boldly follow their own ideas. And as my little ones, as young people, if we are not qualified to judge the life I would be not to rush to listen to whatever other people say (have to say one thing). With all skeptical behavior (Proverbs), we keep thinking, looking for our own hypotheses and perseverance to find the truth. Only to find the answer to two questions: "What is a happy person? How to be happy? "I lost 25 years uninterrupted. My foolish mind does not think as fast as Deep Blue computer does ((Yes documentary) I have been told that Deep Blue could calculate 3000 billion operations / second). I had to crawl like a turtle so. And please do not forget that: "Truth is the offspring of the time" (Gielo).

Always keep in mind the six-time repeated sentences in Kalama Scripture: Do not concede something immediately and two letters —doubt everything” as a basis helping us to find the truth. Because "The doubts led to the judgment, the judgment brings he truth" (Abola). "Through finding the truth people increase their strength and perfect themselves" (Lessing). Always remember that "Truth is as the sun, it may be clouded but just temporarily covered only" (K. Bovi).

Everyone knows that "Truth is truth. But there is the opposite of truth that is equally truth" (Macket). Perhaps because of understnding that, a physicist (Iforget the name) found electronic counter, from which new scientists figure out antimatter (One area was completely new awaits the young). La Thi Xuan Thu’s book (policy) which says: " The very life may seem backward, but the truth is swept period, there really is something that actually looks like the reverse sweep, sweep against how, innovative people realize." Especially when the reverse sweep that (the) ingrained into muscle tendons of millions ofpeople, in hundreds of millions of years, or even longer, then easily find out what the truth! Danish proverb which says: "The age-old mistake have more companies than a new truth."

Need to know: "Truth is bitter beverage, difficulty swallowed, but recuperation is very effective " (Balzac). Because "Ships that do not obey the wheel then obey reef (Toriaro). However, "The truth should sometimes not be told" (Proverbs). "Truth includes the need to speak out the truth, and the truth needs to silence" (Rivarol). Iranian proverb that says: " Lying that beneficial than harmful telling the truth." But also know that: "Truth sometimes causes the damage, but the lie always causes ruin " (G. Sand).

Although the " Middle language is against ears" (straight harsh words) or " Truth for ears is as smoke to the eyes, the vinegar to the teeth " (Proverbs Germany), but " Only true love to hear words mellow, pleasant, that’s not the truth admirers; to know the words stinging, discomfort, pain, severity, against atrial; to enjoy the bitter truths to the bone, the pain is (new to) the (fans of meat) truth admirers" (Montaigne).

"The introduction of two languages: one to tell the truth and a right to say something to the time " (Euripide). Because "Bitter medicine cures disability, the truth offends", so " Who wants to tell the truth (Go to where) will only see the door shut " (Proverbs Denmark). A lot of actions which have lasted for decades fell silent.

But:

Straight words, against ears, usually work.

Good drugs, bitter mouth, ease the pain.

(Tieu Ha).

"To be honest is useful to the listener but harmful to the speaker as to make people hate (Pascal) . Lover of truth knows that: "Surrender is not truth to fail" (MERO). Conversely, if not sober, wise to realize his opinion wrong, breaking laws, it is the former enemies, inevitable defeat, discredit and collecting the bad consequences.

Whether bright as the sun of truth, truth is the power, but everywhere in the world, where there is also a state of "justice of the powerful win” (Proverbs). Russian proverb says: "The reason is often the truth (true) of the powerful.” Allegorical poem “The wolf and the lamb” of La Fontaine more than 300 years ago has turned a typical phenomenon. Marauder hungry wolf, seeing lambs drinking, shouting:

-  How dare you hooked snout muddied water of me?

-  Please sire appease, to reconsider, at the bottom of the water, how water can we carve the watershed?

-  You make the water turbid and last year you backbited me, too.

-  Please review your Majesty, last year we were unborn, now we are still breastfeeding.

-  If not you, must be your big brother.

-  Indeed, I was alone, no brothers at all.

-   Not him then one of your sheep family. So I have to take revenge. Then the wolf jumped to bite the sheep at the neck and ate him.

We (I) love the truth, find, surrender, defend the truth, we love justice. That is good, but it's better if we dare to sacrifice (themselves weak advocacy) ourselves to protect the weak. Lawyers OWHolmes - President Theodore Roosevelt was brought up judges chairs the US Supreme Court that dare to follow the voice of his heart, dare against the president right from the first large trial (40 (mirrors) examples of the success of Nguyen Hien Le page 177).

In summary: A very high standard of THE HUMAN RULE is to love truth, appreciate truth, bravely defend the truth, to act according to reason, dare against misconduct, trample justice, despite suffered heavy losses.

A.2.4.4 FOURTH CONTENT OF HUMAN RULE LOVE YOUR ANSCESTORS

(Rooted tree, sourced water, house with foundations, human with fountain head, with parents) Tree has roots, water has source, house has foundation, human has ancestors. Everyone must remember that there are no parents, no grandparents, no ancestors then there are no us. Parenting a child, for a person’s education, parents have to bear many hardships in dozens ofyears. Humans are the only animals cared for their children when they are older. Children are successful, married, have children and then, many parents still have not seen full responsibility, to continue care for the grandchildren to death. The ancients said:

Father is as a mountain,

Mother like water from (flowing out) the fountain.

One Heart Worship Mother (Glass)Respect Father,

(For a new round is direct filial child) Fulfilling it is the filial duty,

Giving Birth and nurturing, especially the education of the parents (do not have to be) is unmatched. Buddhist had (has) a saying: "Good’s end, nothing more than dutifulness; Evil’s end, nothing more than (disloyalty) disrespectableness". So we can say disrespectableness is even greater (disloyalty) than (crime) murder. Our moral is: please do not remember, do not forget this owes. No one forces us to return the favor. THE HUMAN QUALITY of us forces us to repay it. We were raised by (adopted) our parents, we're raising children, it is not at the same (time the) kind of debt, the water flows down, those jobs create gratitude that can be paid off by the next generation to the previous one (these are the ones creating jobs never paid off thanks to the next generation) to the older generation.

Who saved us, such as the sinking of the boat, even though it only happens in a moment, (1 considered who gave birth to me) we considered they gave birth to us the second time, we are indebted to the end of life, some people even recognized as adoptive parents. (And our people first born,) To our parents who gave us life, who suffered many hardships, toil in the decades to nurtured (educational net) and educated us, then (shall he have not clearly) a few people cannot see the tremendous grace (his reward) and do not care about paying back, even someone forgot. A good society (is) always respects, upholds the TAM, the DUC, any (public) ingratitude must be condemned, especially to inculcate in the hearts, not forgetting the mountain of gratitude (for good), thanks to (the network rather salvation network) the life not the salvation.

1f someone (creates for) give us the most beautiful feelings (that) but they do not love their parents, do not repay the birth upbringing, they (eat in disloyalty) mistreated (to) their parents and grandparents, we should not believe them. Kind of those who do not master (them) human virtue, they might love us today, tomorrow they (may) suddenly turn their back on us and hurting us, we must be wary of them.

1 do not ask you to do things of filial piety as in the ancient time. 1just say: 1f we base on the way ones repay to the greatest (tribute) gratitude they received to evaluate them for us

to put in them trust, we will not certainly be wrong. Depending on the circumstances, children repay to the moral rules, to please their parents, for the society to admire, not in a rigid mold at all.

(All women become like their mothers) The second wave follows the first one. A proverb says: "Lie father, like son". The way we treat our children frames how they treat us later. (Epic mirrors) Examples are everywhere around us. Filial piety (origins) is original from parents, parents must treat their parents well and then to their children so that they can make less errors and know how to do the right things. (as few errors as possible, as true as possible).

Filial son, (in addition to) besides taking care of their parents while they are living, (thoughtful funeral at death) organizing their funeral thoughtfully when they die, have to strive forwards, become the pride of their parents ... When R. Gamzatov (high national award most) won the highest prize of the national award, someone informed the mother of the poet - (you are too) an old and weak lady- she said: "It is a good news, but I'm rather glad to hear that my child(ren) do good things, help the poor. In the old days, when his father won the grand prize, (his father brought) he used that money to lookfor water for the people "(My Daghextan R. Gamzatov Episode 2, Rainbow Publishing House page 32). Though our parents are in the underworld, that we do many good things on Earth, we can still proudly say, "I'm (signaling my parents) fulfilling my filial duty. My success on Earth makes my parents at another world at peace. "

The Chinese says: " Real hospitality has three lines, no child is the greatest disloyalty." But having children to become hooligans, thieves, (unruly) scoundrels, in and out of jail, that there is no greater (disloyalty) disrespectableness.

(Repaying to parents) Fulfilling your filial dity is not (doing) making big funerals (for big), buying an expensive coffin, wasteful funeral expenses, (lavish worship) big death anniversaries, inviting hundreds of people ... but (repaying) fulfilling your filial dity is taking good care of (physical originality) body and soul when our parents are alive; what to do and how to do, for our descendants to become the pride of our parents and to please our parents’ spirits if they pass away.

In recent years, thanks to the psychic, thousands of people have met their ancestral spirits . Thereby, we know for sure that our relatives, after coming into another world, are in lockstep with us in all walks of life. Our family is happy when we do a good job, when we do things wrong, our relatives hurt. So filial sons always have to think about doing lots of good work to make their parents happy, proud of (us) them (even though) whether they are alive or dead.

Many people after being successful has been dug to by historians about their ancestry, (birth) parents, (birth) grandparents, paternal or maternal side, thanks to whom that they got that success. As Nguyen Trai, Tolstoi, Churchill, Ho ChiMinh... all startedfrom their grandfathers; Xionkovxky, Dang Thai Son ... all started from their mothers. In their dates of birth, dates of death, we have to (say) tell (to the) our descendants (for them) to understand biographies of their parents, grandparents, and remind children of what to do for good value (for) of their ancestors.

In the era of market economy, we integrate (with) into the world but we can not be, not to be dissolved (mortal) because we have a tradition. That tradition begins in the family, from the filial piety to (their) our parents, grandparents and ancestors.

In summary: Those who master the HUMAN (rule) virtue must remember by whom they were born and who raised them up, gave them life. Knowing what to do to repay them for the great merit to fit the HUMAN (behavior) virtue in the new era.

A.2.4.5 FIFTH CONTENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR YÊU NHÂN

Loving mankind

From family cradle, crossing the (threshold) doorstep of his house, people integrate into society. After creating a noble family love, people continue to move forwards, to expand their heart covering the earth, the whole universe. For each of us, let's build in our heart a love of humanity such as loving ones in the home, (such as) loving ourselves, maybe even more. "Do as you would be done by", "Love the disabled," is the maxim that students of our generation have been learning from kindergarten. The aphorism became the baggage along the way with us. 25 centuries ago, Confucius stated (in the content of religion the human behavior) 5 contents of human virtue (the (usually) Five Ordinary) that humanity is the (head) most important element. 2500 years have passed, our society (has come a long way) had a big improvement, the human (behavior) virtue also changed, the (ranks) Five Ordinary of Confucius are no longer fulfilled the same. (Give) Eliminate what they Eliminate, change what they change, but kindness (is never changed) remains the same.

Today, mankind is heading to stage of national boundaries removal; the Earth has a common roof and more than half of humanity are still (of) in the poor class. Around the world, millions of people falling into the tragic. Then the kindness, the love of humanity has to be promoted more than ever. The slogan” Live and let others live "is good, but it is not as good as this one” Every person lives to let other people live more beautiful life” (Liu Hu Lan ) .

Those who embody love of humanity are willing to do good things, find good people to help where they can help, then help immediately, innocently, unconditionally, with no profit. Because: "Enthusistic help is no different from a second help” (Russian proverb). Writer E. Gvitsacdini (writer) wrote: "The greatest virtue besides which, every other virtue will fade, it is not harming anyone and customizing efforts but to help people. "

A proverb says: —Property made by yourself kept upstairs, the gambled property kept in the yard, picked property kept outside" We want to ask that: "Where do you put your given possessions or (your posess for good work) possessions for charity”? (I do no care where you put them) Where you put them, it suits yourself, but for me: I put my given possession in the altar and my possessions for charity (for good work) in my heart. A proverb says: "100 pennies of earnings is no worthier than (that of) a bonus one". Possessions that are given, not bribes, as well as bonuses, whatever the value is, must be treated with respect as sacrificial offerings, though not to the altar, then you also (have) love it, cherish it as offerings. And possessions for charity does not come out from the treasury, but from a heartDo not think that only the rich, wealthy people can do good work then poor people take no money to do good work. An Arab proverb says: "If you are rich, give away your possessions, if you are poor, then you give away your heart." Because: "Compassion is not like tolerance, nothing is as evil as hatred" ((Increase) Tang Q. Phien). When our hearts, our minds always think about the good things, then there are always ways to do the good things. Though "(The rich are not honest) Good people are not rich" (Russian proverb), but "(It is only by living full lives for others) Living for other’s lives is a sufficient life" (Guyo). However, everything is at its moderation. All the excesses are inadequate. The other said: "(Be just before you are generous) Don’t be too generous." "There is nothing more dangerous than excessive goodwill". It is a reminder of P. Corneille for anyone excessively doing good work.

Over the past 30 years of war, there are too many people who are suffering from the

consequences, they or their descendants are still carrying the sequelae of war. Regularly, there are news and articles (stating) about cases that need help appearing in the broadcasts, news or humanitarian TV, press. The biggest consequence of the war is the poor, there are too many poor people in our country.

Those who embody love of mankind do not wait until the news, articles calling for good work but always cherish a spirit to do good work in the beginning, a willingness to do good things at any time, remember them as to remember daily meals. Parents and grandparents, just by having a good will and usually doing good things, (can) they arouse their descendants’ compassion for the (odds) strangers, those who suffer from (tragic) tragedies. As Fuller (says) said: "Charity begins at home but does not end there." Only when the love of humanity, patriotism, love for the motherland are agitated in the human heart from childhood, (can) it can be incisive, deep and (stay) lasting to the end of our children’s lives.

A Ukrainian proverb says: "Old age, death and naughty children, these are three human catastrophe". Among these, only one can be avoided, it is (immoral) naughty children. When our children were forged KINDNESS FROM EARLY YEARS, we can (be) rest assured that they can hardly be damaged. If someone only concerned taking children to travel, visiting (scenic areas) beautiful spots, recreation areas, but forgot to spend time for children and grandchildren visiting orphanages, especially the hot addresses in surrounding villages, cities, it is a regrettable mistake, a factor contributing to the disability (of their children first) in the children’s mind.

When these noble sentiments are not stirred in the hearts of children (including adults)

, the badfeelings will occupy. If someone's year-round concern is only about making money, but forget (about enrichment) to enhance the value -minded (spirit) in his children, the negative consequences will occur soon in his family.

1f our children do not know how to love humankind in general properly and loftily, they hardly have true and (correct) right sentiments for their parents and grandparents and siblings in the family, then they will not have any noble love at all.

Summary: Self-discipline and self-education of MANK1ND love to their children is one of the most important contents of the HUMAN (BEHA V1OR) V1RTUES.

A. 2.4.6 SIXTH CONTENT OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR PATRIOTISM AND LOVE FOR THE MOTHERLAND

(Homeland) if anyone does not remember their homeland,

(Well a person will not be large) They cannot grow up.

Possibly, (everyone of) Vietnamese people like these two verses in the song Que Huong, which is full of good vibes by Giap Van Thach (Do Trung Quan poem).

Love for the motherland begins from love for family, love for parents , grandparents, siblings, kindergarten, love for children's songs , group games , fun sessions in nursery school, love for days of watching srping festivals, spring exhibitions, museums, trips to see (beauty) beautiful spots with friends (since) from the childhood... These are the basic ground for the children to keep, promote and reserve the cultural identity of (ethnic) the nation, selectively absorb foreign cultures and fight agaist trends that are not consistent with the evolution of human society.

All the smooth, warm things that vibrates the hearts and creates love from relatives to family pets, familiar scenery around you ... of the children will instill (in them) the impression into them not to forget and make up the love for the motherland, for the country. Later on, (despite the horizon far away from the corner of the tank) no matter how far they go, even going into the distant universe, (people) they still miss their hometown, (miss) the cherished memories which do not fade (smoothly) away from their boyhood. F. F. Dospassov said: "You can separate people from their homeland but the homeland can not be separatedfrom the human heart." Major rivers originate from small streams. Erenbourg wrote: "Without love from the roadside grass to trails leading down to the (waterfront) riverside, people can not have proper patriotism or true love for the motherland “.

If (after learning to walk, learning to talk,) children are left alone in the quarrel, anger of their parents or live without the attention and caring of their parents while they are learning walking and talking, (making them lack family love then) it (is) will be hard to frame the deep and beautiful love for the motherland in (our) their hearts. Those who does not love either their family or their homeland does not know about patriotism.

24 centuries ago, Aristophane once said: ”A man 's homeland is wherever he prospers.” Today, tens of millions of (people) Vietnamese people has left the "bamboo village" to find new homes in all parts of the country. Those who are forced to leave their country, living far from the bamboos, (away) from (home) their roof, (far) from where (he was) they were born, (although) still missing their home so much. (But) Because of circumstances, they had to choose a second home to live.

Do Phu (Du Fu) has four verses highlightedfour human orgasm, including the "To meet an oldfriend in a strange place". Some people (remake) remade it "To meet an oldfriend in a thousand-mile distance". Nothing is more blissful than meeting old acquaintance or those who speak the same mother tongue. In my book Daghextan, Raxun Gamzatov mentioned the story: A man who belongs to an ethnic (communication) minority, in a noisy city of millions of people overseas; (but) suddenly he hears the mother tongue - no matter which language is emitted from the mouth of an alien - is (still as) happy as catching gold.

Despite that, those who do not love their homeland, is numerous. G. Byron said: " (He) The one who does not love their country, can not love anything”. Today, when the whole earth is a common home, patriotism has to be expanded into love for the environment and Mother Earth. Any (acts) action of environmental pollution (are) is a manifestation of immoral work, lacking of patriotism. Whether in our country, our hometown or foreign lands, once we are living on this Earth, we have to love it, protect the environment, protect (human) the common roof of human race. That is our morality which comes from the love of motherland.

Love for one's homeland has to be presented with the practical work. Like Bibi Russell - a Bangladeshi woman - a rare model who was successful for decades in Western fashion and earned a lot of money. Visiting her hometown, she suddenly realized that her wealth does not mean anything when thousands of children is hardy, doing all sorts of adult vocational work (including humiliating profession) but still living in poor, dark and illiterate conditions. She decided to repatriate, retired from the Western catwalk, with big sum of money , developed craft villages in Dhaka , helped the youth to produce , to earn a Being the smart, studious and sensitive person; from success in the role of a fashion (show) model and thanks to understanding the psychology of the West, she stepped into the spotlight of fashion business. Despite being the general manager of a complex enterprise with dozens of production base and business in Dhaka and elsewhere, she was the only person not (in the consortium that paid) getting salary. She said: "Hard work, without pay, but I do not exchange for anyone my current position." She creates jobs and stable incomes for thousands of young people and use profits to build schools for illiterate children. She contributed large sums of money to build the hospital for treatment for workers. She was with other social organizations combating the bad practices against women in her country. Action and tolerance of her heart took her to the "saints" in the hearts of the poor in the country. She is surrounded everywhere by people because she is the benefactor, the "angel" of the poor, (primarily of) specially children of Bangladesh.

There used to be a benefactor in the country who is Mohammad Ynus, who nearly 30 years ago abandoned his title of professor at a US university, brought the money collected to establish a bank for the poor. His activities became valuable experience for the whole world and is effective not only in Bangladesh, as there are up to three billions of poor people worldwide (Maternity Development Plan of397.12 / 97). Mr. M. Ynus set a noble example ofpatriotism as well as love for the motherland. Thanks to this noble and effective work, at the end of2006, he received the Nobel Peace Prize.

Thousands, tens of thousands ofpatriotic overseas Vietnamese around the world have wealthy business, study well, become the rich or the great scientists, did bring the money, knowledge and techniques to contribute to the development (process) of their hometown. Of the examples ofpatriotism, I am especially interested in the mirror of Ms. Le Kim Tuyen. Born in Paris, at the age of 16, she began to learn Vietnamese, spent a lot of time to learn culture and tradition of Vietnam and actively learnt to prepare knowledge and talents to serve her native country. After getting her degree for Deputy Doctor in (biological response) biology in France, she returned home and was invited to work at the Institute of Hygiene and Epidemiology in Hanoi.

As well as their (self esteem) love for labor, love of humanity ... patriot must also be trained in the family (since) from their childhood. In the early 1977, when first coming to Song Be (former), my children were just 5 to 7 years old or so. I have taken them to visit the provincial martyr cemetery, went through every single row of graves, carefully read the names of each martyr’s hometown. I (let them see) clearly showed that the vast majority of those who are resting in peace there sacrificed at the age of 20 more or less, and a lot of them came from the north of the country. Getting through that, I reminded them of patriotism and their responsibility for their country in the future.

In summary: Always (recite) bearing in mind the sentence:

(Homeland) if anyone does not remember their homeland (Well a person will not be large) They cannot grow up

Patriotism of each person is not empty words but it has to be turned into practical and regular action (and regularly). It is striving to become an outstanding citizen, striving to fulfill the responsibilities of a citizen (of) for the country, the homeland.

A.     2.4.7 seventh content of human (rules) virtues love yourself or self-esteem

If we do not love ourselves, respect ourselves then who respect us (anymore)! Being a human without love means we are no longer a HUMAN? To be loved and respected by many people, what (do) must we (have to) do?

First, we must keep (honor) our honour(dignity), personality and dignity (elevation); we must enhance our compassion, intellect, talent to (live well and better) make our lives and our nation better, listen to the whisper of conscience in order to speak, to behave in a righteous manner, early detect our faults, recognize errors and correct them promptly; do not do or sayanything that are harmful to others, to our society and to ourselves.

Because “One’s honor is more precious than his life’’ (Schiller). Who lost his honor then there is nothing more to lose” (Piupinxinuytx)? “Honor is like the eye, which cannot suffer the least impurity without damage” (Bossuet). “Honor is like a match, you can olny use it once’’ (M. Pagnol).

One thing is obvious: Every word that flattering our ears comes out 100 % ; the praise we receive, much to (my) our ears, 50 %; also with tidbits about (my words) us, if you are

sober enough then you will hear only 5-10%. Zeng Guofan said: "A gentleman is not happy because of millions ofpraises he received, but getting afraid of complaints of those who are well-educated’’.

Self-respecting person listens to whisper of conscience to get away from wrong, evil things as well as knows how to train himself a great virtue, because: "People need a lot of great virtue to maintain luck in bad luck" (La Rochefoucauld).

We ask you, when are we allowed to blessedly bow a slave? Yes. Aristotle wrote: "Please be all his willpower and a slave to his own conscience. " "Life is sweet and fun for people with a clear conscience" (Tolstoy). Gandhi said: "The mighty that I follow (as) in this world is the whispering (The conscience) (in who I am) inside me". Everyone knows that "Being gentle safer (become) than being aggressive" (Jonimi). Because "Who will caress (spike spikes) thorn will be spiked" (J. Lyly). "If morality is not sufficient to ensure the happiness, the sufficient cruelty (enough to) will make people miserable" (Aristotle).

English proverb said: "A good reputation should be chosen than the great riches." I have a confidant, a few years older than me, living in Ho Chi Minh City. Few years ago, I paid him a visit, discussing about his father-in-law’s business that he disagreed. He said “I have 8 friends, none of them under 70 years old with over 20 years in prison. I was thinking: “Firstly, how over 70-year-old people be friend with him. Secondly, what a life with 20 years in prison. Being put in the prison was the result of worshiping money. “There’s no treasure more precious than being good people” (Anonymous). There comes a proverb: “Let every sheep hang by its own shank”. We don’t have to earn a mountain of money for our posterity spending it to detroy their honour, their life.

People with self-esteem can sacrifice their lives, but determined not to lose (his) their honor. An Afganixtan proverb said:” For honor can jump right into the fire.” A good name is better than riches (J. Hiut). ” My honor is my life. Take from me the honor and my life will end” (Shakespeare). People with self-esteem do not do anything embarrassing to the conscience. Tolstoy said:” (Knowing) Being shy in front ofpeople is a good feeling; but (shameless before) being shy of yourself is better.” A Latin proverb goes:” God looks at the clean hands, not the full ones’’.

1n this moral degradation age, striving to be a good person, is not easy. 1n a group of bad people, only the presence of a good man has made them mad then. Just like Ms. Pearl Buck, when she was new to college, she won the prize in the competition of writing short stories and poem. She did not get the sympathy of the people around, but received a hostile grumble instead. When she received the Nobel Prize in literature, a wave of anger started to emerge (The women in the Kennedy family, Publisher of The Arts 1996page 17). People do not take our good work as an example but show out a rancour reaction instead. There comes a sentence in a book: "Being with the good is like being in a fog cloud, though people do not get wet but imbued with morality. Staying with foolish ones, is like sitting in the latrine, although our clothes do not get dirty, but people are haunted by the smell. Staying with the evil, is like sitting in a pile of swords, though not harmful, but the fear is

always

People with self-esteem who are wise and judicious must know how to solve things in a prudent manner. They know what, when, how andfor what they sacrifice themselves. Living with good people, be friends with good people and getting close to them make (it easier to become) our life better. But living among bad people but one still keeps his dignity " Live in the society without being contaminated by its vices", then that is what is called HUMAN.

"If you would not be forgotten as soon as you are dead and rotten, either write things worth reading, or do things worth the writing" (Franklin). For the young, please "Keep clothes from the moment it was sewed(unfortunately), keep kudos right from the young" (Russian proverb). (It is easy to) We can get dirty clothes cleaned but we cannot do so with ignominious reputation. “Honor is sustainable only if we always took the truth as a (needle) guideline" (N. B. Despreaux). As A Western proverb goes: "You honor others as you honor yourself ".

After its victory over Nazi Germany in 1945, at the Kremlin, the government of the USSR (former) celebrated to meet the outstanding heroes of Patriotic War. An honored organizer asked private Ichgnat Simban: "Please tell everyone the reason why you became a hero?". He replied: "I do not know why I became a hero. But I think: From discipline to hero, it is just a short step. Being soldiers means following orders. But sometimes we are not to hear any orders. We have to listen to mother land’s orders with our heart.”

Dear young people! From discipline to hero andfrom being undisciplined to thugs only take one step. Many thugs act out like heroes. The only different thing is that they know nothing about how to follow the order of (inside consciousness) their conscience, of their (native) motherland.

In "The everyday story in the district" by V. Ovetskin, a young man told the leader of a District Committee: "In terms ofresponsibility for the fate of the country, the revolution and socialism, I share the same spot with people of the best reputation and at the highest social status. Differences in age and size of the work has no special meaning here "(Tac Pham Moi Publisher, Hanoi 1978 page 443). If you can say and do as this young man, you should let people write about you and your life will become immortal after death.

A person with self-esteem does not only protect his honor from dirt but he or she always seeks for ways to promote, uphold and expand, conduct his personality, his human dignity. Those deserve the best praises and lead a bright example for everyone to follow.

Further discussion: Currently, there comes a tendency to learn about Buddhism philosophy in people of old age. After leaving the human life, they want to come back the eternal world. Old people want to join the two higher realms in the eternal world, not to come back to human life and stay away from 3 lifetimes of hungry demons, animals and hell. The will is right, but the way that many people do need to reconsider.

Who wants to make his soul immortal, please read the rules of eternal life (page 258). Only by doing good work in (the recent) this world (can) you (people get a high) can hope to achieve aspirations after returning to the eternal world. If you just pray, go visit temples to demand, to ask for without actions, not helping others become the immortal then who is there to help you become immortal?

It should be recalled that: the scariest thing in life is:

-  Do not know the knowledge people need to know (See Appendix I)

-  And know the knowledge that is known wrong. Those who do not know how to stay away from this most scary thing then their wrong will harm themselves.

In summary: (Proper behavior) Human Virtue in the new era includes seven contents: Love of labor Love of progress Love of truth, justice.

Love of ancestors Love of mankind

Love of the motherland, love of the (fatherland) nation

Love yourself

You only deserve and qualify PEOPLE when we research, remember and fulfill these contents

A2.5 THE FIFTH (PRAPARATION) BAGGAGE PRECIOUS VIRTUES, MANNERS

A2.5.1 Meaning

If a young man gets enough four initial (luggage) baggages, he has the basis to hope for great success on life. But it would be insufficient if you do not get yourself (wrought) precious virtues and (behaviours) manners.

Even though you have these four baggages but (for) this fifth one, it is just like when you earn enough money to build a palatial mansion but you give it to the workmen who are careless, unorganized; whereas, you take your work perfunctorily, without having a careful look at it in the process of building your home then it will be demolished, as a result. If you do not build a house, spending the money on buying a house instead, but you lack these virtues, proper (behavior) manners and need of a wise, experienced costumer, you are not in good conformity with the saying that goes: "Customers are those who made a mistake, not the sellers," you mistake a chicken with its hoes, considering a mattock a chicken, buying carelessly, randomly, which may lead you to spend money on a quack doctor and only get worse as well as wasting your money and getting frustrated through it.

Even if you have enough best qualities of a young man, then you go looking for a lover, while there are dozens of those around who are falling for you, flirting, pampering, flattering you, etc. Once you have no qualities required of a prudent person to make big decisions in life, or you even do not consult or look for advice from seniors, those who are full of experience, you may come to share a life with the wrong person. Seeking for happiness, you may fall into hell just like Tolstoy, Lincoln, Pushkin, Dickens and many others. The situation is just like gleefully having a precious commodity of VND1,000 sold at VND 10,000 but getting the whole fake money back instead.

If you build a spectacular, durable building with facilities that are full of fine things but you furnish, arrange them haphazardly, in messy order, or you use them in an indiscriminate way, without any rules or regulations, etc. especially those that are modern devices, if it does not cause you to be shocked by the electricity then your stuff may get damaged and those drawbacks are unforeseeable.

On life, each person needs to have several precious manners, characteristics. Those with those precious things have a high hope to succeed in the basis of hundreds of large and small things, from the technical ones to the very primary ones. Those without the qualities that are presented in this chapter easily fall into troubles or obstacles at work, when dealing with situations that occur on life.

Coming out to the society, we easily see lovely people besides ones who are hateful; ones with characteristics that range through time; ones who get loved by everyone but there are also some who are very (nasty, discomfort) annoyed. Even in their house, (that even their siblings or relatives) their beloved cannot stand them; they are troublemakers everywhere they go.

The question is: what to do to make our descendants and even ourselves embody virtues, manners, lifestyles, attitudes or gestures, etc. that make them accepted by the society, prevent them from being hated. 1f we can do that, we (spontaneously) increase our success in the long road of life.

A.2.5.2 CONTENTS AND EFFECTS

Being new to life, 1 have found and since tried to implement ethical guideline of Uncle Ho as follows:

Happiness is the cure in life,

Happiness begets appreciation,

Happiness gets us close to people,

Happiness conducts our work,

Being over-straight damages relationships,

Being over-disciplines damages things,

Be bearable in anger,

Keep a cool head in danger situations,

Be careful in speech,

Be careful in writing,

Take care of your own career,

Get rid of melancholy and being sentimental.

Once, while reading books of quotations, I (find) found two remarkable sayings that go: "On life, the most important luggage to carry is patience " (Schopenhauer). "On the way of work, everyone needs to carry patience and endurance " (Maiakovski).

Uncle Ho 's ethical motto and these two sayings remind me to think of two questions:

1.   What is luggage that every young man needs to bring with him in life?

2.   What are the qualities and (behaviors) manners that each of us needs to forge and to increase our success on life?

In searching of the answer to this question, so far, I have found more than 30 virtues and (behavior) manners that every person needs to forge, I temporarily classify them by importance from high to low and have a few comments, some thoughts on the virtues and (the behavior) manners as follows:

1.  Determination, diligence, hard-work (Review the fourth (preparation) baggage).

Scriptures say: "Hard-work leads to great success". Chinese scholars taught them

descendants: —Nothing is impossible with hard-working people’’, which means there is nothing that can prevent a person with this virtue from getting success. This is the most important virtue which each of us must practice it. Without this virtue, we cannot affirm our success in life.

2. Tolerance

23 centuries ago, Epicurus wrote: "Those who are not afraid when facing difficulties can never be defeated". One might say: No trouble can crash them. For them, failure does not exist; the only thing that exists on their way, the only thing that exist is success, no matter how great it is. "He who fears to suffer, suffers from fears" (Montaigne ). "He who is tolerent, the world belongs to him" (Anonymous) .

According to Buddhism philosophy: "Life is suffering". If it is impossible to avoid misery, then accept it - to become less miserable and let’s seek to exploit wisely lessons that (are) taught ourselves by (mysery) itself. D’ Alembert wrote: "The suffering is a teacher of wisdom and behaviour, but even better, it is a holy monk of reflection and thought". It helps us to wake up and think about many useful things for our life. Because "Surrender to disaster is a disaster" (Biax)

An English proverb said: "Poverty isn’t a shame, but being ashamed of it is ". Everyone knows, poverty accompanies cowardice as one does not know how to get rid of it. But the rich suffer even more than the poor. They are suffering for various reasons, for they do not know how to apply this sentence “He is rich that he has few wants”.

Disraeli said: "The wealth that comes after the poverty is better than the poverty that comes after that wealth." In Japanese folk tale treasure, there comes a story that haunts us a lot. A married man with two children, was obliged to choose one between those two things: suffering then enjoying or enjoying in advance. He chose to suffer first. Soon after, he suffered from one catastrophe to another catastrophe: family seperation and missing. He went through this failure to another failure. All the suffering to the extreme, he bit the bullet and got through all those. After years, till he got old, “After a storm comes a calm" , he reunited with his family and they enjoyed their life together ever after.

The most miserable ones are those who immerse themselves in suffering, always groaning because of their suffering, making the suffering considerably increase. "The (true) way to soften one’s troubles is to solace those of others" (Ms. De Maintenon). "Forget the (lack of) difficult and sufficient moments but do not forget what we have learned from those moments (that moment what you should teach people) " (A.V. Gherzen ) .

Nguyen Ba Hoc wrote: "There is nothing in life that is more miserable than old age, sickness, separation and loss of care ". Many people who lose care and faith, ending up in spiritual crisis have to spend the rest of life in asylum or even commit a suicide. A Chinese proverb says:" Nothing is more miserable than illness and debt." In 1966, I had the opportunity to live with a man, who is not very good at singing but singing all day long. I praised him for his rose-coloured view, he said :" I carry too much heavy and dangerous disease, it can take me to another world at any time, I have to sing to forget this pain, this sadness".

In a nutshell: When falling into misery, let’s execute the saying quoted by Anonymous: "The best way to escape misery is (arduously) walking through it". (Going) Walking through it means: Seeing the suffering on the way we go, if there is not any road to avoid it then just boldly storm it, but with an axe in hand. Then the world will belong to you. Let me emphasize this, this world will belong to those who is not afraid to face difficulties.

           3. Love your precious life

This is the very first precious thing among the six ones in human life.

Those who think that life is beautiful, lovely as well as those who live with a purpose, a meaning in life (is) are always seek ways to lengthen their life as much as possible. They always complained that they are in lack of time. They work every day from 10 to 18 hours; some people even work through the night or work 36 hours withour taking a rest or forgetting about eating, sleeping, working up to the last breath just like Edison, who never cut short his life even for a moment, etc. (When Edison was nearly 85 years old, he worked throughout Saturday night (18/10/1930) and died down in a chair. The next Sunday morning (after that) (19/10), his wife went to call him for breakfast but she discovered him dead in his lab experience). The people who think that life is suffering, living without purpose, no meaning, they always wanted to die. But as the death crept closer to the door carrying a scythe, they would defer it, beg to slow it. B. Franklin said: "The coward fears death, the miserable prays for death, the (arduous) brave challenges death, the humble, then waits for death." And people who live with noble purposes do not care about death. Because, they know that: "Whether long or short, full or not, their life is decided by the purpose". (D. Gioocden).

At the age of 80, B. Shaw said: —I’m too busy, there is no time to think of death... I love to live, as living means happiness. To me, life is a big torch that I hold in hand just for a while. I want it to burn to the last before it is transferred to the next generation’’.

In Vietnam, whether you died young like Ly Tu trong, Kim Dong, Vo Thi Sau, Nguyen Ba Ngoc, always means that you are immortal. For —the death that exists in life, the sad death of those who are still alive, but do not use his life for any purpose’’(Nam Cao) then just like Lao Tzu once said —Living up to 800 years old as Banh To - still die young”.

—The most precious thing of a human in life is his life. But everyone only lives once. You have to live so that you get no regrets for your wasteful days, in order not to regret for the past of ourselves; in order to say that when you are no longer alive: all my life, I have devoted it to the most noble business in life: the great work of setting human beings free” (N. Ostrovski). The phrase —setting human beings free” here can be understood by that setting human beings from the prison of poverty and illiteracy.

In summary: People who (have a) love (for) their life (themselves) always do as follow: —Adding time to life and adding life to time”, they try to lengthen their lives as much as possible, never do things that would shorten their lives, always try to do multitask and do things that would be remembered for centuries.

4. Treasure time

This is the third in six precious things in a person’s life. At the beginning of my primary years, people at my age all leanrt:

Time flies

It goes, gets lost without waiting.

Dear, don’t be lengthy,

Don’t be like a flying butterfly.

An English proverb says: “Time is money’’. Therefore, “Wasting (money) time is among the biggest waste’’ (Franklin). To prosper in life, we have to to try our best to make as much money as possible (Physical or mental wealth). But: “Time is the most precious thing for those who get the talent to create wealth themselves” (Balzac).

If you want to wear a laurel wreath, to get to the top of success, please remember: “Those who do not (take) appreciate their time as their wealth having no hope to get to success” (L. Vauvenargue). “Save your time, it is the cloth that weaves life” (X. Richarson).

Nowadays, everywhere in the world, there are people who waste their time without hestitation, from adults to children. They do not know that: —Mediocre people only cares about how to waste his time, but talented people seek ways to make the best use of their time” (Schopenhauer). Because: —Every minute, every second you are wasting do harm to your future (Napoleon). —Every minute, every second that passes (unpurposedly) is a piece of vulnerable life” (Nguy Nguy). Wasting time is a crime to the future. Because: —One hour at the moment costs more than two hours of tomorrow’’ (T. Fuller). —Those who neglect at the moment will throw everything they have in the future” (Schiller).

God has been so unfair: he gives one a good health, a gifted mind as well as a nice family, etc. but gives others a poor health, a stupid mind and a devil family, etc. But there is one thing that he makes it fair to everyone: everyone gets 24 hours a day, no less no more. If two people share the same background but one gets great success and one fails bitterly then one

of the most important elements to consider is how they used their time. One uses his time to study, to practice, to invent new things. The other one uses his to indulge in debauchery. We know it wihout doubt who is better.

For instance, S. PCadman, an 11-year-old boy, had to work as a miner to earn money to feed his little siblings. While waiting his turn to pour the coal, he got 1-2 minutes free. Even in the dark of the tunnel, in the dim light, got dirt in the body, he made use of his time to read books in that limited 120 seconds. Every 8 hours of a hard working day in the coal tunnel, he might not bring the food with him but he always (brang) brought a book along with him. 10 years later, he was qualified at an exam and got the scholarship of the university of Richmond. After that, Cadman became the volunteer in broadcasting and is one of the most (reputated) reputed figures in the US (40 examples of success, page 23)

People who appreciate their time, they not only know how to use every second, every minute of (him) them in valuable things but they also know how to apply the (principle) motto “Kill two birds with one stone”, he does many things at a time, but he never let (that) this situation happen: —get that thing done but destroy the others”. Pavlov, throughout many experiment, proved that: changing one’s job is the best method of rest. For example, when Gladstone were in charge of Britain’s great business, he put four desks at his office room: one for political stuff, one for studies, one for literature and one for (letters) correspondence. It is even better if we get to change between intellectual work and physical work or do exercises between the two intellectual work.

People with those qualities will properly distribute their time into practical work to get back the best advantages.

They know how to spend their time to:

-Work and make a living,

-Study and self-improve

-Do exercise to keep fit, take care of their health,

-Observe and think,

-Creat happiness and enjoy happiness,

-Looking after their family, bring up their offspring,

-Doing charity work (Including helping their friends, neighbors, relatives, etc.)

-Singing and smiling,

-Resting, playing, entertaining, travelling,

-Reading magazines, books; listening to the radio,

-To be creative,

-Always remember to spend time to show gratitude to their parents,

-And many other contents according to everyone’s particular interests and situations

(Spiritual activities, communication between friends or with the nature, etc.)

Here, there is one fancy thing to discuss: is there any way to get more than 24 hours a day? Once, I read a story: a young man has a strange disease, he has to spend 1 hour everyday to practice, no matter how hard he has had to, no matter how painful it is, he cannot miss it; without which he ends up in death soon; that means God gives him only 23 hours a day. Since then, I think: if we find a way to do 2-3 things at a time, or a thing with 2-3 advantages, so we can consider that we have more than 24 hours a day.

You must know how to distribute your time in order to get needed things done just like distribute your money into your expense.

In conclusion: People who respect their time are those who their most precious thing that God has given to do useful things for themselves, their relatives, their country, their society, without letting them float unpurposedly.

5. Activeness, enthusiastism:

Dynamic people are like those who have something wriggling inside their heads, which stimulates them to think, to be creative, to find the best way to act, to come up with good ideas, inventions, methods to fix the difficulties on their road of life, to come up with good ideas to put in pieces of writing, etc.

Just like G.L. Martin, a young man who did not study much, all by himself, thanks to his active mind and nerves of steel, he created an airplane. When he was 6 years old, he tied a blanket into a small truck, painted it red and let the wind blow, running on the road like a sailboat in the river. He loved to play with the wind like being hallucinated because his mother always told him a story that she dreamt of sitting on board of an airplane, waving everybody down there in the street two days before he was born (page 15). This dream happened 17 years ago before the first airplane was created. (Starting) When he was in school, after reading a magazine, he immediately came up with the diea of creating a kite with two wing-layers. He by himself organized a kite-flying contest and he won it. Since then, he established “kite-making workshop’’ in the kitchen, which created three (airplanes) kites per night, each of which was sold at $0.25. As an active boy together with being encouraged by his mother, which provided him the best condition to discover, work, create, thanks to this, he invented an engine right at the early years of youth. When he was 19, through reading newspapers, he knew that Wright Brothers created an airplane, which could fly up to 100 seconds. Months later, when he saw the image of an airplane, he thought it was like a big kite, with an engine. Hence, he had a strong will that: he would created his own airplane.

In daylight, he young boy Martin had to work to make a living. At night, he groped, (reshed) did research, studied to conduct his dream of conquering the sky. After several years of self-studying, researching, thinking, he started to create his airplane. Even though being looked down on by his friends as well as people around him, or even his father felt ashamed of him, he was not disheartened. His mother encouraged and lighted up for him. They had worked non-stop in 13 months, even skipped Christmas & New Year Eve. Finally, at 23 years old, he created an airplane in the abandoned church which he hired 12 dollards per month. They had to work sneakily, stay away from people’s eyes. Lastly, he became the third person in America flying by their own airplane.

Many years after, he made many China Chippers, which (are) was the first aircraft that passed The Pacific Ocean as well as made a lot of fighting aircrafts. After that, he built up a company named after him, which was situated in Baltimore of Maryland and it was one of the three biggest airplane companies worldwide before the (Great) World War II. 50 years after creating the sailboat truck running on the road, he created Mars, the biggest airplane ever at (this) that time (page 17). People with a bright mind always do as follows: when one door shuts, another one opens. in order not to let their mind rest but they are like a hunting wolf, always rasing its ears to listen, head swinging, turning forwards and backwards, searching for new things.

For a Dutch boy, Edward Bok, he (had to stop his study at the) dropped out of high school when he was just 13, then he started to work to make a living. He walked to the workshop to save money and abstained from lunch, spending the money on buying the book The Dictionary of American Celebrities. While reading, thinking, studying new ideas through the lessons raised by those celebrities. He sent letters to celebrities, asked about their boyhood. He wrote to the Millitary Leader Grant about a fight. Grant draw a map for him and invited the little 14-year-old boy to come around for dinner and talked with him all night long (Grant commaned armies of the northern states of America and defeated enemies of the southern states during the 1861-1865 war under President Lincoln’s reign. He paid a visit and made the acquaintance of many celebrities in America at that moment.

One (A) day, (out on the road,) he saw a man opening a packet of cigrattes on the road, taking a picture out to see and throwing it away. He picked it up and discovered the image was of a famous politician and the back of the picture was empty. As an active boy, the next day, he did not eat anything but coming to the publisher’s company which produced the prints and persuaded them to print some lines of their profile so that people would not throw it away anymore. He was so eager to persuade them that the master started to changed his mind and had the boy write 100 profiles with 100 words per profile and paid him 10 dollars every single profile. 1000 dollars in royalties was enormous. (Shortly after this) Not long after that, because the master asked him to write so much that he had to hire some more people to do the work and paid them half of the money.

From the action of the man throwing the piece of paper on the road, the schoolboy - for his creativtity - came up with an ideal which helped him earn such a big amount of money by a part-time job. It is quite honorable. Being a Dutch boy, arriving in America since 6 at the age of a schoolboy, he found a job which paid him only $0,5 every week but the boy considered it as precious as gold because his family was quite poor. Only with 6 years at school, the boy became a manager of a journal enterprise thanks to his creativity. He was the most successful figure in the journal industry of the United States. He created a magazine for women, which is the biggest magazine in the world. Even though he left his position at the age of 56, his enterprise also made 2 million prints every month and the advertisement income (brang) brought him 1 (billion) million dollar every period. Early in the 20^th century, $400 was a treasure, 35 USD = 1 ounce of gold).

Speaking of dynamism, we have to mention the story of “the little boy” Tom Edison, who saved his mother, his siblings and a train within a day. The story (is) was as follows: As a mischievous child, he became the shame of his father who worked (and worked) too hard to make money (only). He was cruelly abused by his father many times. The boy left his home in frustration after leaving his mother a few words on the table. Before he reached the train station, his mother suddenly got a severe abdominal pain. Discovering the words Tom left on the table, Tania knew that her little brother was on the way to the train station. Leaving the mother alone at home, she rushed to the station in the rain, fortunately, it has not been the time the train left yet, she asked her little brother to find a doctor to save their mother.

The doctor came - diagnosing Tom’s mother got acute appendicitis, which needed an immediate operation but it was getting dark then and there was not enough light for the operation (the story that happened at the middle of 19^th century). Seeing the light reflected from a piece of iron on the cabinet, as a dynamic boy, Tom came up with an initiative. He ran to the grocery store nearby and borrowed a big mirror to focus all the light into the —operating table” (could not borrow the mirror, he broke the glass and took the mirror off with him). After lightening 20 big lamps in the house as well as having prepared the operating table, he asked the doctor to come. Having taken by surprise, the doctor started to prepare for the operation. The operation was a success and his mother was saved.

At the train station, Tom borrowed some money, bought the ticket for his sister to travel to the distant province to take their big brother back home. The next day, picking his brother and sister, Tom received frightening: the wooden bridge (almost every rail bridge at that time was made of wood) on the railway was washed up, whereas there was no way to inform the train about that. Suddenly, Tom heard a long hoot together with a short sound emitted by an engine which was gathering the wagons in the station. Once again, Tom came up with an initiative to use the signaling whistle to inform the driver. He jumped into the top of the engine, asking the driver to borrow the signaling whistle to inform the driver. A telegraph man was in favor of Tom’s initiative.

From this bridge, he constantly signaled: "Tania, stop the train, the bridge is broken...Tania, stop the train, the bridge is broken." Thought that she was dreaming, Tania tried to listened again and again but when she received the right signal, Tania started to yell. The driver - the man who beated Tom, leaving him deaf at his left ear for life - considered Tania a child of a mad family like Tom (Tom taught his sister to knit; they were in the same class to help each other to learn).

The passengers on the train supported Tania, forced the driver to brake at a distance of

1,     5 kilometers away from the bridge and gradually reached the bridge. The whole city knew the story of Tom saving the train. Since then, he was loved by his father and fortunately, the train station was looking for a telegraph man, Tom was then accepted to work there while he was looking for a work.

A person with a dynamic mind, from a small signal, created a big initiative just like Newton seeing the apple falling from the tree and discovering the law of gravitation, saved the whole train just through two train hoots.

6,  7. Perseverance, patience, mildness. Calmness, confidence:

When we are treated unfairly, (are) provoked or (are) slandered, or when we hear ulterly nonsensical (completely absurd) words, in order to keep calm, to think, to figure out the best approach to fix it, we need to remember Nguyen Cong Tru’s saying:

No matter what terrible words they say

No matter how we get angry, just smilling

Người nào đạt được đến mức đó, ta có thể coi là bậc thánh.

Who can reach that level should be considered saints.

When contemplating the ability of patience here, we should mention Uncle Ho when he drove the revolutionary boat, overcoming storms, hurricanes and rapids when British troops, especially Chiang Kai-shek troops came to disarm Japanese troops in 1945. Before this, there were so many absurd claims; facing the deliberate provocation of the enemy, Uncle Ho tried to bite the bullet and he directed, advised as well as reminded people in mission to be patient, to keep a cool head, to be conscious, to take a little backward, to suffer from small losses rather than letting them destroy our business, to wait for the chance to come, then our revolution must be successful. If we were short-tempered like Zhang Fei, were easy to get angry by unfair things, the movement would have been drowned in pools of blood and the revolutionary would have been easy to be defeated.

In the preface to the book "40 successful stories", Nguyen Hien Le wrote: "Every story (in this book) is attractive and useful as novel and history. Read them ... I’m not sure you’ll draw your own lessons or not, but I feel so positive. To start a business is just like nothing difficult at all. Just set a goal and then keep patience, patience, patience to move forward it. If you always fail in 5-10 years but still suffer from poverty and coldness to write as Z. Grey,

S.  Maugham; if you apply for a job 18 times and are denied the whole 18 times but you do not dampen your spirits is just as E. Rickenbacker, then surely sooner or later you will succeed; but the poorer you are, the greater the obstacles are, the better your willpower are forged, the better your ability is developed and the greater your success are. As a child, I often hated that I was born in a poor family. Oh! How could I be so foolish!"

Speaking of mindfulness, in the book “The brave of the saints’’, Nguyen Duy Can wrote “With mindfulness, people will get to be saints. All religions and principles take mindfulness as a standard when talking about the nature of human dignity. People with mindfulness control their sexuality trend as well as their will well and they do not let exterior elements affect them’’. Mindfull people, under any circumstances, storms and huricanes, even being threatened by deadly swords and guns, do not get defeated just like Vo Thi Sau, Uncle Ho when they were in jail: “We are singing instead of crying”.

There are many examples of persistence in our society. Thanks to working persistently in 17 years, rewriting the book Main Street three times, Sinclair Lewis won a Nobel prize of Literature in 1920. For Tolstoi, he did not write 2 or 3 times but 30 times to finish his masterpiece “War and Peace’’, which is 1400 pages in length, the book that makes human beings regard him as a saint. His wife was that patient to write this by hand 7 times with nearly 10,000 pages to finish the draft for her husband. Marx had to work hard in 18 years in tough conditions to give birth to “Das Kapital’’-one of the first book that created a great change in the world. This was the most crucial work that fostered him to be the greatest leader of the proletariat. Edison was persistent to do 14.000 experiments to create the bulb for human beings. (“See you at the top” by Z. Ziglar, Mekong Publishing House, 1992, page 140).

Mrs. Anne Sulivan- one of the most persistent and talented educator - with an extraordinary will, taught (his) her weirdest student ever in life that: Helen Keller, be a good example for our human beings till thousands of years later on. For being blind and deaf at the age of a child, H. Keller became a mute. After 11 classes studying by touching his teacher’s neck, Keller was able to speak out the sentence: I am no longer mute. Afterwards, until the end of her life, the teacher always tried to fix the voice for her student. Thanks to this, both Keller and Sulivan were famous around the world. Whereas in our country, there are abundant of the same examples like Nguyen Ngoc Ky, Bui Cong Duy.

Speaking of the meaning of patience, we cannot miss the succuesful situation of Rick Little. At the end of 2002, journalist Bui Xuan Loc did find an amazing piece of news through the Internet. R. Little got into an accident when he was just a freshman at his university. Thanks to 6 months in the hospital bed, he knew how to think properly. Going out of the hospital, he knew how to make the right decision of his job. Thanks to the patience that derived from a strong will, after 155 times of failure, he finished a necessary education for the youth and everyone in every secondary schools and universities around the world at his 22 that nowhere on Earth has ever taught about. They are life skills.

This success later brought him a second big prize in the history of America, which was equivalent to 65 million dollars (Rick received the prize in 1989). Compared with the Nobel Prize in 2002 (916,000 dollars), that prize is 71 times bigger. Vietnamese people knew about this work in 2002.

The author clearly wrote these three conditions of success of Rick in this book and he showed you this. If you follow thoroughly these things, you will sure succeed and if it is not great then it is quite.

Reading Uncle Ho’s ethical guidelines, we see that sentence: —Calm in peril’’. It is not only in peril that we need to calm but we also need to calm in situations that annoyed us. Because: impatience is a little anger; it takes our wisdom, wakes the bad inside us for people to look at, to judge and it can do harm to us.

If patience, calmness and mindfulness are precious then (intelligence quality) confidence is necessary and important in everyone of us. Because: —Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen’’ (Goethe). —Lack of confidence is the cause to failure’’(Bovi).

One time, a load of former Soviet educational experts came to America to study the education of this country. They reached the conclusion that: American education has thousands of poor things but there is one especially good thing is that they always educate their students on the confidence quality: believe in yourself, believe that you will become the excellent person; every student must not forget to encourage himself to thrive to be the best wherever and whenever they (are) go.

Once, I read somewhere a writing of a work by an educational researcher. He went into a primary class, pretended to do research about all the students in the class to watch —students who will significantly succeed in the future’’. After a while of —pretending to do research’’ each student in turn, at last, he stated that student A, B, C, etc. are students who are full of potentials. This sentence haunted those students, stimulated them to strive and as a result, those students attained more success in life than others.

(Want to have) In order to get confidence, we must first win the shyness, inferiority, considering yourself a coward ... One of the most successful people in life are G.B. Shaw talked about shyness and how to overcome it as follows: "I am so shy when walking around on the dock to 20 minutes or longer before I dare to knock my friend’s door. The truth, as with foreboding, told me that not daring to knock my friend’s house means I would not be able to accomplish anything till the end of my life; thanks to this, I dared to visit my friend’s house. Otherwise I would have run back home because of suffering from shyness ...’’. Eventually, he learned that the best, quickest and most definite way to win the timidity and fear was public speaking training. He asked to enroll into the debate. He thought, carefully recorded what to say in order not to forget when getting nervous. Finally, he was known as the orator who dared to criticize in the public the law on marriage, religious institutions, democracy, and most of those laws that respect the human race (40 mirrors of success, page 182).

In short, together with three virtues: loving the life, loving the time and enthusiasm, persistence, patience, mindfulness and the quality of calmness, confidence are most important qualities to help us gain success in our life.

8.  Carefulness, maturity, caution and tidiness

In the ethical guideline of Uncle Ho came a saying: "Be careful when holding the pen". Not only in writing but, everywhere, in ways of thought, in action, in words ..., we need to be careful of this.

Trong không gian:

In space:

In the house, in cupboards, in suitcases, etc. every furniture has to be arranged properly, has to be classified neatly as arranging books in the library, lining goods in stock: every object is in a stable position, when needing, we just come to take and we need not waste time looking for. Sorting clothes in suitcase, in cabinet must follow the rule: rarely used thing needs to be put beneath.

In time:

Everything in a day, a week, a month, etc. has to follow the schedule: things to do first, things to do afterwards; things to do today, things to do today or to put aside for next day, next week, next month; must-well-solved things (must-do things), things that can be left out (favorite things), etc. For students, this quality helps them learn.

In action:

Everything has to be carefully, thoughtfully done; do not do it with carelessness or in a hurry and do not do it in a dilatory, slow manner. The Chinese have a saying: "Good watch prevents misfortune" (Be careful not to upset). Someone corrected it: "Good watch prevents repentance." For example: When we plugged in cooking a pot of water but the power failed when the water was nearly boiled, careless people forget it; when the power is restored, there would be a fire if there were no people there.

In speech:

Think carefully, consider every words of your speech. —If we think twice before we speak, our speech is two times good” (Upenxki) and prevent the —misfortunes come from the mouth’ ’ because:

A word spoken is past recalling.

If we —first think, then speak’’ like the French proverb then many couples can prevent themselves from divorce and many families increase their happiness. —Flaw in jade can be fixed, but words cannot be ’’ is a Japanese proverb for us to think.

If a normal speech needs to be carefully taken then promise, advice, critics to other people - especially criticizing our children - are even in need of taking seriously. Things to write down on paper must be taken more seriously to prevent the case —what is written binds the writer”. Thus, people who are in secret missions at many times need to learn by heart texts without a chance to take notes of them.

A researcher on creativity came to a conclusion that, people with a dilatory manner, who are not in favour of putting everything neatly do (not) have many creative inventions. They set a good example of Einstein’s situation: a man with a great mind but completely disliked neatness in his whole life.

According to a shortsighted opinion of an author, this thing has to be reconsider;

because, when the —lump” of thoughts develops too well, it annihilates other lumps, causing absent-mindedness like Archimedes’ case jumping out of the bathtub, like Newton’s perforating two holes for the kitty and the cat mother to come out.

In another words, people with many creative inventions, ideals like scientists, artists, poets, writers, etc. they are so busy thinking that they have no time to notice other things. For example, Edison, in his wedding day, disappeared when everyone was enjoying the party. Everyone looked for him but they could find him nowhere. Eventually, the bride found her broom so intensely doing experiments that he forgot his wedding night (Edison of B. Apelevianu, page 149-150).

In conclusion: carefulness, maturity, neatness in space, in time, in action, in speech are crucial qualities that help people a lot in their life.

9. Self-cultivation, self-control, self-criticism

To become an educated person, we have to educate, practice, cultivate ourselves and unstoppably thrive besides our study in class, at school.

—Everyone absorbs two main kinds of education: one from other people and one is from ourselves’’ (E. Gibbon). The education that is provided by other people mainly occurs in very first years from our kindergarten time, our general education until we finish our study. It is the education that our parents, teachers and society provide us.

But since our boyhood, especially when we come to our youth time - the time that everyone of us is qualified enough to decide our fate - everyone has to create himself an education background through the form of self-cultivation, self-practice, self-discovery, self-study of knowledge, morality, living experience, manners, personailities.in order to complete ourselves, to make us better, nicer, purer everyday as well as to increase the HUMAN quality in each of us.

As a rule, for humankind, the older we are, the weaker we are; but for knowledge, experience and spiritual power, they advance everyday.

Of course, in the process of self-completing, self-cultivation, we hardly prevent ourselves from making mistakes. —It is good not to make mistakes in life but it is even better to stand up and go on’’ (Erenbourg).

Everytime we make a mistake is a time we get to be less fatuous,

It may hurt you but do not be afraid.

There are many obstacles in the long run of life,

Step forwards without fatigue.

Every mistake we made is an experience,

We understand and know us more.

Don’t you want a still life?

A serene life, without any difficulties?

Bitter pills may have blessed effects.

Falling down painfully but we knew the way.

Providing that we are alive, we struggle unstoppably.

Still struggle, still make mistakes.

(Unknown)

I  collected this poem when I have got to know about this life. It was always in my heart, always lightened the way for me to move forwards, to empower me everytime I made a mistake, everytime I encountered unexpected misfortunes. I wrote it down here to give you, the youth.

Balzac wrote: “When we recognize our weakness, we become stronger’’. That is the state of people who know to cultivate themselves. If we have to wash our face every morning, we have to close our eyes going to bed at night, we have to self-review our speech, our work of the day to attain the experience and set a plan, intention for the next day, next week, next month, etc. When we find the weakness by ourselves and fix them, it is self-(completement) completion. “People get better by practicing rather than by their nature’’ (Gorki). “Just a small victory can help a man himself many times better’’. (Unknown)

In daily life, nobody can prevent themselves from diseases as well as nobody can prevent themselves from making mistakes, missing and flaws. First of all, we have to blame ourselves; do not let other people blame us and especially do not let this situation happen: realize the mistakes but do not correct them or do not confess your faults. Confucius wrote: —A man who has commited a mistake and doesn’t correct it, is commiting another mistake’’.

—As long as we blame ourselves, nobody can even blame us’’ (Barmarchais). On the contrary, if we do not blame ourselves then there will not be any deserving praises. We make mistakes, we confess, we correct, we regret and we promise to be cautious in order not to commit the mistakes again. A proverb says: —One should not hit a man when he is down’’.

When we are foolish, we can be taken for a ride by bad people. When bad people play tricks on us, it is their fault. When bad people play tricks on us twice, it is our fault. When we are played tricks once but we do not know to learn from experience, we let them play tricks a se­cond time. By recognizing our mistake and correct it, we will not be cheated a third, fourth time, etc.

In conclusion: Self-cultivation, self-criticism, self-blame are very precious manners that help us become people with education, self-esteem as well as help attain us more success in the long run of life.

There are more precious qualities, you will find them on the website: hanhtrangdoinguoi.net

A.             2.6. The sixth baggage

A LIFE HANDBOOK

During the time of practice, many people and many occupations require an Occupational Handbook, especially those jobs with lots of documents such as medicine, teaching, technicians ...

In life, we also need to have a Life handbook to look up the material, the content that we might rarely meet but are extremely important.

In this book, the author has helped you read and gathered material needed for the life of each person. So, there have been many people reading this book and said: "This book should change the title of Life Handbook or The." The author agrees with the opinion, from the fourth edition, the author changed the title into The.

This book is just a book in handbook for life which is neccessary for everyone on their path. Along with this book, there are dozens of other books for young people to read to succeed in life, each person and every family should have bookcases at home. Here are some tittles: Hand-made by Beaverbrook; Made of H.N. Casson; 40 Examples of success by Nguyen Hien Le; How to Win Friends and Influence People and Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie; What do you do with your life by Krishnamurti; 24 hours a day by

A. Bennett (Nguyen Hien Le translated); Explore potential indicators of guts by Ha Son; Awaken your superhero by Anthony Robbins; To always achieve 10 by Gordon W. Green; Life changes when we change the A. Mathew, etc.

B. THE DESIGN OF THE (HAPPY) CASTLE OF HAPPINESS

THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF DESIGN. THE FIRST ONE IS INTENDED FOR THOSE WHO ARE FROM COMING-OF-AGED TO MIDDLE-AGED. THAT IS:

B. 1. FIVE KEYS TO A HAPPY MAN:

1.1. A happy man is he who has a warm family:

Without a home-sweet-home, where can we create happiness and be happy? From a kid to a middle-aged or an elder, everyone will have the first key to a happy life if they have a warm and loving family

life. Goeth once said: “He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his home”. There are two elements of a warm family: a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and well-behaved children. If the husband and wife always argue, the children misbehave or are seriously ill, they will not be happy even if they are lying on piles of gold.

B.    1.2. A happy man is the one who (are) is relatively well-off

Poverty guarantees unhappiness. Therefore, we have to make enough money to meet our daily need. However, greed is insatiable. Many feel that billions of money are still not enough. “Get an elephant, ask for a fairy” (Vietnamese proverb). “Give a blind man eyes and he will ask for eyebrows” (English proverb). Being well-off means that you have enough money to spend on all aspects of life (material and spiritual) as much as everyone in society at that time can afford. Of course, the more is the better but do not be too materialistic.

B. 1.3. A happy man is he who has a rich spiritual life, who is loved and respected by many good people and who is peaceful at heart.

This is one of the most basic distinction between animals and humans. In the few past decades, there are more and more scientists who focus on researching into happiness. There are people who was awarded the title of doctors of happiness. There are countries that established institute to do research into happiness. The international association that researches into quality of life (happiness) organized in April 11^th has reached the conclusion that: —Money can buy pleasure but pleasure is not happiness. Happiness is a feeling far surpassed pleasure”. —In the end, material things that we possess do not matter. What important is the soul.” —There is nothing that can be bought with money (can) in order to fill the void in our souls”. —Happiness is (not) affected by earnings (as much as) lower than marriage life, health and many other elements”.

B. 1.4. A happy man is (he) the one who is healthy and long-lived:

A man who falls sick all year round is not happy. A healthy man but short-lived is also unhappy. (On how to be healthy and long-lived, please check out baggage 1 and appendix V).

B. 1.5. A happy man is (he) the one who has many successes in his life:

A man who is successful at 7-8 things out of 10 things still being happy. Because the failure is not that bad. (he does and the rest are not serious failures, he is a happy man). With each success, we at least gain some kind of delight and motivation to aim for the next success. In all successes, there are at least some that can be left for future generations. —They do not mourn a man who died leaving no legacy behind him” (Megare).

Human is the most valuable capital. One of the biggest, most valuable legacies that we can leave for the future is an excellent child, grandchild. Parents, grand-parents, even future parents need to ask themselves what they can do to raise their children to be the most valuable legacy that they leave behind.

If a man does not meet 1, 2 criteria in these 5 keys and still regards himself as a happy man, we cannot say that he is unhappy. We can only say that: his happiness is not complete.

These five keys are the design of the castle of happiness applied for a typical man under 50. If you do not agree with these five keys, you can design a model of happiness for yourself. Here below is the design of the castle of happiness intended for a typical man of 50 or above.

The second design intended for the elder:

II.        2. 7 keys to a happy later life:

The first 3 keys are the same as those of the design above. They are:

1   To have a warm family and to raise children to become someone who are helpful to the society

2. To be stable in material life: We should at least have as much money and material facilities as an average person in society and savings for tough times.

3.  To be peaceful at heart: We should know to create happiness and enjoy the happiness that life brings us.

There are 4 more keys, those are:

4.  To have friend of our age living nearby so that in times of need, you can call them over to discuss affairs of the world, to make and declaim verses, to play a match of chess or practice some sport together.

5.  To have a —green” old age: Live healthily, die quickly.

6.  To be conscious and wise to avoid making mistake in later life, to prevent the problem that the fault is greater than the age.

7.  To use the late years wisely, continuing to do what our mind and our health allows us to do.

Those who have these 7 keys are possessing a great property. They belong not only to that person but to the whole family. Everyone in the family has to contribute to build, to gather, to save carefully for the common happiness in which there is happiness of the elder.

III. Methods to construct the castle of happiness

What are the methods for us to construct the castle of happiness for our lives? There are two main methods.

C. 1. The first one:

6   criteria of a wise man, which specifically are:

1. A wise man knows how to TRAIN HIMSELF:

Which means he knows to train himself to be a person of many good traits: train his heart, mind, virtues, talents, his manners, good virtues, to have a cultural and polite life. He who does not work hard

to train himself, who lets himself make mistakes and develop bad habits... is a fool.

2.   A wise man knows how to TAKE CARE OF HIS FAMILY:

Which means he knows how to make his family a happy one. (He)The one who lets his family become a living hell is a fool.

3.   A wise man knows how to CONDUCT HIMSELF PROPERLY:

There are many things happen to us daily, (he) The one who deals with them wisely to make the most benefits and goods out of the situation and avoid the wrong, the bads and the ugly things. is a wise man. (He) The one who makes mistakes constantly in his life is a fool.

4.   A wise man knows how to keep himself UP-TO-DATE:

As a proverb says: —A foolish man is conservative, a wise man is up-to-date”. Being up-to-date is different from being opportunist. An up-to-date man is (he) the one who has a deep and wide knowledge about the politics, the news, the philosophy, who knows to apply his knowledge in judging the situations and handles life affairs. A man once said: —To know ahead of life is smart, to know along with life is knowledgable, to know after life is stupid” (Anonymous). An up-to-date man knows ahead of life.

5.   A wise man knows how to FIND AND Make friends with the wise, HONEST AND GOOD MEN:

To make friends with a certain type of person, we must have relatively enough characteristics of that type. The reason is that a good man is never in a close relationship with a bad man. Moreover, a wise man would like to be friends with someone smarter than him, a fool would like to be friends with someone more foolish than him. Furthermore, —The friendship of a great man is a gift of the gods” (Voltaire). Whoever wants to receive the gift of the gods, be friends with the great men only. To be friends with the great men, you have to strive towards becoming a wise man which means you have to meet 6 criteria of a wise man. As a Vietnamese folk-song says:

—Hundreds years spent with a fool Are not as valuable as a minute with a wise man”

A wise man knows what to PREPARE FOR HIS LATER YEARS WHEN HE IS STILL

6.   YOUNG:

—He who is not far-sighted is sure to have troubles soon” (Khong Tu). —A wise man takes care of not only business of the day but also business of a century” (Ta Kim).

Ho Chi Minh once said:

—Open your eyes wide, think carefully,

Determine to strive forward”.

To have your eyes opened wide is to look at all time and space, as To Huu once said: —Look back into the past, look ahead into the future,

Look at the North, the South, the entire earth”

According to a proverb: —A wise man is busy worrying, a fool stuffs his stomach full then sleep”. A wise man knows to take care of today, tomorrow; take care of things in front of him and things far ahead; take care of things until the end of his life; take care of his children and grandchildren’s future, even his life after death.”

These are the 6 subjective elements for a wise man to find happiness in his life. The other (than that, there is the) objective elements that we often call —destiny”, —a matter of luck” on which many people lay their blame. To look into this matter, go to page 101.

Indeed, there is neither a general formula nor a rule which can be considered a master key to be applied to every situation in actual life - with all its diversities and complexities. Everybody knows that where there is no life, there is darkness. Where there is no good, there is evil. Where the good is not promoted and nurtured, the bad will take its place. Weeds can grow everywhere, rose can only grow where it is planted and pruned.

People of Daghextan have a saying which goes: —A fool in his house does harm to his neighbors, in his town does harm to the neighboring town and in a nation does harm to other nations”. The question is: Before the fool does harm to his neighbor, how much harm does he do to his own family? We cannot let ourselves become —a fool in his house” for our folly and foolishness will infect our children and grandchildren, turn them into fools who may even be more foolish than their ancestors. —If the children surpass his father, the home is blessed!” (Vietnamese proverb) but with its children more foolish than their ancestors, the family is unhappy.

If we want to avoid being the fool in our houses, we have to strive to meet the 6 criteria of a wise man. Firstly, we have to train ourselves. There are many self-training contents that we can never complete its in our lives. Those are the baggages of one’s life. The most important ones are number 3, 4 and 5. The three makes up the soul inside each person. To be accomplished in there three criteria means that we have a noble soul, that we are respectable and we are (role) models for our children and society.

To study, to grasp the meanings and to implement the 6 criteria of a wise man, that is how we construct our castle of happiness. However, that is not enough. Let’s move on to the second method.

The second method to construct the castle of happiness is to implement the 3 characteristics of a wise man and avoid the 3 characteristics of a fool. Among the 3 characteristics of a wise man, the most important is the third one: A wise man learns.

Question: What does a wise man learn? What textbook or reference should he follow?

Answer: At first, we learn to understand and grasp the basic knowledge that everybody should know. See appendix I, page 251. We learn to grasp the first 11 types of knowledge. These (are the) types of knowledge concern staying healthy and increasing life longevity, earning and spending, building a happy family, learning human moral codes, how to make our souls become immortal. These types can be found in this book. To study about life skills, you should look for and learn from books, newspapers, the Internet and many educational institute in the big cities. We are currently studying the number 9, 10 and 11 ones.

Aside from the 11 most important types of knowledge, we have to learn other ones from number 12 to 40. In this book, the author provided the content of 20 in these 40 types of knowledge. We all know that knowledge is power. If we have a thorough grasp of these 40 types of knowledge, we (should) will have enough power to build our castles of happiness, enough to educate our children, enough to finish the 3 important tasks of our lives and prepare for the lives after death.

The Second part:

PRACTICE

The great end of life is not knowledge but action”

Thomas Henry Huxley

This is the book about practicing. If you finish studying the first part but ignoring the second part, you have learned the theories but you cannot put them into practice. If you do not atively look for the chance to do what you must do, the knowledge will become useless, meaningless; it will only be a waste of time. You have to engrave this into your mind: —The principles written in books are meaningless. They have to be put into practice to be meaningful” (Page 9, —24 most valuable lessons in the world” by Charles E. Haanel)

This book is meant for parents, even grandparents to understand what they have to do to prepare their children for life.

To young people, turning 16 means that you have become a young adult. Now is the phase when you are capable of deciding your own life, no longer fooling around carefreely. From now on, you have less than 5 years to step into adulthood. You have to make the most of this time to create a firm ground to build the rest and also the happiest of your life. Do not let your later life become miserable and despicable due to the mistakes in early life. You have to find the correct answer to this matter to hope for big achievements in life.

No matter where you are now, a college student, an apprentice in vocational school, a person with an established career and enough income to be independent, a soon-to-be-married man or one with a little child, you have to FACE THE TRUTH HEAD ON.

I.              Face the truth?

Face the truth! That is a motto which wise man always keep in mind. Write down clearly every truth of your life in a sheet of paper and put it in front of you. You have to tell yourself: “Look at them closely to see whether they are beautiful or ugly, lovable or detestable, respectable or shameful”. To know yourself is to become wise.

Know how many times you eat or wash your face a day. Everyday, you should take time to criticize yourself, to look back on the truth of your life to figure out what to do today, this week, this year, this time. Look into the truth of your life to make plans ahead for the coming year (to come) and many years later. That is a regular and important task of a wise man.

The truth of one’s life consists of many matters. Each tree has its own flower, each family has its own situation. The situation varies from one person to another. Therefore, the truth varies, too. These are the general questions for almost everybody:

1. What is my life goal? What should we do and how to do it to achieve this goal?

2. How to finish the first three big tasks of my life and what to prepare to finish them in the best possible way?

3. What career should I pursue; how will I earn my living?

4. How will I get married and settle down?

5. How will I raise my children? If I do not have what it takes to be a genius, a great man, what can I do create a firm ground for my children to reach that level?

           6. How is my family and my own condition at present? How are my parents, sisters, brothers and grandparents now? What does my family’s current economic condition allow me to do? How are my wife/husband and children now? What direction will my family take? What do we do in this situation?

7. How can I create, enjoy and protect my happiness? How can I meet all 5 criteria of a happy man? How can I build a happy family?

8. What is the meaning of my life? How to make my life the most meaningful one?

9. How can I avoid the 3 foolishnesses, especially the one regarding the lack of common?

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sense?

10. How to avoid and correct my mistakes timely if I make ones?

11. How can I continuously reinforce my life’s baggage? How can I take care of my (health) body and soul?

12. What is the Mount Everest of my life? How can I create that of my and my children’s lives?

13. What are the matters I must face ahead and along the way?

14. How can I avoid the 3 regrets in life?

15. What must I do first and most carefully? What can I leave for later or ignore it?

There are many more to be mentioned. The matters of today, of this phase, of one’s own cannot be

all listed. As long as we care enough for these matters, as long as we handle well all practical issues in life that we can hope for quick progress in life and more achievement to be left for our children, even for life, for our countries and humanity. We should save ourselves instead of wishing for help from (the heaven) God. To keep waiting for things to fall into place themselves is staying a loser all your life.

At the age of 16, a man has to reflect on his life for the first time. Reflecting on life means preparing to lay the foundation for our castles of happiness. Look back on the past 15 years of your life. See how long you have gone, in the right direction or not. Figure out what to do next in the few following years to step into adulthood.

Discuss the matters of your life’s baggage with your parents and grandparents. Ask for their opinions in what direction you should take, what should you do in the next few years.

Either you are at the age of 15-16 or 20-25, after reflecting on your past, you must continue to face the truth, figure out what you must do in the few years ahead, take today and tomorrow first, then this week, this month, this year and this phase of life.

To help you make your own way in this world steadily, let’s discuss some more ques­tions

Question: State clearly what the goal of your life is?

Answer: That is to do in the way that makes my life, my family and children (the) being happiest,

makes my life the most beautiful and meaningful one (possible). This is a goal that is both far-fetched and practical. It is far-fetched because by the end of our lives, we still have not fully achieved it. It is practical because there are always a few flowers of happiness each day. By gathering all these little flowers of happiness, we will have our lives become bunches of flowers of happiness. As the saying goes: —Many a little makes a mickle”. If we pick up a piece of happiness every day, we will be much happier than those who always whine and feel sorry for themselves and those who go along half-asleep. What matters is that you see it as happiness or not, that you concentrate your mind and strength to make your life meaningful. If you live only for bathing yourself in happiness, for delicious foods and nice clothing, for traveling, for fooling around without paying attention to make sense of your life then your life will be wasted.

We should engrave in our minds that: the ultimate goal of life is (to) what we must do in a way that gives us the most happiness, makes our life the most meaningful. You should write this goal down in a sheet of paper and put it on your desk or bedhead to see and think about it every day and arrange our next moves. We can only be happy when we handle the truths of our lives well.

II.           How to build and fulfill career of one’s life (career)

11.1.     How to decide on a career, study it and earn a living with it

11.1.1.Deciding on a career and study it

Having a career is the biggest thing in the three most energy-consuming tasks of one’s life (have a career, a family and a spacious house). Having a good career is a solid ground to complete the 2 remaining tasks. To decide on a career and practise it well, you have to ask yourself these questions (ahead) below:

1.   Which field do our abilities lie in? Can we follow that path, why?

2.   Can we or should we follow that path that our parents led, why?

3.   What kinds of job that are suitable for our health, abilities and situations?

4.    What kinds of job that are easy to apply for, easy to earn a living by and hard to be out of work?

5.   To follow that career path, what must we do?

1.   To make your dream and ideal come true

2.   To earn a living

3.   To help us find happiness and joy in working

4.   To help us figure out the meaning of life

What can we do to choose a career that helps us achieve these 4 goals?

Before reaching an answer, a youngster that is about to reach adulthood should take these truths into consideration:

1.   In (every) any field, the number of people who become successful does not exceed 5% (according to Nguyen Hien Le)

2. Whether a forest is rich or not depends on the great trees, not the small fries. Whether a country is strong or not depends on great men, not millions of people who are going along while being half-asleep.

3. A survey on 1000 Harvard graduates revealed that:

-     Only 3% of them really became successful

-     10% of them were relatively successful

-     27% of them really failed

-     60% of them can be considered to have failed (According to Exploring the potential of raising the EQ level for kids of Ha Son, Thoi Dai Publisher, 2010, page 94)

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Before choosing a job or joining vocational education, we should firmly grasp the characteristics of the present era which is the era of intellectual civilization. If you want to adapt to this era, young people must have literacy and vocational training to a very high level. For example, in Japan today, 90% of workers have university degree (Youth Knowledge of No.3.9/95, page 6). The apprenticeship takes lots of time and money; therefore, unemployment remains a common problem among young people worldwide. If you come from a wealthy family, parents have enough money for your school; you may put fewer efforts in apprenticeship. However, Bill Gates said this: "The easier life is to you, the weaker you are." Then, even after getting all the required qualifications but being weak, lacking of willpower, lacking of precious virtues, no one can assure for your future success. If you come from a poor family and your parents could not afford for your apprenticeship, how can you get a good career? To do this, you have to train yourself with high determination and the right attitude.

a.1. About determination:

Ms.Amanpour completed baccalaureate, did not get enough points to enter University of Medicine and suffered family’s crisis; she then had to work as a secretary in a grocery store and labor in the pub, but deep down inside, she had always been thirsty for a rise. Not having enough with only one job, she decided to take a journalism course. After graduation, she worked for the BBC. Wanting to make faster progress, she quit her job, moved to the United States to enroll in college of newspapers. Graduating at the age of 25, she sought for a job everywhere but did not succeed since she was a female with unattractive appearance, harsh voice, always dowdy and no makeup.

Luckily, she was accepted by CNN with a starving payment. Directors did not trust her ability so they rejected her whenever she asked to go abroad as an international reporter. She held her ground and waited for the opportunity. Four years later, due to an accidental thing, radio man short, she was chosen to go Frankfurt (Germany). A few months later, she became a world class journalist with breaking news stories and immediately became one of the leading journalists of the world. When the contract of her with CNN came to an end, another company invited her to work with a firm salary of $ 3 million / year, but she did not accept it. The director of CNN joked: If you leave the company, I would jump down the building. The CNN host wanted to keep her, and then she forced him to give her more airtime of 60 minutes on CBS. Every time she appeared on the channel, she would be paid $ 100,000 (New World No.101.9 / 9/96 page 128). In late 2005, the US Time magazine selected 10 women with outstanding achievements in the year, she was ranked first (PN Ho Chi Minh City, the spring of the Dog).

The society is growing, more and more smart people as well as more and more talented individuals. The taller the tree is, the more attention it gets. Therefore, gaining for themselves an achievement in this life is getting harder. Who has the higher willpower with the right attitude, the better chance of success he gets.

a.       2. About “The right attitude”:

Pay attention to this story: Around 1990 - 1991, I met Nguyen Thi Viet Nhan again, a petite woman, less than 50 years’ old whom I have known for a long time ago. After some brief greetings, she told me: "I chose for my daughter a profession which never gets unemployed, she would get higher income than her husband, which is one of the most important elements that make her husband respect her and love her ".

Reaching this part, please stop reading for a while and ask your parents, grandparents and ask yourself what career never sees unemployment but high income? Do not continue reading, stop and think, when you go to apply for a job where promising for you, interviewers often do not ask what qualifications you have, what you can do but to give you a difficult situation and ask you to solve it. In other words, people ask questions to know what you have above your neck. For example, the Daewoo Corporations, they do not ask job applicants how many degrees they have but say this way: "We need to recruit people who can stay up for three nights long, spend three days playing, singing karaoke 30 songs, those who had ruined their father’s watches, who speaks no more than three languages but had been traveling to more than three countries” (Youth 30/11/96).

After considering thoroughly, carefully, please move on reading. Rooted from the ar­gument: "Day by day, the society is getting more and more modern, richer, more and more people also wear nice and eat nice," Ms.Nhan chose for her daughter the job of taking care of others’ well-being. Such profession will never get unemployed, and if her daughter could master it, high income every month would be no dream. When her daughter entered high school, she invited experts in the industry of housework to perform in front of the little girl to create a passion for that job in her.

Lately, (the problem of) The factories in Binh Duong has been in a serious shortage of skilled workers. She took her daughter as a nucleus, gathering and attracting teachers then she opened a private school of vocational training with herself as the Principal, specializing in training skills for youth, then providing human resources for enterprises around the newly opened area or freelancer. This is a powerful demonstration of the saying: "We only can get happiness if we know how to think right and turn what we think into reality". Now let’s discuss about the 5 above-mentioned questions.

B. APTITUDE:

When it comes to vocational training, firstly, we need to consider the aptitude. Many students completed grade 12 without knowing their abilities in any field, not knowing which professions to choose. They had to rely on their three subjects with the highest scores at school to take the university entrance exam at a university. Then, after graduating from university, they did not even try to create their own professional passion; they only work to finish what they are supposed to do without using their heart. No wonder those people will never succeed.

Thus, if you want to go faster and wish for great success on life, the thing to do right after making up your mind about your career is to choose a job, to train and to practice properly. When you choose a profession relevant the skills you already have that could interest you, you can work all day without feeling tired, working passionately, easy to come

up with new ideas, easy to earn much. For example, Thomas Edison, he usually worked so hard that he forgot to eat, forget to sleep, but he declared," I never did day’s work in my life, it was all fun.” (How to stop worrying and start living, D. Carnegie, page280).

If "no loss to the society is worse than having many workers who do not fit their profession" (Sđđ page 283), then in life, nothing more disastrous than choosing the wrong job. If we do a lot of professions but keep on failing, we can still change jobs, change workplace to find the ideal one. ERBurrough, the father character Tarzan, writers have the highest number of readers in the world after J. Verne, in 10 years, he failed trying many jobs and ultimately successful in his writing career.

There are more than 30,000 jobs these days around the world, surely enough for you to choose from. From half a century ago, in the advanced countries such as France and the US, they already had Career Centers. Young people can go there to get advice for professions which they can choose. However, in our country, there are now no such center to help confusing individuals to choose their career. Therefore, to orientate yourself, you find the book —How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” by Dale Carnegie, you read the seventh chapter about —How to choose a job”. After reading, think, ask for your parents’ opinions, ask your friends or the experienced, consider carefully before choosing a career that you love. Many active youngsters wander on the internet to find a way to become university students abroad, get a scholarship or education loan. To do that, you must develop your skills and put maximum efforts in everything, at least since entering the teenage, you should learn a foreign language.

When choosing a career, in addition to talent, you should select an easy job which could be found in many places and especially close to your home. Having your workplace near your house, you save time travelling, reduce transport costs, have more time to take care for your family, especially to take advantage of your parents’house when you still can not afford for one. Let’s take young Europeans as an example, before, they wanted to run away from the family as long as they get mature. However, today, almost all want to live in the family until 25-27 years old. People call them with the phrase means "kids that hide under their mommy’s dresses". 75% of European youngsters think that "they can not solve all of them without parents" (People dated 03/25/98). In our country today, this situation is also very popular. If possible, you should choose a hereditary profession. Agencies, companies, enterprises always prioritize work for the children of seniors in their organizations. Hereditary profession, you can also acquire the tools and means to practice, old customers, and especially the trade secrets of your parents.

If you have nothing more special than anyone, then you just pick an ordinary job which suits and helps you to implement A. Maurois’s youth advice: "You can do a little work, but do it in the greatest way and in your profession, you will become a great man "(Open letter to the 20 of A. Maurois, Youth Publishing House 1998). The piece of advice means that: you can do an ordinary job like a nurse, a midwife, a kindergarten teacher she ... but do it in the way of an execellent doctor and of a real educator usually do. Surely you will be successful.

When I was young, I read a short story about three Russian sisters who work together as nurses and rewared the Lenin medal in one day. (On) After receiving the Medal, they brought all the letters that the patients sent to them during the work to rereading. The Medal is the reward of the state, the letter is the reward of the people. Two awards and which one is more precious? These three sisters knew how to make the little things in the greatest way and they succeeded.

Our country is still too poor. If we want to catch up with the developed countries, we need a lot of people who know how to enrich themselves, and their will to get rich must be very high. If you are this kind, please read the book "How to enrich yourself" by Scott Witt, Statistics Publishing House 1994, the book "You want to succeed in life" by Kim Woo-jung and many other books recently published. Recently, the press, radio and television stations across the nation often exemplified so many people who have been successful in this field. Listening to the radio, reading the newspaper, you can learn a lot of experiences of the young rich all over our country and the world.

You should also learn the 10 secret of success (10) of the world’s billionaires. In these 10 secrets, I am particularly interested in the spirit of adventure. Venturing does not mean reckless but to understand thoroughly the intentions, to analyse, to judge, to deliberate before acting, selecting measures, choosing the right time and deciding boldly. In 10 times taking risks, they succeeded upto 9 times.

If you want to get rich, you should also learn about the report of René Mori - the youngest professor in France, which is ages only 25 but already had three doctorates, masters and bachelors in three areas; he is the first French professors to be invited by Japannese to teach at Keio University in Tokyo. He spent time interviewing 40 best businessmen and best reputed to figure out the secret of enrichment of Japanese (KHKT and KTTG No.16 dated 23.04.90). There goes a part like this in the report: "Factory does not work for profit nor the public’s benefits. Its ultimate aim is for the happiness of all the people involved in the enterprise. " For example, A. Carnegie, unlike many of his fellows, he was the manager but not as stingy as them; while sharing profit, he let all those who have contributed get their shares. Therefore, his main collaborators helped him get rich. Certainly he was the one who supported many people to become millionaires (40 successful examples page 93. More than 100 years ago, when the number of millionaires was still very rare, he already helped 43 people become millionaires). Chairman of NEC said, "Everyone has his own heart. However, the thing is whether we can arouse it or not. That is the highest standard for assessment of the management of an enterprise”.

If you want to do business well, please deliberate thoroughly on these conditions to enrich yourself: TALENTS (specialization), CAPITAL, OPPORTUNITY, MECHANISM, PRESTIGE, HUMAN MANAGEMENT, FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT and DYNAMIC

MIND, COURAGE, HEALTH and STRENGTH OF FAMILY, the relatives, residents. If you lack any of these above-mentioned conditions, you should find a way to fix it. For example, the steel king A. Carnegie: He knew nothing about cooking steel (no expertise), but thanks to his human management skills, he gathered a lot of talented people. It was those people who helped him get rich. If you lack of funds, lack of opportunities, then, find ways to generate capital, raise capital and create opportunities. Particularly, prestige is an intangible asset, it is not stored in our stocks but located in the hearts and minds of others. The CEO of Huyndai (Korea) started his business from nothing (literally) with a unique sole property which was his prestigious reputation which later helped his group become one of the famous global corporations. (Youth, 9/10/2004). Creating and maintaining prestige reputation are both long-term processes. Who do business without dedication, honesty, reliable promises or credibility, surely will fail.

11.1.1.  WORKING

If the choice of profession is very important, the practice is even more important. The reason is that, if you choose the wrong profession, you still have chance to change it, there are still many successful examples like Cronin, Maugham, Schweitzer, Nguyen Hien Le, Bibi Russell, etc. However, if you are not independent, self-reliant, enthusiastic, diligent, with a head full of dynamism and creativity, not having Conscience, Ethics, Prestige during the practice, even if you have high qualifications, you still easily fail.

If you just want to find a steady job as a civil servant " Leave in the morning, back in the evening”, pay attention to find the correct answers to these 9 frequently asked questions in job interviews:

1.  What do you want when working for us?

2.  In your opinion, what is the ideal job?

3.  Why did you quit your previous job and your previous workplace?

4.  Why did you change your jobs?

5.  With the current position, what do you want to do in the next five years?

6.  What is your greatest achievement so far?

7.  What are your strengths and weaknesses?

8.  Have you ever failed in your life?

9.  How are you going to adapt to your new boss?

A. FINDING A JOB:

In the process of looking for a job, please remember this priceless piece of advice from G. Byron: "Never ask entrepreneurs for a job. Even if they do give it to you, do not take it. Y ou need to “sell your job” to the highest bidder or to a company that you consider that after this you will have the opportunity to be the highest paid person. No one can hope for success without knowing the basic rules of the trading and selling the talent, energy, work, ideas, plans and our zeal "(Sđđ pages 191-193).

If you want to sell something, you need to have that thing first. Therefore, you have to train your abilities, health and zeal to the highest level to sell them to someone. However, about selling ideas and plans, let us take a look at Mr. Rockefeller example, he paid high for a man to do nothing all day, just wandering, looking upto the sky and coming up with new ideas for him. Nobel also said: "In my 1000 ideas, I just need a new idea, a bold one is enough."

If you are a determined, adventurous, willing to assert young adult, you can follow this Thai girl’s footsteps, K. Chaiyawat. Aged 24, she gave up her cushy job (Media staff of a corporation) to work on a job with many challenges. Within four years, she changed herself from a director of a project into a director of commercial development of the company holding the Red Tradex Exhibition Petro VN 93. She said: "To me, happiness means possessing good mind and a kind heart "(Youth, 21/10/93). If you seek for a job at many places but have yet to succeed, you should read it again and consider the case of job application of Ms. Francis (page 133) and find your own solution.

In order to work well and practically, you should carefully read the —40 sucessful examples” by Nguyen Hien Le. I have read it many times - but after each time reading, I found something new, something good and valuable lessons while practicing and in life. For good practice, we need to understand the mechanism.

B.  MECHANISM:

Do the things that the gorvenment allows us to and do not violate those which are banned. This is one of the 10 secrets of the world’s billionaires. We can not create the mechanism, but base on the regulations of the gorvenment in each job, at each time, in each area to choose jobs suitable to the circumstances.

C.   EARNING MONEY:

The Art of Enrichment has been written into books by many entrepreneurs, wealthy individuals including Nobel Laureates. In this book, the author will only contribute some ideas to making money orientations. At birth, all of us have to struggle to earn for a living. The two words —earning enough” means different things to different people. R. Branson (Bristish billionaire) wrote: "The sastisfaction of a billionaire compared to that of a person earning 150,000 USD / year is not much different." No one eats 10 meals a day and sleeps on two beds. If you want to comply with the phrase —earning enough”, you must first understand the saying: "first lady contentment" (Knowing when is enough is the richest) of the Chinese (To understand this quote better, please check Appendix IV Page 277) .

In this market economy era, everyone is scrambling to get rich, many people think that: the more money they have, the happier they are. Ask yourself this, was there anyone richer than Tang Minh Phung and his wife before he got into jailed? Was he happier than you and than me? See? Earning a lot is good, but the money should be earned legitimately with true ability and energy without breaking the law and morality. Do not enrich yourself by smuggling, corruption, deception, do not take money of the poor, do not steal from the government and the people. Moreover, do not get rich in Rockefeller-style which made him one of the most hated in America (40 successful examples, page 33).

After opening our country, many people got rich so fast (mainly by illegal ways) which made many others follow. Someone said: "Who wants to get rich in a year, be prepared to go to jail for six months." Therefore, many guys who wanted to earn much by doing illegal business had to come to court. If you have enough conscience and virtue, enough faith, you can get rich quickly and earn more money, contributing to the wealth of yourself and your nation.

In the process of making money, please never forget your life’s destination. If you can earn billions but end up exhausted and dying young, it is not happiness, except for those who prefer to die on a pile of gold as Eugénie Grandez, or the corruption masters. If you sit on top of mountain full of money but your family is like a mess, your children are spoiled and jail is like home to you, does your success mean anything?

If you do not like to do business but other professions, please remember this piece of advice from A. Maurois: "Guarantee the present and future of yours and your loved ones’ in the level that every human can do, after that, pay the time and energy remaining for other necessary things which is beneficial to your liver, heart and spirit "(The People 25/03/98).

Every man is the combination of all of his social relations. Life has so many things to do. If you do not want to live and die on the mountain but wanting to be genius, remembered for generations, then you should make enough money for your families and yourselves, the rest of the time is for other things that you are passionate about. For example, Nguyen Du, Nguyen Khac Vien, Vu Tuyen Hoang, etc. none of them is billionaire, but are billionaires better than them?

D.   SPENDING MONEY:

”If you want to get rich, you need to know how to make money and also spend it wisely"(B.Franklin). Lessons about making money and spending money are one of the six basic categories everyone should know (see Annex I). The reason is that spending money is as hard as making money. "Achieving wealth is difficult, it is more difficult to preserve it, but to use it wisely the hardest” (P.Đây). If it is not difficult then why an effective money-earner like A. Carnegie had to ask journalism to hold a contest to find out a person who can show him the most useful way to spend his money wisely. He spent more than 90% of the money earned to charity. And Rockefeller, some documents say: When he passed away, his child inherited a huge sum of money from him; therefore, he was miserably surrounded by people who were thisrty for the legacy. After his friend showed him how to spend the money (Donating to Charity buildings, Research Institutes around the world ...), he ultimately felt in peace. And D. Carnegie’s father and mother, who were poor farmers, saved the money they received from their children to donate to charity without giving their names to the list of donators. Specifically, Sir Bui Bang Doan, one of the six upstream of a divided court Bao Dai, shared his salaries for 50 other people, that is why his son had to wear clogs during all his student lifetime.

How about you and me, who do not have much money, how should we spend it properly? If you want to spend the money properly, you first need to know how many categories that you have to spend on. Regular expenditures, popular and pricey spending includes 15 categories and divided into three major contents (not including tax and utility contributions):

Expense for reproduction: For example, (farmers) after harvesting the farmers must save the seeds and money for the next season.

Expense for material life: Eating (including upbringing children, caring for old parents), clothing, housing, transportation and medical treatment.

Spending on mental life: Learning for yourselves, training your children (mainly spent on children's education), cultural activities (books, TV, internet ...), social relations (wedding, anniversaries and exhibits, parties, etc.), travelling (including to visiting distant relatives), communications, savings for old age and charity work.

In the process of spending money, you should always remember the seven principles:

1.  Have a spending plan in advance and accord to it when you use money to avoid impulse spending and to balance all spending items.

2.  Spend on what considered “must items”, no matter how expensive and how hard it is to get. You have to manage to find a way to get them. And to items that do not matter so much, do not spend on those.

3.  Spend economically and save for doing good.

4.  Record on your expense to check later.

5.  Do not buy things that are useless to you, no matter how cheap they could be. Do not buy things that you do not need or yet to need.

6.  The big expense should be considered and thoroughly discussed in the family and

planned well in advance.

7.  Absolutely no gambling, lottery is also gambling, betting is a scary one.

Young people need to think about these four sentences:

Being rich without savings means poverty later.

Being poor without savings means beggars forever.

And: Rich at thirty does not mean happiness.

Poor at thirty does not mean misery.

There goes a Turkish adage: "People get rich because they work, and even richer because they know how to save."

If you want to spend money properly, you should read the last chapter in the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. When you get married, the economy is one of the four factors contributing to the sustainable happiness of your family. Therefore, spending needs to be discussed thoroughly, outlined in a specific plan and agreed by both sides.

Special expense: Charity

When being asked: "What would you do if you won the several billions yen lottery?", Mr. Tsutono Yohimura, the president of a corporation with 48 employees, answered without hesitation: "I would donate all the sum of money to charitable buildings and we continue to work in factories, nothing different at all. "

It is obvious that "Doing good too much, beggars will be you”; however, people seem to turn stingy when they get rich so do not wait till then to do good.

In conclusion: The choice of jobs, vocational training, working in practice, making money and spending money take the majority of energy and a person’s lifetime. Properly and wisely handling these things is the top task in the art living of each person.

Whether your life would happy, meaningful or successful firstly depends on how you earn and spend your money. This is not easy for most people, including those who are endowed with such a solid foundation from wealthy families, intelligence and good health.

Therefore, no one is allowed to make big mistake in this great task of their lives, and along the way, the better someone manage these issues, the more chances he has to become successful. If you do not understand this well and do not perform well the six —belongings” of life, you can hardly solve this great problem well.

11.1.                                 BUILDING       FAMILY

Along with occupation, marriage is very important in every person’s life. Because, if you do not have a job, what can we use to live on; without home and family, where do we create and enjoy happiness? Nguyen Hien Le wrote: "Marriage not only determines your happiness but also your success. If you do not think about the phrase — thanks to his wife” in a bad way, every man must thank his wife for his success".

However, before the wedding day, or after the day for years, or even till the end of one’s life, many people still do not have the slightest knowledge of building a happy family in a civilized society. Becage said: "Marriage is one of the most important things in life, but possibly the thing that we least consider". This happens because when people are in love, they are like in a dreamy world, after marriage, they awoke. Living in a dream is still good, "When in love, people are maniac," like Freud said which is scarier.

To help young people build a truly happy family, I will not state this or that secret like some books suggest, I just say this: Marriage without reason is like building a castle of sand. If you have encountered vehement love, you still have to use reason when it comes to marriage. Here I would like to discuss more in details with you.

11.2.1.  FOR THOSE WHO ARE UNDER THE AGE OF MARRIAGE:

You should know that: "Youngsters without certain careers should not play around with love." This is a serious and thoughtful reminder from the female singer Linh Dinh. Poetess Thu Hong told herself when she was 19:

Every fruit begins with a flower,

A scented flower may result a sour fruit.

At that time, girls at around 18 without marrige are called singletons. Yet Thu Hong was 19 years old still hesitated without feeling afraid of being single. Why? If you answer this correctly, it is beneficial for you. Who plays with love- regardless age, will soon destroy themselves or will not be able to enjoy true happiness in the future and that leads to the

Youngsters, before entering the period of learning about love, you need to know that: "Under heaven, everything has its time: birth date, death date; planting date, pull-out date; killing time or healing time; keeping and throwing time; with the love, with the hate; with the war, with the peace; time to think and time to act ... " (From the chapter 3 of — Training Spirit” by Dorothy Carnegie Tien Giang Publishing House, 1992).

So to you, what time gained, what time lost, what time to prepare, what time to love, time to marry, time to learn, time to act, time to be happy, any time ...? There is also time to go to heaven and time to go to hell as well. Balzac wrote: "Marriage is the path that leads us to heaven or hell."

For young people between 15-17 years old, now is not the time to learn about love, and definitely not the time to love. Especially girls, this is the period of time to stick yourselves to education, vocational training, the period to prepare yourselves for the future love. This is the period of sowing, waiting for the harvest to come. If you do not know what to sow, how to sow then what can you harvest later in the future? Those who rush into love should be aware of falling into hell.

Starting your marrige life, your need to know that: how to go and which foot first will lead you to heaven and which foot will lead you to hell right away.

As a person who cares a lot about the happiness of family for over 50 years, I have to write these things to prove that these are not theoretic things but based on my own personal experience, combined with the knowledge and experience I have accumulated throughout my life.

My most precious experience is: If you want flowers, plant them yourselves. It is hard to get the flowers you want if you wait for others to plant for you. Even if someone would do that, it must be so pricey that you cannot buy. I mean that: You should choose your partner who is poorer than you are. People usually look up and rarely look down. When you find people who are poorer, and raise them up, which means you have the advantage compared to rivals and even your partner. After that, you use the power of love to touch them to improve them. It is the extremely important factor which helps create durable happiness. After marrige, do not attempt to renovate your partner, even a little bit. But when she is in love, jumping into fire might be a possible thing to her.

The first step on the way to marriage with the hope of reaching to heaven is to prepare enough capital, then consciously learn about your partner thoughtfully. The most important capital that you need to prepare is the qualities of yourself, the packages of your life then the followed by knowledge. Knowledge here is not anything taught at school or college. This is the knowledge of understanding, including biological superiority and knowledge about building a happy family after the wedding.

II.2.2.    YOUNG PEOPLE STARTING THEIR LOVE LIFE.

After (formal education) finishing high school, especially before entering vocational schools, girls should start to learn about love. And to boys, you should start to love when you are about to finish vocational training. The slower the better. Farmers have a saying: First, TIME; later, SOIL. For you girls, the TIME is equally important. When you still have time for learning at school and for vocational training, use it for learning. You should not get yourself distracted by love when you are in high school. Remembering that: Big thing comes first, which means that after having a stable job, you can freely build your hearth. Follow such rule would bring you an easy success. Those schoolboys and schoolgirls who do not care about their careers but love will soon get to hell.

You might ask me: The fact Marx started his love life since the age of 17 is right or wrong? The answer is: Do you have such great mind and ideology? Before entering college, he already had the right thoughts in many areas, especially in the field of career and life goals. Therefore, Marx’s life partner, regardless of the tremendous pressure of her family, retained the integrity of love for 7 years because she knew her lover was a potential man. And you, if you had a chance to meet someone promising, falling in love a little bit sooner is totally okay, as long as you keep this in mind: "Time changes, the talented wasted" which means that if you do not do the things that your TIME needs, no matter how GOOD you could be, you can easily fail. Moreover, if you have many advantages, you can expand the selection area, which is more beneficial for you. Conversely, with the lack of advantages, even if you can grab someone’s heart, you still cannot be sure that you can keep her or even if you two get married, you cannot assure you will be happy. Then, why so hurry? (Haste makes waste).

Now we move on to FIND OUT the knowledge of understanding in love.

A.   KNOWLEDGE OF UNDERSTANDING LOVE:

How we find the partner of our lives and how to understand the person who we tend to give all of us to are the purposes of this section.

a.       1. About Standard:

Reading this book, you must have known the baggages of life (inventory). You use it as the standard to judge yourself and the potential partner of yours. You just choose someone who actively prepares for his life, actively prepares the conditions for rapid progress to give all of you and to avoid regrets later.

A2. Biological superiority:

The family has four functions which are economy, hearth, breeding and education. Two of the four functions are giving birth and educating children. If you want to have healthy, intelligent children, you need to know the content of biological superiority to find ways to apply. A documentary about the biological superiority published by French scientists says:

1.  The further the hometowns of the wife and the husband are, the better the child will

be.

2.           The best time for childbearing of women is 25-30, followed is 30-40, the lastly is 20 -

25.  Children of mothers under 16 years old developed very poorly. Children of mothers over 40 or further take the more risk of adverse physical and intellectual ability.

3.  Children of couples that the wife is between 25-30 years old, husband between 30-35 years old are the best: big head and breast circles, large birth weight, health and better intellect.

4.  Husband is 3 years or elder than wife is a good thing (In my opinion, 3-7 would be the perfect range). Through this document we see that: If you want the promising children, a man should not get married before the age of 28 (28 full years), girls should not get married before 22 years of age and should choose a spouse 3 years older or younger.

B. HOW TO CHOOSE SOMEONE QUALIFIED:

Suitable alliance was, is and will be common occurrence in voluntary marriages. It means that to find a lover relatively suitable for you, there are three conditions:

1.  Bạn hãy tự hỏi: Ta có ưu điểm tương xứng với mẫu người yêu của ta chưa?

2.  Hai bên có biết cách chinh phục nhau không?

3.  Chợ có hàng cho bạn mua không?

1.  Ask yourself: Do I have any advantage in common with my partner?

2.  Do both sides know how to win each other?

3.  Is everything available to buy at market?

I have read somewhere the story of a scientist failed at his first marriage. The next time, he chose a wife scientifically. He gathered the —targets” and split a piece of paper into two parts with one side scored the advantages and the other one with the disadvantages of each target. He chose the one with the most advantages. The marriage this time was even a bigger failure. He declared: There is no solution to this problem. However, he had never looked back at himself to see his own strengths and weaknesses, especially the lack of art of living. He failed because of himself, not anyone else. Many boys out there only know —flirting” to deceive many innocent girls. Many young girls only had their beauty as the only treasure when they first experienced the —taste of life”. Let me remind you boys: "There is nothing more dangerous than sticking your fate with the fate of a woman just because she is young and beautiful" (Bielinxki). Many pretty girls have to get worthless husband since "The wise never marry beautiful girls". Someone said: "Beautiful wifes are not for us" ... Here, I do not —throw everything in a heap”. It is an of-course that the more beautiful you are, plusing the 4 moral standards of a woman, the easier for you to get married.

Someone said: "Beautiful and being loved, that is woman. Not pretty, but conquer love, that is the queen. " Those who win love without nice appearance mist have prepared well for their lives. The best way to find an ideal lover is to perfect yourself to become the ideal lover of the most excellent person. When you have prepared well for your life, which means you already have the map to treasure, you will worry no more about your single life, even someone outstanding like Mrs.Doan Thi Diem would be an easy target.

Wanting to implement the second condition, you have to learn "selling"; first of all, you need to know — marketing” and how to make consumers see the true value of your products and had the intention to buy them. Take a look at Lan Nhi’s case, coming from an ordinary family, to adulthood,she possessed the kind of normal beauty (not stunning) but she did win the heart of a powerful emperor with thousands of beautiful concubines.When imperial concubine recruitment occured, she was in the list of 28 of the 60 people selected to be seen by the King and she was at the last position, holding a small dog in her hand (she distanced herself, making herself outstanding) and showed of her skills; the King was dumb for a moment and then raised his voice: "I choose this person." Lan Nhi was Dowager Cixi, a famous queen in the history of feudal China (The Art of Communication and Success of each person, the Youth Publishing House, 1993 page 44). Lan Nhi was successful because she was gifted with the talent to win someone’s heart.

Wanting to implement the third condition, you should expand the selected range, or: Do not be hurried or impatient during selecting lover- the partner for life. When you have yet to find out a significant someone for yourself, focus on the first condition: strive to improve all of your advantages, the higher the good price is, the easier to sell it. For instance, Pierre and Marie Curie, before they found each other, both had entered the age of being —singleton”, but they did not worry. Remember the biblical quote: Try to find and you will find. And about those boys and girls looking for love without any hope and just wanted someone to marry them, mainly due to lack of the first condition. They have nothing to —sell”, they just want to be a mistletoe. In finding partners, if you want to avoid the "fake", please read carefully the Content of understanding your partner.

C.   CONTENTS^ OF UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER:

During the time being together, couples often spend time sweet talking, cuddling, stroking, etc. but forget to ask and understand the things that they need to understand about their partners. No one knows whether they were in a dream or were blinded by love. Balzac wrote: "It can never be a happy marriage if before marriage, you two (already knew) didn’t know well about each other’s personalities, habits and interests." In addition to the three points, you also have to LEARN about acknowledgement, family situation, dreams, health, career, friends ... of your lovers. One of the best way is to ask someone else to help you learn certain points. In the process of learning to understand: you should follow this quote: "It’s best to wash one’s soiled linen at home". You should ask others for help to learn about your partner; otherwise, you may get it wrong about the person. We have witnessed a pair of sophomores dating for 2 years long. Then, after 7 days of the wedding, the wife finally saw all the bad characteristics of her husband and even considered a divorce.

c.1. Acknowledgement

The most important acknowledgement is that every youngster needs to know the purpose of getting married. Having understood this most important point, you will have good basement to build your family and your heaven.

In February 1989, the Soviet Women magazine published an article written about the blitz interview of a young female reporter with 10 brides in a wedding room in Moscow. The reporter waited in front of the door from day to night and met 10 brides and quickly interviewed them with the same question: "Why do you get married"? 9 out of 10 replied: "I get married to be happy" and one replied: "I get married to bring happiness to my husband." The journalist concluded: "The last bride will be happy, the other nine will not." Everyone gets married to wish for happiness, nine of the brides replied: "I get married to be happy" but the journalist said they would get no happiness. Why? Correctly answering this question will be very beneficial for you.

After the wedding, everyone is looking forward to fully enjoy the "honeymoon". However, in the wartime, many couples had to separate shortly after the wedding night for the national mission. And a girl who got into underage marriage - got married since 17 years old - who enjoyed such a long honeymoon lasting for 14 years (from the moment she got married till her husband died). The world press did write a lot about this issue. That was the love-story of the “Clown king” Charlot and Oona. Before Oona, there were three young girls had entered the great man’s life and quickly left the young potential 26 years old man with many signed big contracts valued US$ 800 million (the value of US dollar in the 20th century worth ten times larger than at the present), to plunder enough money and cause problems for Charlot and then abandoned him. About Oona, she was already "extremely mature" in her adolescence. Although her father resolutely disagreed (Her father was awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature, very rich), she still married Charlot and brought him true happiness. She took the lead in the implementation of what Dorothy Carnegie wrote in How to help your husband, especially, she did not ask for anything from her husband. For many nights, when Charlot had to work overnight, she slept alone. When in France, her husband bought her coat costed 500.000fr, however, she chose another one costed 180.000fr only. Meanwhile, there was a wife of a financial officer in the group of Kim Woo-jung who caused her husband to get fired just because he bought her a too expensive coat (Today’s Knowledge, No.35, Art of being a genius’s wife).

a.       2. About personality:

I’m stating a true story I saw with my bare eyes: A boy, after many times visting his girlfriend’s house, he had never bought even a little piece of candy for the little baby at her house or brought anything for her grandparents who were almost 90. After knowing that the boy’s income was six times higher than his daughter’s wages, her father told her: "Kick his ass! He is such a stingy and stupid bastard. You will not be able to live with such a man.” Then, he is so done!

The first characteristic that you need to know is not stinginess or generosity, it is the diligence or laziness, and stupidity or selfishness and forgiveness. In addition to these qualities, you also have to consider other qualities, things that can be forgiven, things that can not (See (Inventory) Baggage 5).

c.       3. Family situation:

You have to find out the family background of his to know whether he was well-educated since he was young. If he is living with single parent, you should seriously consider if you do not want to follow their footsteps. The reason is that many people often build their families and treat their wives and husbands in the form of their old family and their parents. For the innocent girls who rushed to learn about love and gave themselves away easily and blindly to so-called “love”; they were too young, too naive, unaware of learning the art of understanding for the dark truths without wise ones to tell them and to keep them from unwanted pregnancy from adolescence which leaving a disastrous imprint in their lifetime. Because the bastards are everywhere, including clever-looking and naive-looking ones; and they know girls’ weaknesses, so they use them to get those girls. That’s gone.

Before entering the stage of marriage in your life, be awake to find out the exact answers to these following questions: Has the TIME come yet? Have you been clear about all the contents of understanding your partner? Are you wise enough to find out what is true, what is lie in the words of your partners? If unfortunately, you fall for a bad guy, who can you ask for help? Firstly, you need to be wise with your ear, which means that: Listen consciously for those whispering behind your beloved’s and your backs and ask your parents or someone reliable, qualified and experienced for some honest pieces of advice in the process of learning your partner. There is a very important thing that most young people do not pay attention to which is: the preparation for becoming a husband, a wife, a father or a mother. If a girl married an unprepared man, he did her nothing beneficial. There are many girls, who have reached marriageable age, are not well-prepared to become a wife and a mother and just wait and hope for someone to come and marry them. Marrying that kind of girls is like bringing burdens home.

II.3    Knowledge of building a happy family:

The second acknowledgement that you need to understand thoroughly to build your happy family is the ART OF LIVING TOGETHER. The Art of living together in one sentence summary: The couple tried their best to implement these four communities: emotional, economical, children educating and sexual community. Couples that fulfill all the four communities can live together very happily. Missing one community, they are still able to live together. Missing two of the four communities, they can easily take each other to court. Especially the fourth community. Missing this was the main reason accounting for 50% -60% of divorces nationally and globally. Fulfilling these four communities basically means you have been responsible with your family and this society. Ask youself how you can implement these four communities? Here is the reply:

Emotional community:

It means building an emotional, cozy, warm, passionate, gentle, harmonious atmosphere between the two of you: loving when together and missing when apart; your partner is always the source of joy and encouragement to motivate you. To do so, you should say and do the things that make your beloved love you more, be proud of you and avoid the words and deeds that make him or her frustrated, irritated and heartbroken. Being a husband, you need to be calm and lead your family through any crisis and straightly head to the Heavenland. Being a wife, you should help your husband in his —leading business” and do not try to interfere or take away his proudful responsibility. Someone said: "The most glorious victory of the wife is never being the winner". In other words, be the less powerful, do not try to be the Queen. However, though being not so powerful, please remember this: —Good girl makes her husband a mandarin".

Being a husband means you have to be the first one to deal with all the family issues. Being a wife means you have to take care the —rear” to support your husband and make him say: — After a hard working day, there is no better thing than getting back home and enjoying myself’.

Before going to bed, each of you should ask yourself the (self-) question: What have I done for my beloved today? Did we have any word, attitude or deed that disappointed him or her? What is the best way to fix that mistake? Balzac wrote: "The secret to happiness in marriage that you know how to attract your partner for the whole life." What belongs to individual responsibility should be done individually.

To prevent destroying each other’s feelings, each of you remember this quote by Dothory Dichx: "Boats of hopeful love can be ruined by yours and your partner’s bad habit of criticizing each other”. There goes a French proverb: —A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband”. To help the husband from getting deaf, the wife should stop talking, nagging or insulting her husband. To keep the wife from getting blind, the husband should not do things that he wants to hide or feel ashamed of towards her.

The goes a saying — Fighting is unavoidable in marriage”. In marriage life, it is unavoidable for couples to encounter disagreements, sometimes, serious contradictions. Whenever there is a disagreement, follow this motto: "Blame yourself first, then blame others”; each of you should look back at yourself to find your own mistakes and fix them, do not rush to blame others. Avoid this to the utmost:

If you are the one to blame,

Do not waste time seek for mistake from others.

Assuming your husband had mistresses, you should seriously look back at yourself to recognize whether it was your fault, how to fix it; then, help your husband to fix his mistake and get back to you. There are many wifes who unintentionally push their husbands away not knowing that it was their faults and just blamed their husbands for betraying them. Always remember the wise German proverb: "Marriage means duty for the first time, craziness for the second one andfoolishness for the third time". "Nobody is perfect and so is marriage; knowing how to forgive will maintain the happiness of your family. Conversely, the stubborner you are, the easier your family get broken”. (G. Lombroero). "Finding a good husband is difficult and keeping him for yourself is even a more challenging thing "(Sacdonx). Bible says: "A good wife is priceless," "A cruel wife turned her family into a hell on earth"(Anonymous). "Marriage is the lifelong education" (H. Amien), but first of all, educate yourselves.

Marrying someone, you have to appreciate his advantages and accept his disadvantages. Therefore, do not be upset, do not smash anything or get angry because of the shortcomings and mistakes of the person. Never deliberately change his or hers personality. It is best to individually fix yourselves to fit with your significant someone (Like Oana). If both of you know how to do that, you will remain happy for the rest of your

life.

Economic Community:

For family finance, the husband is the chest, the wife is the key. The best idea is the couple have a common economy, and managed by one of the the two. The best manager should be the wife. But the wife must be well-planning, well-saving. All payments should be fully documented to clearly know the spending. For the huge expenditures, both husband and wife must be thoroughly discussed. Even if the characters of the couple conflict, they should not have personal capital but try to have some money spent on general terms and have thoroughly discussed to avoid: from this contradiction lead to another contradiction. Having solved the economic community, (will) the couples will be able to create a strong basis for emotional community

Children community:

Both husband and wife must be consistent in parenting and must discuss together to avoid confusion for their children of not knowing who to listen to. If children do not know who to follow in their family, they will listen to friends, to people in the streets; therefore, less or more, they will be ruined.

Sexual Communities:

This is a sensitive matter, "a taboo" that many people avoid to discuss. However, with wrong opinion, you have no background to act right; thus, we need to clearly discuss this.

Trees up to the age of sexual maturity will bloom and results in preserving its race. The same thing happens to any creature. As for humans, sexual matter, in addition to preserving the human race, it (was) is a need of life, a normal physiological activity of those who reach the age of maturity. The important thing is the way we express that demand. If any youngster does have too high sexual needs, he or she might need to get married early.

Xoviet Union Women Magazine of 2/1989 wrote: It is very beneficial to health for women aged from 25 to 45 to be regularly sexually sastisfied. Any woman who hides perennially her sexual need may cause herself to suffer psychological stress, the risk of breast cancer and genital apparatus might increase more than an average person. Adults with need of sex and know how to express it are very normal and acceptable. In marriage life, this activity is normal like needs of food, drink, sleep and rest. If two people are in harmony in this, it will be beneficial for both their physical and mental health. The harmony here is determined by the physical need and partly due to the emotional need as well.

In conclusion: The Art of living together is the Art of conquesting each other. Each person should know how to please his or her partner physically and spiritually. If we always care about our significant one, knowing what they need and pleasing them, surely we will end up living happy for ever after.

Please remember: The first in five standards to become a happy man is: having a happy family with reconciled husband and wife as well as well-educated children. I wish you: Grab the TIME and be well-prepared to learn about your partner, be careful in the process of understanding, absolutely avoid trying to love and after the wedding, fulfill the four communities and make sure you will complete the first standard in the five standards of becoming a happy man.

II.        4. Four big deals of a couple after wedding.

Attending the wedding, everyone is happy wishing the bride and groom endless happiness. For me, I do not wish them but let them know that there are four big things that need to be well done after the couple finally lives under the same roof. Those are: Living happily together, giving birth, parenting and educating children.

The first thing:

How to stay happy together for the whole life without getting into divorce or suffering hell on earth. To do this, the couple should read only 5 pages from 236 to 240 in (Preparation for life) “” and focus carefully on the Section of four communities in marriage. Both husband and wife should read, understand, discuss and implement those communities.

The second thing:

Giving birth: How to proactively give birth to 1-2 intelligent and healthy children: read 5 pages of Diet for pregnant women and breastfeeding mothers.

The third thing:

Parenting: How to keep your children well-being since birth until adulthood: Read 27 pages from page 42 to page 69. This is the most important knowledge, the leading one in all 40 types of knowledge people need to know.

Educating children: Nguyen Binh Khiem wrote: "The most difficult thing in life is to educate your children". Wanting to do this well, you should first read the two books I must study economics at Harvard and A good mother is better than a good teacher of Chinese authors. (Now available in the market), and the following one is: Parents are the best first teachers.

After that, I suggest reading the article The art of parenting posted on hanhtrangdoinguoi.net and other books about parenting.

Note: The contents written in the book (The preparation for life) are very precious references, contributing positively to the process of teaching your children.

 

SOMETHING ABOUT FRIENDSHIP

 

             Having 1000 good friends are little, but getting a enemy is quite a bit more.

Turkish sayings

Getting many good friends, even one will help you more sucessful in life. Taking an example of Engles and Marx- is one of a kind of friendship in the world which helped Marx succeed and presented both of them as the greatest leaders of proletariat. Not only that, the friendship of Luu Binh and Duong Le which only existed in work of arts though will also inspire us in making and remaining friends. Laos’ saying said : ‘finding classmate is easy, but making soulmate is hard’. 24 centuries ago, Democrite said : ‘for anyone who does not have a true friend does not literally deserve to live’. In life, for those who want to have much more property and many reliable friends needs to remember an English saying: ‘parents are property, brothers and sisters are a-place-to-depend-on, and friends are both.

Because:

Playing with silly people, you will be like them Making friends with wise people, you are the same as them

Nguyen Trai

Proverbs say: ‘trading needs friends, selling needs many friends’. In the age of messy and profitable markerting economy, many ministers stick in mind a strategy: ‘turning nice people into bad ones, turning bad ones into henchman’. In the other hand, wise person keeps in mind another strategy: ‘turning bad person into good one, turning good one into friend’. Pitegore said: ‘do not make friends into enemies, but vise versa’

The major point here is to help young people to find faithful friends, at least one. Each of you need to remember that: ‘knowing how to make friends, you will find out one’ (C. Cnaxitxky). Because a block of birds needs to fly together, and nice people would never play with bad ones, and wise people would never make friends with stupid ones’. If we want to have true friends, close friends or soulmates, you need to be honest and faithful with them and you, yourself first. In another way of saying, honesty and faithfulness are the first steps of glooming and remaining friendships between young people (Lenin).

Wise people know clearly that: ‘it is better to have many dear friends than richness and power’ (Euripide), for ‘the greatest deal in this life is no more than a good friend’ (F.M. Auouet). Voltaire said: ‘friendships of the greatest people are god-given’. If you want to ask a favour, you have to fight and get out of the literal meaning of the word ‘human’. Let take a look at your hard-working, polite and high-performance classmates who never become close friends of lazy and impolite ones. However, if they do, for they

want to help those ones to be better, not choose those types of people as friends though.

Chinese says: ‘birds of a feather block together’. For those bad people play together: ‘it is not friendship, but plot, and they do not love or be afraid of each other, because they are not friends, but accessories’ (E. Bôêxi)

Young and immature teenagers will always choose friends who love or like them. Remembering a Mongolian saying: ‘not all the people who laugh with you are friends, also not all people who make you angry are enemies’. In life journey, I witness many hypocrites pretending nicely, after becomming friends, they are back in their nature to be unkind and cause harm to you. In constrast, outspoken people who can talk directly make you uncomfortabe are good people, and they deserve to be friends. It is exactly as Gônxarốp said: ‘if he does not talk with you directly, publicly, even intensively about your actions or what he thought, so your friendship is not really honest, understandable and respectable each other.

Everyone knows that lonely teenagers who do not have friends will be sad and even come under pressure of harmful psychology. Meanwhile, you need to remember: ‘it would be rather alone than having bad friends (L. Colingat). it is better not have a friend rather than a-yes-man (K. Marx). over 300 years ago, La Fontaine reminded: ‘wise enemies are rather than stupid buddies’.

Playing with cowardly buddies are more dangerous than silly ones: ‘a wimpy friend is more terrified than an enemy, for people against enemy, not friend’ (Tolstoi)

Socrate wrote: ‘how nice a person knows to self-analysis how much they mean to their friends and try to be a better one, it makes your friends never betray you’. In addition, forgive your friends’ little mistakes, but be strict with your own small ones’ (P.J. Stale). When you are cultivated, you are like a bacon in the darkness, and good people will become your friends and vice versa.

Some people say: ‘destiny chooses your parents, but your choice generates friends’ (J. Delille). in making friendship, remember that: ‘habits and practise create friends, but integrity makes soulmates (D. Stern). It means that: ‘if you want to have close friends, true friends or soulmates, you need to filfill seven sections of being a good person in order to help you find your soulmates. Unless you find that ideal person, you ought to choose a person who (is on the same page) has same characteristics with you. In the progress of being a friend, you will find him or her as a true friend.

In the process of making friends, young people, please, need to not forget: ‘among your enemies there is no one who more dangerous than your ex-best friends’ (A. France). ‘If your friends leave you behind, do not complain, for you do not lose anything for sure’ (Delaroa). ‘Hypocritical friends like a shade of shadow, they will be with you under sunshine, but leave you in the shade of trees’ (C. Bôvi). Who betrayed you once will never have a true friend for the rest of their life. Disloyalty friends left you is a favour, because it helps you be wiser in making friend next time. There is better to have a storm helping to know how tough a tree is. There must be difficulties to know who is your best friends.

From beginning of elementary school, our generations were taught:

A man is knowing by company he keeps

People should choose their friendships

Those lazy people should be stayed away

Nowadays, this statement needs to be fixed as: ‘it does not only lazy (person) people but also types of young person who uses addicted drugs and stimulated things such as moking, wine, beer, especially dope. Not only that, they should stay away from lazy students who found girlfriends so fasinating than study, or who likes joining car racing, love to be drunk. etc. those people cannot be good human. I disgree with Confusias that: ‘nobody likes to fight me because I fight no one’. I say: ‘we need to fight for good things to come, not fight for bad ones happen’. ‘we fight for being a good human, not a bad one’

In the journey of life, having 1000 friends are good, but we do not need as that great number of people, because we do not have enough time though. Even one or two is still be a good thing, unless they are your best friends. Someone says: ‘living with best friends need to beware when they are no longer your friends and be your enemies. However, ‘guarding your friends are (less) more shamed of than being betrayed’ (LA Rochfouauld). If you want to avoid those bad things, you need to remember Washington’ advice: ‘true friends are trees which slowly grow and ought to be challenged before it can be called by this tiltle’. Do not forget: ‘when choosing a friend, you need to be carefully slow, but when you replace a friend, you are better slower. (B. Franklin), for : ‘an ex-friend is better than two new ones’ (Emerson).

In conclusion, with teenagers, friendship is crucial in the process of establishing their career because friends will help and base on each other in their career or create property. If you would like a have a good friend, you need to be good person first. It means that: at first, be well-prepared for your future life, get your close friends ready for fortune and you can do it with them. If you wish to have a last happy gasp, you need to remember one of six neccessary formulars is having old friends like dry wood is easy to burn, old horse is uncomplicated to ride, aged book is straightforward to read, long-lived wine is simple to drink, so old friend is dearest’ (Vraitơ). The best old friends are spouses, then are childish friends, next are closest friends. The author prays for those who read this section will have a true friend.

 

CONCLUSION

When we give someone a priceless gife, but they do not use it; it become worth­less. Not only that, when a gift has 100 multi-purposes, they just use one, so its value is 1% compared with the whole real one. According to you, after reading this book, how many percent can you use? This one is an introduction of exercise book. If you just read, not use it, you will not use even 1% out of the real value of this book.

To help you use as much value of this book as possible, author consider for you something. Firstly, you need to understand clearly: ‘there will be secrets among the sentences of a book, you cannot recognize it until you read it three times’. That the right statement Elmer Wheeker wrote in his most famous book in the world «to be suceessful in life ».

I would like to tell you my own story to prove the rightness of this statement. In 1977, when i entered Thu Dau Mot, i had a house (in) on a hill without well-water; i had to buy (it) water in a far distance. I want to make a (storage) irrigation storage reservoir for sprinkling trees. From books i knew: ‘preventing water obsorbing in the bottom by saturated clay with salt is more economic than other methods. The first time i tried, then i failed. I read this book again, and i did it twice; i also failed. I found myself so angry and determined to figure out where the mistake was. I recognized that i missed out the important secrect with three words only ‘dry it hard’, the soil mixed with salt thickening 3 cms at the bottom of this storage. The third time, i did it rightly, and i succeeded. Using this experience, i made a second storage lake for bringing fish up. The fee for preventing from obsorbing water just 60 kilograms of salt. From this point i learned, readers frequently undertand the issue in their cursory ways, not as exactly as each word written by author.

In this book has many useful tips, you should figure these useful ones out to use it in your life.

These are the most important tips:

1.  How to get Rick’s big prize: high willpower, right attitude and acknowledgment of

things to do.

The secret of the author for living nearly 60 years not going to hospital for even a day, the secret to bear children with the best and healthy brains, to avoid dangerous diseases, to prolong life for themselves and their descendants. Pay attention to this thought-provoking story. In 2003, the author visited the Organization of the Elderly in Dong Xoai (Binh Phuoc), he met Ms. Khuyen, a retired teacher, I said: « In the US, every year, 2,500 babies are born with no brain (They’ll die a few hours later); Where reason is, how to cure this are clearly presented in the book. It only costs a little sum of money ». She told the Woman’s group of Tan Dong Ward to arrange a meeting with me to speak on the subject: "How can women give birth to smart and healthy kids?". On the way to the arranged place, (85 km) the author visited a relative’ and was informed that: "My children are in grade 11 and grade

5.  But my youngest has no brain." This was the first case of giving birth to a no-brain kid that I ever witnessed. Numbers of children with brains that are not good and have dangerous diseases are more than hundreds, thousands of times of no-brains. Precautions are already in this book, have you mastered, practiced, or showed anyone yet?

After finishing the book "50 diets for pregnant women" of a doctorate in nutrition, I said: "These 50 portions are primarily for the wealthy, the effects for pregnant women are not significant". In the curriculum of the Hanoi Medical University, there is a section titled exactly in this book is "Diets for the pregnant and breastfeeding". After reading, I said: "This course teaches the theory (not knowing how practical it is); moreover, the things written in this book is to guide practice, even low educated people or the poor can understand and apply ".

In the preface, the author required: "Do not doubt with the things I wrote in this book." In practice the first page authors wrote many other things that are different from those of many nutritionists, believing the author or anyone is up to you. There goes a Chinese saying: « Absolutely believe in a book means no better than having no book at all. ». Please note that in real life there are many fabricated stories and lies are told as truths. If it’s 100% true but sounds like lies, surely you do not believe; but if it’s 100% lying but sounds so real, you may absolutely fall for it. Many people believe those with high education, they do not believe those who are not academic but talented and have extensive knowledge (As the engineer Tran Dai Nghia, or Mr. Genie who only passed elementary school but dared to move houses thousands of tons of passing the pond).

To check the useful things mentioned in the book, please read the Title, Son Tung’s original achievement and Nguyen Thi Thanh Van’s letter on page 284 Afterword.

The quote "wisdom is a thousand times more valuable than pearls" has always echoed in the author’s mind for years since he knew it. People look for pearls; however, it is not my business. As for me, I have been seeking for the wisdom since 1968 to the present. Thus, the authors found three characteristics of a wise man with 16 minor details and 3 basic differences between the wise and the foolish. Here are the three great characteristics of a wise man:

A wise man knows well and implements well the six standards of how to be a wise man (page 200)

The wise know how to stay away three stupid things that La Rochfoucauld stated over 300 years ago, primarily to avoid: "Not knowing the things that people need to know" and "Knowing the (incorrect) things incorrectly".

A wise man knows and fulfills seven of the leading contents of how to be a real human in the new era (see page 4).

Nguyen Hien Le wrote: "Want to learn about something, write about it." Nguyen Hien Le wanted

to learn Ching, he wrote books about the Ching; the author wants to learn wisdom, author has to write this book.

In the process of looking for happiness, the author has found three quotes about the

happiest person in the world:

The happiest person in the world is soneone who has a healthy mind in a healthy body (Juvenal)

The happiest person in life is someone who is always happy to take care of others’ happiness. (Diderot)

The happiest person in the world is someone who find the peace in his house. (Goethe)

If anyone could understand and implement thoroughly these 6 standards of a wise man into practice, he would get all of the happiness. He would really become the happiest person on Earth. Again, the happiest person in the world is the one who implements well 6 standards and 3 characteristics of a wise man and simultaneously keeps himself away from the three characteristics of foolish man.

Humans are the only creatures on earth have two lives: the life of body and soul life. How to make our souls live healthily and in harmony with our bodies? The answer to this question is your own one. Because sometimes posing the right questions is much harder than to find the right answers to those questions.

I wish you and everyone in your family to become the happiest people on Earth.

APPENDIX 1

NECESSARY INFORMATION EVERYONE SHOULD KNOW

In the journey of life, we acknowledge and get rightly necessary information people should know ; therefore, we have a foundation to do well and properly the required things. From this point, we can stay away from common silly mindset and approach wise people. In those essential things to know, there will be things we can learn in just one sentence, but there will be things we take decades to know it well. Learning is an unlimited process; being hard-working is a wise thing to do, learning is acknowledgement and becomes human in a litteral meaning. These following knowledge is required to know, apply and practise (author generally arranged the level of important knowledge from highest to lowest)

1. Protecting, reserving health and prolonging ages

2.  Common knowledge

3. Career in knowlege

4. Knowlege about earning and spending money

5. Knowledge about building a full house

6. Human (rules and regulations) virtues

After these six basic regulations of knowledge are other five crucial ones.

7. Acknowledgement the rules of survival, the heritage of kindness, creating eternal life, and perpetual human soul

8. Soft skills

9. Foundation of (full palace) the castle of happiness

10. The design plan for (happy palace) the castle of happiness

11. (Sollutions    for building delighted palace) The construction methods of building the castle of happiness

12.Those knowlege above is arranged in a stable order which cannot be exchanged the positions. The others below can be put in a random order.

13. Determinate the ideals and a healthy lifestyle guideline

14. keeping in mind six standards of a wise man

15.  the six most valuable things and one most terrified thing of human being

 16. Being a thoughtful mind: content of thinking, method of thought, knowing how to apply the results of thinking. Raising proper questions and spinning the opposite of issue to find the universal truth.

17. Define one ideal and one healthy lifestyle guideline

18. the art of being parents, well-prepared knowledge for their children’s life in the future, well-equiqed for their children horizons.

19. Acknowledgement of choosing daily, period and whole life job

20. three necessary and sufficient conditions for correcting a mistake

21. making and remaining friendships, turning enemy into friend, not turning friend into enemy

22. the art of living: harmony life, employment, having a rest, getting married, independence and creating approriate condition for others to live better life, being not mistreatment themselves and other people.

23. knowledge about national laws and customs of desirable destination

24. third, sixth and ninth roads- impressive discover of Dr. Tran Van Ha

25. the art of listening

26. expert at least one language and knowing another additional language.

27. Knowing how to use computer for dicovering internet at the very least.

28. having the same horizons like greatest people to look forward

29. knowledge about psychological study and the art of behavior

30. Scientific knowledge in daily life

31. spiritual ackowledgement

32. knowlege about aesthetic

33. Completion our life before entering life and completion it after each great deal in the last of one year, being plan designer for life. Conclusion three times when people are 16 years old, in the middle and last of one’s life.

34. being right evaluation about other people, assessing people and life in a wise way, learning good things from other people.

35. discovering yourself, supporting, practising yourself to be a wise man. Spending 5-10 minutes in the last of every day to eveluate your work, and design plan for the next day, week. etc

36. being sensitive with new things which is over your horizon

37. being an adventurer

38. taking use of last years of one’s life, and being well-prepared for life after death

39. reflecting your own experience with other people

40. being peaceful your soul

41. Taking use of good sides of each religion

42. staying away from three bad things in human life

It is certain that this is not all necessary things people should know

APPENDIX 2

SOMETHING ABOUT HUMAN’S OLD AGE

One’s life equipment is just a reference material for readers who want to have a good life in heaven and prepare well in the second world (after death) before they back into this life once again, and then their good monuments will stay still in their children’ souls and many other people in society. If you want to have it, please read those lines below:

Taking optimal use of ultimate years:

‘Making use of your last years, maybe because when you are 70 years old, you can do impossible things beforehand’. H.N. Casson wrote this statement when he was 80 years old in ‘lecture s on industrial administration’ book. In this one, he had 400 advice helping people succeed in life. Even though, there is just one-day left, we have to live deservedly, no regretably with ourselves. For anyone who does not take use of ultimate years should remember that it is rather die young than live long helplessly.

If you want to live ultmate years meaningfully, what should we do? The author would like to introduce to readers some options and thoughts by himself. Seven necessary conditions for happy old age

1.     three necessary and sufficient conditions for correcting a mistake

2.     how to make your soul eternally?

3.     how to make your children become wise?

4.     three crucial things and one extremely terified thing

5.     planning tree for next generations

6.     how to be not shamed of being (a silly) an illeteracy person

7.     being hard-working and dedication

there are many other things which depend on your options

I. Seven necessary conditions for happy old age

II.    three necessary and sufficient conditions for corectting a mistake.

In life, it is no expection for anyone who has illness or make mistakes. It is dangerous if you do not take treatment or correct mistake. It has some similarities between taking treatment and correcting mistake. To completely move an acute illness, we need to have three conditions: recognizion, treatment, and taking medicine or coming under a lot of pain in surgeries of dissection or cutting body organs. If we lack of one of those, illness is unlikely to be removed. If we want to correct a mistake, it will be also the same three conditions. It is common that illness causes hurt, the more serious it is, the more painful it will be; unless there will be some signals for you to recognize. At that time, we will be afraid of paining and dying; we will come to hospital. It is undeniable that patient has to pay if they want to be cured.

Correcting mistakes are more difficult, because it is no warning signals. Commonly, person who did something wrong won’t suffer the consequences of it, but person who reveives the impacts will. A bossy and arbitrary father will make their wife and children hurtfully and painfully, but he, himself is happy. A stupid, misapproriate, imperious and corrupted leader will cause harmful for offices, companies, people; however, he feels delighted. He does not consider it wrong. Sometimes he knows it not right, but he still does because of his personal aims.

The first condition

Being capable of finding mistakes. Many misapproriated people always suppose that he is right without correcting it. With wise, nice, and good people, they always warn off mistakes because they are afraid of doing and talking wrong. Therefore, if they are wrong, they will rapidly find a way to recognize and fix it. For those bad, silly and unwise people, they hardly to find themselves wrong. If these mistakes are for their personal aims, they will try to cover it hiddenly. They are afraid of being revealed by other people and reap what they sow.

The second condition

Being able to correct mistakes, not turning this incorrect behavior to another.

The third condition can be capable of fixing mistakes. This condition is harder than the third one of treating an illness because they do not have analgestic. It depends mostly on will and determination of ‘patient’. An addicted person who want to detoxify drugs has to intensely suffer spiritual and physical hurts. Without will or determination of suffering pains, they cannot fix it right. A corrupted superior, an illegal trader will think that they can cover their immoral behaviors; even though, they are afraid of taking law punishment though. Even when they are standing in front of courts of judicature, they convince themselves firmly: ‘dedication their generation for their children future’.

Everyone knows: ‘a long acute mistake will cause serious consequence’. The most considerable mistake of old people is ultimate one which can destroy their entire career, even greatest leaders with fifty or sixty years of serving at war. For war heroes who have already safe, but listening to a knock on door in the middle of the night frighten their hearts; therefore, they are not happy in the litteral definition of it. With old people, we need to mention bad habits over mistaken behaviors. Proverb says: ‘old people have bad habits like land will generate meadow’. Bad habit does not cause death, but uncomfortable feelings for people around. When old or powerful people make huge mistakes, other people will blaim at their back. It is even harder for their friends to tell them the truth. There is no one who can see their stains, so there is no need to fix it.

Confucius wrote: ‘who blaim us rightly is brilliant; who compliment correctly is friend, but a-yes-man is an enemy’. Nowadays, a great number of people are doing or thinking incorrectly still love compliments; they do not want to hear the truth. Many people push their friends and partners toward enemy side. The mistake of superior’s guideline ‘no teachers, having few number of friends and having many enemies’ which can probably ignore to fix will cause serious problems for their family, children, grandchildren, offices, companies and themselves, or even a whole nation.

Consequentially, a mistaken person wants to correct it right has to have a courage mind, strong will, respected honour and right mind. They request their beloved people to point out their mistakes. When they know they are wrong, they determine to fix it, and at that time person who has strong will, kind-hearted mind will be willing to help them. From this point, they receive respects and loves of people; even when they are no longer existed. Unless it threatens society, country and themselves.

‘Humanity, i love you all, be warning’ J. Fuxich creamed out lout like that. We need to be on the alert with our mistakes and ourselves. The most esential standard of a wise man is self-improvement. In this process, we have to warn against our mistakes. If we did it wrong, we have to fix it right way.

III. Be an eternal soul

Human’s soul weighten thousands as much as body; it is heavy in a way that we cannot carry. Therefore, human being has to help each other when we still stay alive and make our soul eternal. You help my soul everlasting, and I will help other people. If it constantly happens like that, one’s death will not cause other people in a lonely feel ing inside.

Writers, jounerlist N. Dumbatzé is the creater of this priciple. He used this one into a book called ‘the priciple of everlasting’. This book rewared him a Lenin medal. Not only that, it widens his name worldwide, and it makes his name and soul eternal.

If we want an eternal soul, we have to make it everlasting every day. Telling yourself firmly: what I should do to profit other people by our existence. In the book called ‘Baggages for life’ contains many tips which help your soul eternally. If you find and practise these tips (Page 4), you know how to make use of your ultimate years. J. tillotson said: for anyone who does not care about perpetual life is wise in flash, but be silly for the rest of their life.

IV.  be a wise man to teach your children to be wise

If you want to do so, please read the title and conclusion, and think about the optimal sollutions for it. That is enough.

V. the six most valuable things and the one most frightening one

The third standard of a wise man has ‘approriate manners with other people’. A wise man knows what is love and appreciate beauty and integrity. Also, they respect who deserves to be respected, scorn what needs to be scorned and hate what is hatred.

What are the six most valuable things in life?

*    The most valuable thing is human live in general. For instance, a person who lacks of a hand, or an eye is dysfunction; they can spend a million dollars to buy and transplant that hand or eye into their body. Ironically, some people shorten their life via bad habits such as: using addicted drugs, drinking wine, getting drunk, driving so fast and playing with the Death. They cheapen their lives.

*    The second valuable thing is our brains. When we mention to ‘brain’, it has four factors: composition, nurture, training and usage.

Brain composition : if we wish to give our children the best brain composition, pregnant woman

-     needs to know what to do, eat or not eat. They design a professional food portion for pregnant woman and newborn baby

Brain nurture: please take a look again at required nutrition section and calculate how to do it

-     well (page 59)

-     Brain training: how to teach unborn baby to be a wide knowledge man, especially from 0 to 6 years’ old

-     Brain usage: please read again ‘thinking’ section page 32, ‘work choice knowledge’section page 29

The third valuable thing is time. Everything can be partly recover as time goes by. Particularly, time is irrecoverable, even just one second. Please read again ‘time respecting’ section in the fifth preparation

The fourth valuable one is health

The fifth valuable one is intelligence

The sixth valuable one is soul (how to make your soul eternal).

The most frightening thing in life is ‘do not know what is need to be known and misundertand

what is acknowledging, especially some important information.

VI. gadern plants) Planting for our own next generation

An indian proverb said: ‘who plants a tree before they pass away, they deserved to live a life’. If we plant a in one to two months period tree, we can reap a harvest a season. If we plant a two to three years’ period tree, we can reap a harvest in 5 to 10 years. If we plant a 15 to 20 years’ period tree, we can reap a harvest in 50 to 100 years. That is ‘knowledge tree’, you do not reap it in soil, but reap it in mind.

In this world- even though a great number of people who like charitable activities, they will never help a waiter- upon- providence person. If grandparents or parents plant a tree for their children to harvest, they will worship it the ancestors before they eat. They will never tear for anyone who is no legacy contributor. The most valuable legacy is an

oustanding child or grandchild, not a large amount of money. For example, Hoang Xuan Duong uncle- a confucian scholar who received highest diploma twice over in 1873. Even though he was over 40 years old, he had been trying to ‘nurture’ his 6-year-old daughter. In 1893, when he died, his grandchild was just three years old. 52 years passed, there was no one but his family members know his existence. In 1945, his grandchild read the Proclamation of Independence paper- generated the Democratic Republic of Vietnam. From that time, Vietnamese people knew what he- a wise man did 72 years ago.

Personally, i think you should choose few most intellegent grandchildren (apparently, as many as possible), you ‘reap’ knowledge into their minds and help them develop EQ and IQ. Not only that, you prepare for them well before they start their own future life and create good conditions for them to be great businessman, leaders. At the same time, you encourage them to dream incredibly, teach them how to have a will of iron and broaden their horizons like Ben Carson (page 98) and the ex-American president Bill clinton’s mother.

Before you die, your own next generations will be left of legacy of knowdge. Who knows, probably, 30 or 50 years later they will become a proud legacy of your family and even country. The whole society will ‘harvest’ and reward your ‘rare breed’. For example, J.S. Bach, his father was butcher, but Bach had been generating 50 musicians, many of them were really famous in the world.

VII. Be optimal workforce and God messenger

No matter how sad your destiny is, do not ever shed tears because your destiny is made by your own, not God, time and age, society or your parents. Therefore, you need to think carefully, figure out what you have to do, what you need to do and what you love to do; you should bring your best to work with a sense of responsibility. With your best possibilily, you need to completely finish what you have to do, complete half of what you need to do. What is left depend on God and society. At that time, you will know what God mission is for you. Be satisfied and optimal usage of which you have. Comparing your work with someone who is better than you, because it motivates you to become a better version of yourself. Also, comparing your achievement with someone worser than you, it helps you to be more satisfied of what you have done.

VIII. Phải biết đặt câu hỏi đúng

‘Raising approriate questions is more important than correcting a wrong answer’ (A. Toffler). In any circumstance, no matter what job or situation it is; if you raise (correct) appropriate questions, you are better to solve your problems. Right now, I would like to introduce some approriate questions I made from 1955 to the present time.

1.        At the end of 1954, from Dien Bien Phu to Capital, I asked: what necessary condi­tions for teenagers to succeed in life? After i found three approriate conditions, I practise and introduce it to my friends to do. From this question, i achieve first little success. Ac­cording to population investigation in March 1, 1960, in the rest of the north of Vietnam had 16 million people which had 15034 educated people. I would like to be one of them

depending on this success. My friends who have done these three priciples is over the oth­er. Many of them entered university, and some people became lecturers at university in the beginning of 60s in 20th century. There was only one person who did not listen to me, six months later he came and blame to me: ‘If only i listened to you, i could went abroad Russia to study; however, i did not, i had to be here’. At that time, Vietnamese people who studied at Russia is likely to be a full scholarship student in USA. At this present time, if you want to quickly succeed without many fails, be great successful and happy in life; you need to have six future baggages, not three. In addition, if you want to be more suc­cessful, you need to undestand and practise 6 addional factors (page 15-30).

            2. In 1968, i sent a message from war zone to communitive people. An apple failed, i asked myself a question: ‘how to define a person who is happy?’. After finding the an­swer for this question- a happy person needs to have five standards. I raised another ques­tion: ‘how to achieve these five standards?’. at this question, i found six standards to be a wise man, and that is the primary foundation of this book. Author has been working hard in 20 years for this content only

3. In 1988, I read ‘the art manners of old generations’ by Nguyen Duy Can. What sentence stood out for me the most is ‘a person who knows the whole world, but is bad at manners, by definition, is not a wise man’. A question sparkled in my mind: ‘what are the standard manners of human in this modern time?’. 6 years later, I found other seven ques­tions, and that is the foundation for seven contents of human manner in the new century. From 1994 to the last day of my life, i rewarded myself for widenning this manner. Most of religions in the world have superstition, or shape as bad superstition, even Buddhism or Buddhist Bibles. Many old Buddhist monks are addicted o their religion. Particularly, human manner in this new age and time is the religion of being alive and helps us live better. It is no superstition at all. I do not know how long this religion become the official one in the world.

4.In 1990, when an apple failed, I asked myself a question: ‘what is the difference between a wise and silly person?’ i opened and found first and second statement in quota­tion dictionary (page 4). The third difference is the most crucial one, it took 2 years over 2000 kilometers in four provinces at Dong Thap to find eight words out, mostly by bicycle and three-leaves-narrowboat. Reading these eight words is as easy as pie, but to find this one is a long hard journey with sweat and tears. Therefore, there is someone who said: ‘Mr. Giao wrote this book by blood, it makes sense right now.

5.in quotation dictionary, i figured out a statement of Secnưsepxki: ‘a true educated man has three qualities: a wide knowledge, thinking habit and lofty heart. Who has less knowldge is stupid, who is infrequent thinking is silly and who has no heart is inhuman’. Via three questions, I asked myself: ‘how to define person is silly?’ What a thoughtful mind focuses to think? Where does lofty heart put love at? Answers for these three ques­tions were taken from valuable materials for this book to came out.

Exceptionally, I have been asking other hundreds of questions which contribute for this book, and the author ound it in half of decade. Unless this book could not introduce. For example, what are the three first big deals in the beginning years and the rest of one person? What are good conditions for high school students? (four first conditions are be­coming seven ones after 40 years of carrying and supplementing research.

6. What to teach, how to teach, which ways, which methods, when to teach, who to teach, which materials, and so on to teach our children being wise.

IX. how to avoid the feeling of shame: illiterate turns into silly?

Magnanimity can except small-minded person to scold, but not let other magnanimity scorn. Magnanimity can let a blind board of examiner to flunk them, but not except a wide knowledge people do not know their names (Lam Nhu Duong). According to the author’s opinion wants to become a magnanimity, (as conception of Confucius) must have broad virtue of talent, understand and implement the seven contents of religion in the new era, and master (or understand the gist) the knowledge that people need to know. Here is my unforgettable story. One day, i came to high school Xuan Dinh III in Hanoi, and I met a lecturer who was leading a group of students on internship. I told him a few questions, I knew his son is also a university lecturer in just 3 minutes of conversation. I thought he was not so smart, since I did not speak to him anymore. Confucius says: "if you meet people who is not worthy to know, do not need to talk a word ". So why i told that this lecturer is stupid?

In the area of professional expertise of professor or Ph. D, they can be a master of many generations of doctors or masters. However, compare to other areas, they may not understand much, even nothing. A divine being sometimes make mistakes. Therefore, a wise man, they need to know how to listen, hear and stimulate other great educated man talk. When they do not understand something, they are not afraid of making it clearly. They are different with the lecturer mentioned before. Someone said: "Everyone is satisfied with their opinion, but no one satisfied with their situation." That is: whether how wrong their ideas are, they are self-satisfied with their knowledge. That is not the behavior of a wise man. A wise man knows clearly the Italian proverb: "Wisdom comes from listening," they know the art of listening, rehabilitation, mistaken escape; they are on alert of their mistakes, and ready to correct it right away whenever they recognize it. They are always willing to pay attention to contrary opinions, because "Truth is truth, but the reverse is not less equally truth" (Macket)

Everyone knows: when we do not understand something, that is our ignorance about it. The human knowledge has been discovered so far is extremely diversity. I can not learn billions things of knowledge, but the knowledge people need to know, at least we have to grasp at minimum. Here I want to mention a very important kind of knowledge, it is necessary for each student in general; that is soft skills. This knowledge needs to be taught in high schools and universities as many countries have done which is to help young people avoid serious gaps in knowledge before entering future life. If the school

does not teach them, parents and grandparents need to look for a place (to) for children to learn it.

Above all the knowledge of soft skills is seven types of knowledge people need to know first which mentioned in Annex I. Especially: foundation, designs and construction methods of building (happy) the castle of happiness need to be taught for the younger generation since they came to (his) their life, so that they organize along their journey of life. Three types of knowledge have been clearly and fully presented in this book

X. Advice for descendants

Giving descendant a piece of advice

More than giving a stack of money

Crouching real ice coating

Warehouses full of food that is well off.

Only one knows

Variable precious advice turns into silver and gold.

Surely gold warehouse is timeless

Macarencô said: Our children are our old age. If we educate them properly, it is our happily old age. If we bring them up incorrectly, it is the grief of our future. "Literally accurate in content, methodology and timing is that properly educate and exactly what they need

If we get the best egg in the world (one year a hen (borns) gives birth 340 chicken eggs, even two eggs per day sometimes). After brooding young chicken eggs, if we do not foster it in exact science, that chicken will be disability and helpless to fix it. If we get the best seed of coconut tree in the world (containing enough14 standards) planted in the best soil

in the world, but in the first 3 years, we do not take care rightly, as well as chicken, it will (be very acute disabilities) take some deficiencies that can be cured. As humans in first 6-7 years of life (15 months in the womb within 6 months for mother to prepare before pregnancy and 5-6 years’ life), unless they are properly brought